That just sound like complete and utter bull. Actually, a lot of it
is complete and utter bull.
Quote from: BearGuy on March 25, 2013, 01:11:36 AM
I'm in shock right now and just...I don't know what to think.
My parents' friend came to live with us for a week for vacation, who is a surgeon, urologist, and naturopath. He's a well-known doctor. Tonight he wanted to talk to me about my shots that I am taking; he is very open-minded and treats me like a man and everything. He started telling me everything on a very medical and scientific level, about hormones and receptors and stuff like that...female and male metabolisms and how they are different, etc. I'll try to summarize...
Are your parents supporting? The cynical part of me is thinking that if they're not this might be some sort of ploy to get you to stop transitioning. Or they might genuinely believe him and are concerned for you. But whatever, I wouldn't trust him just because he's a "well-known doctor", well known doctors used to believe that leeches were the cure for everything because it was all causes by bad blood, but this obviously isn't the case. Just because someone's well known it doesn't mean that they're right, or that they're not letting their prejudices rule their head.
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Every transsexual that begins the process of transition has a SIGNIFICANTLY shorter life. Because of hormones, death happens 30-40 years earlier. You cannot fight biology. Right now, while you are still young, your body's cells are able to fight the testosterone and live with it at the same time. Sooner or later, they will stop, and degenerative diseases begin.
Did he offer any sort of medical evidence backing this up? Because it's just his word against every other doctor who prescribes HRT that doesn't have any qualms about prescribing people T because they're going to drop down dead, writhing in agony, in a relatively short space of time. I'm not sure I buy into this whole "body's cells can fight T" thing either, T is a natural thing to have in your body, even for a cis woman, so it doesn't make sense for your body to fight it at all. Maybe if he was talking pills and your liver's ability to cope then I would believe it, but as for what he's saying then no, I don't believe a word of it. I've never heard of a degenerative disease caused by T, in either cis or trans people. Or one caused by E for that matter, it seems to be more of a
lack of sex hormones that make problems.
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You CANNOT run from it. There is 100% chance that something will develop; taking blood tests every 3 months does not mean a thing. When a test actually shows something abnormal, then it is too late.
So doctors are just signing their patients up for a death contract then? Some how I don't think that's going to happen without someone investigating, even if they are all only doing it to shut the tr*nnies up or something. People love to rumour monger, and this sort of thing would have got around before now if it was fact. And while blood tests might not catch everything, because they don't always test for everything, if you go in to get your T levels tested they're not going to be looking to pick up arthritis, or whether you've been smoking certain herbal products. We can't reduce every risk, because there is one, we're messing with our bodies natural chemistry, but we can reduce it a lot through these blood tests and making sure that our levels stay in the range for a human body. Unless the problem is coming from what the T is suspended in -- which I doubt because there are a few different oils that are used, plus creams and gels, so they can't all be killers -- he's saying that our bodies hate sex hormones. Clearly they don't.
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Right now, because you are 4 months on T, you CAN force yourself to change your mind. Yes, you may feel horrible and develop depression forcing yourself to be a girl/woman even though your image is entirely different, but trust me, it will be MUCH, MUCH easier to live with than dealing with physical illnesses in the future.
Really?
Really?? Depression is
not something that is easy to live with. You can't just brush it off like that. No way. I don't care if you're quoting what this blokes said, it's pretty insensitive to just say that as if it's nothing, especially when a fair proportion of your audience has suffered with it at some degree in their lives. And as pretty much everyone else has said, it would be much easier to live for a short while as male than as female, or vice versa for the ladies. Part of the only reason I'm still going is because I know that in the future I will be on hormones. Take that away from me and I won't be able to see a future image of myself, so what good does it do to know that I'll have a better chance of being alive then? It's just setting myself up for a longer incarceration in this body.
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You will save tragedies from happening, for yourself and for the people that love you. You will become sterile, and while you are 18, it doesn't sound that bad; but in 20-30 years, you will be ripping your hair off of your head screaming in agony because what is done is done. It's irreversible. Do not go against biology, because if you take the decision to, you are signing a contract with inevitable disease, pain, and a terrible death. While you are young, everything is okay. Your body is strong, no significant changes have occurred, and everything seems to be filled with positivity.
Same as above really. Although I would like to know what this "inevitable disease, pain and a terrible death" is. Bubonic plague, perhaps? Because there are tons of degenerative diseases, which to be honest, we're likely to get anyway because the human body isn't really designed to live as long as they do these days with modern medicine. Only recently has the life expectancy leapt up, and we've just not evolved quick enough to keep up. The number of people I hear about with Alzheimer's, Dementia, Osteoporosis or having hip replacements is crazy, and it's just going to keep increasing, because people keep living longer, and keep needing care because they're bodies are slowly falling apart. Unless some trauma happens, or we catch some nasty disease, the majority of us will probably end up dying like this, with or without HRT, and I dunno about you, but I'd rather enjoy my life instead of trying to prolong the inevitable in misery.
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You have to understand you won't be able to have a family; you won't be able to satisfy sexually a woman, you won't be able to have children (and that is what women want the most), and of course, inevitable degenerative diseases that are irreversible. I want all the best for you, and I firmly respect your decision and I believe how hard it is, but you can change your mind while it's not too late. It's harming your own body and setting yourself up for the worst that can possibly be.
I can have a family. Just because they won't be biologically mine doesn't matter. Biology is not a pre-requisite for love, and nor does it make love certain. And seriously, go ask my girlfriend, because I can sexually satisfy her. He sounds like a homophobic prick who thinks that women need a penis in their life to be happy by this remark actually, not an open minded person. It's all bull, and it's all being spouted by someone who claims to care. Just don't listen to his rubbish, and report him to the equivilent of the GMC in your country if he's saying this stuff to other people as well.
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With his level of knowledge, I don't know what to think right now. For the first time in my life, I feel the happiest I ever did. I feel the freest. I feel endless possibilities, I feel like I can live my life how it was meant to be lived. I cannot go against my decision now. I cannot imagine ever going back to what I had to deal with before. I just changed my name legally, and beginning to make friends, go to college as a man, do everything I ever wanted to do. I'm living THE life I wanted. So now it's go against all of that to save 30-40 years of my life.
Think, "He's a tosser, I'm going to go out and enjoy myself as the man I am and forget about all of his bull. And if I'm still worried by the next time I see my therapist/doctor/whatever, I'll see if they've ever heard anything so ridiculous as this."