When I transition in August and start uni living full time as male, my parents raised a valid question that I didn't know how to answer. They said if people ask how their kids are and say 'you have a son and daughter don't you?' They wouldn't know how to respond. They didn't know whether to say well no I have 2 sons now as ____ is now called _____. Of course I'd want them to refer to me as their son, but I understand how it would be difficult for them to answer. How did your parents deal with this?

my dad is upsettingly open with the information sometimes.  i wish he would just make them think they were crazy and deny any claim that he had a son.  (he does it sometimes, but i feel like you could make a pretty ironclad policy out of that.  and cause people to doubt their memories.)

My dad and aunts all are good about saying she. Other members of the family not so much. It does cause problems

Quote from: transtrender on April 03, 2013, 08:37:21 PM
my dad is upsettingly open with the information sometimes.  i wish he would just make them think they were crazy and deny any claim that he had a son.  (he does it sometimes, but i feel like you could make a pretty ironclad policy out of that.  and cause people to doubt their memories.)

I've asked everyone in my family to do this and really stick to it once I go FT. The bad thing is, my family is notorious for being only women... And I was the one who was always talked about. I'm hoping people will think they just heard the wrong thing before, but it doesn't seem likely. Pretty soon they'll have just as much experience talking about it as I do.

I have a transgender son ....and it all depends on who asked the question.  If it is someone who we come in contact frequently with we refer to him as a our son ... if it someone we really could care less about we don't correct them. 

Both my wife and I made an announcement on facebook about having a son and he being transgender and that we support him and if they can't be supportive of us then feel free to defriend us.  We both received overwhelming support and encouragement from our post.

So, we find folks typically say daughter and when we say son and daughter - they apologize b/c they forgot.  The folks that have known my son since he was a toddler have a harder time switching to Matt and male pronouns - not b/c they are not supportive just habit.

I wish I'd know how my relatives refer to me in conversations. It's a sore fact that Mom still has difficulties with my name and she tries to go around it with nicknames and such. It's better than my old name but I still don't like it because I do have a real name and I'd like it to be used.

I have no idea how my aunt speaks of me. She's also my godmother and sometimes refers to me from that basis (which is kinda funny since I have resigned from church a long time ago, lol). I think name's still an issue for her, too.

My grandmother (the one and only because I don't know my father's family at all) knows something about my transition but she doesn't know my name has changed or anything. She still calls me by my old name and most likely talks about me as her granddaughter.
We have been thinking with my Mom and aunt how to tell her because she most likely won't understand everything but for sure she's not gonna denounce me or anything. She'll most likely just go over things on her own, shaking her head and so on. There's no way she's gonna pull out some religious card on my face but I wouldn't be surprised if she asked me if it was really necessary for me to do this. Yes it was, it's my life.

I suppose I'm kinda lucky since Finnish doesn't have gender-specific pronouns, the third person pronoun is completely gender-neutral. But I'm not anyone's daughter, god-daughter or granddaughter.
I think I'll jump up from sheer joy when I hear Mom calling me her son for the first.