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Is it common to worry about passing prior to hrt and laser hair removal?

Started by Ltl89, May 27, 2013, 09:08:29 PM

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Ltl89

Quote from: misschievous on May 28, 2013, 04:31:23 PM
LTL, I have alot of the same fears and worries as you. I am in the same boat too. I can't start Therapy until June ,because that is when I should be getting insurance. So then I am hoping to be on HRT by end of July. Perhaps You and I can watch out for each other and work together on these issues. Since we should be going through them at same time. :) HRT buddies

Aww, sure we can be HRT buddies :) 

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 28, 2013, 03:05:42 PM
Uh, oh yeah I was worried lol. Have you seen my before pictures? They were pretty masculine. BTW, I started after 25 so... yeah.

Alaina,

I haven't seen your before pictures yet, but I do think your very inspirational.  When I look at you avatar, I can't help but feel envious (I mean this in a good way).   I can't imagine a time where you didn't pass :)

I'm sure I'm just letting fear get to me and things will be okay in the end.  I just want it all to happen overnight.
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Alainaluvsu

Go to my YouTube channel. Theres a video up to my 1 year mark. I couldn't pass as a girl no matter how hard I tried before hormones and I didn't really pass well before laser, either.
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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Ltl89

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 28, 2013, 07:02:57 PM
Go to my YouTube channel. Theres a video up to my 1 year mark. I couldn't pass as a girl no matter how hard I tried before hormones and I didn't really pass well before laser, either.

Wow, I watched the video.  That is really an amazing transition!  Honestly, you look great.  Really, thank you so much for sharing that. It was very inspirational. That really made me feel a lot better and put a big smile on me.  Even though I have panicking, I know I'm not really in a bad spot.  I just want to wake up looking like Natalie Portman, but that will take some time,lol.
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Alainaluvsu

:)

It's really just starting to shape now for me in being attractive to lots of men. Like just over the past month or so I've had more men hit on me and give me those eyes than almost all of my life put together. It takes time.
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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Sadie

I never even tried before laser and hrt.  I started laser a year before I started hrt.
Sadie
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Ltl89

Quote from: Sadie on May 29, 2013, 10:13:36 AM
I never even tried before laser and hrt.  I started laser a year before I started hrt.

Yeah, I hear you.  Those aspects make things easier.  But I just hate having to continue living in boy mode for too much longer.  It really pains me everyday.  So, I don't know.  I'll be starting laser fairly soon and hormones sometime in June (july at the latest) so hopefully I'll get somewhere quickly.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 29, 2013, 01:16:23 AM
:)

It's really just starting to shape now for me in being attractive to lots of men. Like just over the past month or so I've had more men hit on me and give me those eyes than almost all of my life put together. It takes time.

I know it takes time.  I'm just impatient.  How I can't wait for guys to be into me,lol.  I mean I have had attention from guys before, but it is fairly different from the attention girls get. 
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Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 28, 2013, 07:02:57 PM
Go to my YouTube channel. Theres a video up to my 1 year mark. I couldn't pass as a girl no matter how hard I tried before hormones and I didn't really pass well before laser, either.

Wow what a change!  I wouldnt even be able to know you were the same person from your pictures in your youtube video to your avatar.  Good for you :)
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Alainaluvsu

I'd like to add I've still been changing 10 months after I posted that video. Now it's hard for me to go anywhere without men taking an interest in me or at least calling me some pet name like sweetie, and that just started happening to that extent in the past month or so. I get a LOT  of "I bet men hit on you all the time" now. And I live in a city where trans presence is high, so people are used to coming across them (thus being better able to clock them).

But yeah, I worried if I would ever pass. I even reasoned with myself if I couldn't pass by the time I was 45, I might as well be dead.
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Ltl89

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 29, 2013, 09:04:34 PM
I'd like to add I've still been changing 10 months after I posted that video. Now it's hard for me to go anywhere without men taking an interest in me or at least calling me some pet name like sweetie, and that just started happening to that extent in the past month or so. I get a LOT  of "I bet men hit on you all the time" now.

Now that's just bragging  ;)
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Alainaluvsu

Quote from: learningtolive on May 29, 2013, 10:03:53 PM
Now that's just bragging  ;)

Feels good to be proud :)

But don't worry. It's absolutely possible to pass with HRT if you could never pass before (considering a few things like an overly prominent brow ridge or knobbly chin aren't present).
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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Ltl89

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on May 29, 2013, 10:21:17 PM
Feels good to be proud :)

But don't worry. It's absolutely possible to pass with HRT if you could never pass before (considering a few things like an overly prominent brow ridge or knobbly chin aren't present).

Well, I've been told I have feminine facial features and girls have always been jealous of my eyes,lol.   But I get afraid sometimes.  I guess it won't matter for long because I'll be on hrt pretty soon.  I can't wait!
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Alainaluvsu

You'll be fine I'm sure. Eyes and cheekbones are a big plus if they're already feminine.
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amber4400

Hi Alaina, I saw your before pictures and the change is pretty startling...  Do you have a link for your youtube channel too?  I don't have enough posts yet to view profiles

And to stay on topic, I am SOOOO terrified that I won't be able to pass too, so I think the feeling is pretty normal..
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Jennygirl

Alaina I saw your video 6/7 months ago and I remember it being one of the main ones I watched over and over. It gave me the confidence I needed to start my own transition. I never got a chance to say thank you, but now seems like an appropriate time.

THANK YOU for your amazingly inspirational video! It helped me so much! I think one of the greatest parts about it is how beautiful you become without FFS. And even comparing the final result of the video to how you look now I definitely do see a huge change, too. You're an inspiration!
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Ltl89

Quote from: Jennygirl on May 30, 2013, 02:44:26 PM
Alaina I saw your video 6/7 months ago and I remember it being one of the main ones I watched over and over. It gave me the confidence I needed to start my own transition. I never got a chance to say thank you, but now seems like an appropriate time.

THANK YOU for your amazingly inspirational video! It helped me so much! I think one of the greatest parts about it is how beautiful you become without FFS. And even comparing the final result of the video to how you look now I definitely do see a huge change, too. You're an inspiration!

While we are on the subject of thanking people for their inspiration, I would like to thank you for posting your video as well.  It really has given me a lot of strength and confidence in my transition.  I'm hoping my transition goes as smoothly as both yours and Alaina's.

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Ltl89

Quick Update: 

Someone isn't going to be pre HRT for much longer.  I have my first Endo appointment on Monday and my therapist is approving of my decision.  It was scary to make the call and admit to a stranger over the phone I was trans, but it wasn't a big deal overall.  It looks like it will all be happening in June.  This is so exciting!
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Theo

Quote from: learningtolive on May 30, 2013, 03:29:52 PM
Quick Update: 

Someone isn't going to be pre HRT for much longer.  I have my first Endo appointment on Monday and my therapist is approving of my decision.  It was scary to make the call and admit to a stranger over the phone I was trans, but it wasn't a big deal overall.  It looks like it will all be happening in June.  This is so exciting!

Yay! Brilliant, congratulations! :)

Get ready for a great time, albeit one that takes a little while to really get into gear, but patience is rewarded.
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Kayla

Quote from: Jennygirl on May 30, 2013, 02:44:26 PM
Alaina I saw your video 6/7 months ago and I remember it being one of the main ones I watched over and over. It gave me the confidence I needed to start my own transition. I never got a chance to say thank you, but now seems like an appropriate time.

THANK YOU for your amazingly inspirational video! It helped me so much! I think one of the greatest parts about it is how beautiful you become without FFS. And even comparing the final result of the video to how you look now I definitely do see a huge change, too. You're an inspiration!

I didn't see it before transitioning, but I saw it a while back. It was a very well done video and you're gorgeous. Another video I saw was Raidersgirl, or something, I can't remember screen names >.> However, I know she's a member as well. That video was also well done and she too looks great.

As per the OP, yeah, I think everyone worries about passing. Someone said earlier it means an easier transition, but it's also beauty culture. All women are judged on their appearance and transwomen have to learn to navigate this beauty culture very fast while starting out behind other girls thanks to male puberty. I'd be lying if I said I didn't worry about passing before coming out. I mean, the main reason I wanted to "pass" is because I'm a girl and I wanted the full girl experience. I wanted guys to flirt with me, to check me out, to buy me drinks at the club, and for girls to just accept me as one of them no questions asked. I wanted to get to a point in my life where I could just go stealth about it, assimilate among women, and keep my old life to myself no one else being the wiser. Some women don't like the term passing, but I know exactly what you mean. Some of us are just more vain than others  ;) :D

The good thing though is that you're still relatively young. Hormones do have a better effect the younger you start them, especially on the face (speaking from conjecture). Pre-HRT I had a rather prominent brow and masculine jaw, and two years later they're gone. No FFS. Moral of the story, you won't pass day one on hormones, very few of us do. Just give them time and they'll give you more feminine features. I noticed my facial changes around month 7-8, so be patient. However, don't get your hopes up on boobs just because you started young. I started HRT at 22 and two years later have only an A to show for it. It largely comes down to family gentics, darn genes :(. So, expect nothing in terms of boob growth and everything you get is just that much more awesome.

And congratulations/good luck on starting HRT soon :) Keep us up to date.
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