Yeah, bro... embrace the food. I know I'd rather be fat than dead (and I guess I am... oh well). Things can only get better, right? Keep the faith, man.

D

Sounds like you're going through a really tough time, I'm so sorry to hear you're suffering.
We're all thinking of you.

MVER XXX

thanx all im feeling somewhat better .
im just sick   of waiting but ill be ok .
i think

jaded

...this really sucks.

Can you contact some kind of transgender support group to send a few people to sit with you after the surgery? Got to be some kind of support for this exact situation. Not everyone has people to sit with them...people must have other kinds of surgery but not have family able to be with them. You can't be the only person on the planet who has solved this problem already.

Chunk

dunno but it makes me very sad that i dont hav any1 that would come with me.

Quote from: chunk on June 24, 2007, 02:21:23 AM
Can you contact some kind of transgender support group to send a few people to sit with you after the surgery?

I think the trouble is the travel. Members of local groups might not be able to get the time off work or have the money to travel.

It would be good if trans support groups in towns where the clinics that do GID-related surgeries are would create allied groups that do this sort of thing -- sit with the surgical patients afterwards, and perhaps put them up in spare bedrooms for a few days. I've heard of groups and individuals who provide temporary room and board for trans-youth who've run away from hateful parents, but not this sort of post surgical stuff. Obviously there's a need for it. And I am sure Jaded is not alone in not having the necessary support for that first little while after surgery.

Quote from: Doc on June 24, 2007, 02:19:31 PM

Quote from: chunk on June 24, 2007, 02:21:23 AM
Can you contact some kind of transgender support group to send a few people to sit with you after the surgery?

I think the trouble is the travel. Members of local groups might not be able to get the time off work or have the money to travel.

It would be good if trans support groups in towns where the clinics that do GID-related surgeries are would create allied groups that do this sort of thing -- sit with the surgical patients afterwards, and perhaps put them up in spare bedrooms for a few days. I've heard of groups and individuals who provide temporary room and board for trans-youth who've run away from hateful parents, but not this sort of post surgical stuff. Obviously there's a need for it. And I am sure Jaded is not alone in not having the necessary support for that first little while after surgery.

   I'm with Doc on this one. It makes sense that there would be groups available in the areas of these clinics that could provide simple services like being with someone at such an important time.


Hi Jaded,

   I'm sorry to hear that this happened. Normally I would say to not hold it against your mother and sister, but this time I would advocate using any anger and frustration in order to shore up your resolve to carry on.
   I wish I could go with you, but I live with a wolverine who would rip my face off.     

Love,

Rebecca

Quote from: RebeccaFog on June 24, 2007, 02:35:28 PM
I'm with Doc on this one. It makes sense that there would be groups available in the areas of these clinics that could provide simple services like being with someone at such an important time.

It sure makes sense, but I don't think there actually are any groups like that. I've only ever heard of one thing (a large shared house known as 'Trans Hotel') that's like that at all, and I think it's closed down.

If anybody reading does live near a clinic that does GR surgeries, I hope s/he'll go to trans support groups and try to organize a sub-group to do this. It wouldn't take much, really, just enough people to cover every 'shift' of staying with the newly post-op person. You wouldn't really even need to do any major screening of clients, 'cause you could meet them first at the doctor's office and take them home only after the surgery is done. Nobody is likely to jump up off the bed after surgery and hurt you, or have surgery just to get an opportunity to abuse trans or trans-friendly folks. If the clinic was the place where all the details about contacting you were given out, and the clinic staff only gave them when a person was accepted as a good surgical candidate and was trying to schedule, it'd be a very safe project.