I've been using the female toilets for years. Never an issue. I'm a woman, why would I use the male toilet?

Tell it like it is, Cindy! ^_^

  I imagine that using a male or female restroom is a legal issue?  But do whatever is safest for you...

I don't think I pass well (though if you don't look at my face or my walk, you'll be fooled momentarily).

But I plan to live the rest of my life as a woman, so I will use the women's restroom. First time I did it, I was nervous, but no one has given me a hard time. I go in, I sit down, I do what I need to do, I go to the sink and wash up and I'm out. It really is no big deal.

If someone reads me as Trans, well it's about time that people accept that trans people urinate too, and we need a gender appropriate place to do it.

I started memorizing unisex restrooms as soon as I went out presenting female. I pretty much gave up and went with the women's room when men were walking in, looking at me, and walking back out to check the sign on the door. But I'm lucky enough that my state let me change my driver's license with just a doctor's letter (no surgery or hormones required, although I was on HRT by that point) and has legal transgender protections including the implied right to the correct bathroom.

I avoid restrooms completely, even though I'm confident enough with myself to go in.  I guess I knew it was time to stop being uncomfortable when my cis girl friends asked me to go to the ladies room with them even when they know I'm trans. I doubt a cis girl would ever invite a trans girl into the restroom unless they know you're not going to get stares. Well, unless they hate you. Girls have a way of showing they hate you and that's definitely a girl "I hate you".

Or if you get lucky enough to ask where the bathrooms are and somebody takes you to them, they'll probably point out which one they think you should use.

When they kick you out of the men's room.

Quote from: JennX on May 21, 2013, 11:43:22 AM
When they kick you out of the men's room.

This is also very true. Alot if the comments on being directed to one or the other or kicked out I have to day I agree with. Bathrooms can be scary when your unsure

I would say when you go full time, or when it gets to the point where people are like miss the bathroom is over there. When people expect you to go to the bathroom other than your bio gender then use that one.

This is a good thing. It mean that you pass. Otherwise you are going full time I feel it is your right then.

I try to avoid the public bathrooms as much as I can at the moment. I hate the stares (self conscious like that). I know it doesn't mean anything and only lasts what, 5 seconds? 20 if they start when you walk in. 

When I started being told I had the wrong place. I do get weird looks in the women's bathroom, but I permanently switched once I knew the amount of discomfort for the others was higher in the men's than the women's bathroom. Though at school I play it safe, since younger people don't see people as female nearly as easily as older people. So I use gender-neutral bathrooms. (If I'm in the other building, that is the handicapped people's room.)

I avoided restrooms for about 3 months in my in-between stage....even though I tried to stay on the male side best I could...I would call your in between stage a bit more directed towards the female gender. When I was in my in between stage it was only because my hair was long and hair was missing in other places...I was on the thinner side but no figure what to speak of...mostly because of what I wore. I wore androgynous style clothing directed more so on the younger male style. Even dressed like this I would be misgendered and receive weird looks in the men's room. This is why I stopped using public restrooms. ...I didn't want and couldn't make myself look more male. The alternative was to look more female but I wasn't ready to go full time.

It was a big step to start using the women's room and took a couple of weeks to accept the fact this is where I go now. My first time was when I went out to eat with my children and I really!! had to go....the waitress kept referring to me as miss or my children's mom....when it came time to go I just went to the women's room...it was a big relief to say the least (pun intended)  I haven't looked back since!

You say you are wearing fairly feminine clothing, carry a purse (pocket bag??) and have fairly visible breasts. I suggest you either use the women's room or dress less feminine, bur even then that is not a guarantee...you may just have to do what I did for awhile.

The old saying goes....if you look like a duck, walk like a duck and act like a duck....you must be a duck!!

I transitioned full time and haven't walked into a male bathroom since.  Before transition, I only went female when presenting female, otherwise I would stick to male. But yeah at the final stages before living full time I got some weird looks in the men's room.