As transfolk, we all have things we don't like about ourselves that is caused by being trans (no one get offended, that's just how I feel). So what's your main issue? What's the thing you find the hardest to deal with?
Mine is not being able to impregnate a woman. It hurts me more than anything.

I'm sure that there will be a long of list of things that will be up there as issues for me, which will ultimately will be not being able to give birth, but right now it's the fact that I feel like I'm wearing an ugly costume most of the time.

Mine is the price for everything from what I have seen....

Electrolysis 10k
FFS       10-20k depending on what needs done
Yeson   10k     including plane hotel ect
HRT      2k       one person on a different website said she was paying $50 a month and i figured at 3 years
SRS      10-20k depending on who you go too 
If we go with cheapest case scenario that's $72,000 that most insurances wouldn't cover
I can barely keep a roof over my head now I hate to see what it will be like when I get into all of this

I have many; the main one right now is not being able to stand to pee.  I know about STP's and use one sometimes but not the same as a attached penis.  Hopefully one day I can have phalloplasty and have a useable penis.

Quote from: misschievous on June 04, 2013, 03:35:40 PM
Mine is the price for everything from what I have seen....

Electrolysis 10k
FFS       10-20k depending on what needs done
Yeson   10k     including plane hotel ect
HRT      2k       one person on a different website said she was paying $50 a month and i figured at 3 years
SRS      10-20k depending on who you go too 
If we go with cheapest case scenario that's $72,000 that most insurances wouldn't cover
I can barely keep a roof over my head now I hate to see what it will be like when I get into all of this

God, this, though I'm not really looking into FFS or SRS right now. Eventually I'll want SRS, but I think I can live without FFS. Right now, out of that bucket, the big thing for me is getting rid of my hair. I'm hoping to set up a consultation with an electro place around here to see what the pricing will be. I know it's a lot of money, but it's not all up front, which means that I might be able to budget out for it. I hope so. Then at least I can feel like I'm doing something.

Quote from: Shodan on June 04, 2013, 04:10:27 PM
God, this, though I'm not really looking into FFS or SRS right now. Eventually I'll want SRS, but I think I can live without FFS. Right now, out of that bucket, the big thing for me is getting rid of my hair. I'm hoping to set up a consultation with an electro place around here to see what the pricing will be. I know it's a lot of money, but it's not all up front, which means that I might be able to budget out for it. I hope so. Then at least I can feel like I'm doing something.

I am at a stand still right now, I should be getting more hours at my job soon so part of that extra money will be going to HRT and Electrolysis. As far as Yeson voice, FFS, and SRS I will eventually get to that point. I am sure of it.

I have to get FFS well at least Rhynoplasty because my nose has been broke and is bent. It causes Sinus Problems. With that being said I hope Insurance will cover it.

The most obvious issue at the moment are my furry arms and legs and my light beard stubble.

The stress of acceptance for my family and friends.

I just can't feel normal, always feel like there'll will always be something that if I tell people, they'll think of me as something other than a woman and if I don't tell, then I'm not being honest in any friendship with them. And I definitely won't enter into dating or any sort of relationship like that.

Right now the transy-issue that I think about the most is "sex" as in "how to have it?"

But my real honest Main Issue Thing is my current fruitless job-hunting efforts and my fear that I'll never have a Real Career. Fun times.

For me, it's not being involved in female/female friendships with other women.

Mine has been something of a moving target. at first I would have told you it was not being able to get pregnant ever, I really would have been a surrogate if I had been cis gender.

However after all of these years I have reached the conclusion that what I really feel worst about is the hate we get from society 
No one knows I am trans but If I hear people talk about it or I her references about it, it is always as "freaks", ""IT", "something should be done about them" nothing but hate towards us, everything I see in the media, or online points to us being good for nothing but porn or crime. we are seen as completely worthless and I hate it!

I never hear anything from people I know about trans folks cause they either don't know or know and are totally cool. I suppose I'm lucky enough to live in an open minded area.

I'm really going to second that it's that realization that you will never truly be normal.

Like, as a guy I wasn't normal at all, and I was miserable with myself, and hated my very reflection.

But as a girl, I'm constantly going to have to put up with stares, and I'll never truly have a completely female body, and never being able to reproduce, and I can never have my childhood back, and dating is pretty much a pipe dream right now, and a million other things.

It's enough to make you downright depressed if you really think about it, and I really do get hung up on it on an awful lot of days, just wishing that I could be a normal person without having to deal with all of this crap just in order to be happy with myself.

For me, the hardest thing to deal with is to not have a penis and all of the lovely functions it provides, ranging from penetrating a woman,fun times with myself, standing to pee, getting awkward erections at the wrong times (yes I would love to have those), having the ability to ejaculate, etc.


I hate it so much.  I've even nicknamed myself "stumpy" because of my lack of penis. 

I guess I'm fortunate that I don't want children. Even before knowing I wanted to transition, I knew I wanted to have a vasectomy, so honestly I see not having to worry about having kids as a bonus. Pregnancy sounds like a nightmare to me, and so do periods. Still, I have sympathy for those of you that are caused pain by this. I don't hate kids or anything, I used to, but that was before I met my wonderful nieces.

Most of my concerns sound so vain in comparison. My ideal body image is a petite athletic gymnast's body, but unless they find a way to shave a foot off my height and restructure my frame, that won't happen ever. I hate my body and facial hair, I want it to go away and to just be forever smooth, but I can't afford laser/electro yet.

My biggest regret is that with all the time involved in transition, and already being 27, I'll never get to experience being a teen girl or young adult woman. But that's the path my life took, and I can't change it now no matter how hard I wish. I'm just happy I've begun to understand myself, finally.

I suppose my biggest concern going forward isn't really vain at all though, it's about losing my family and friends. I haven't told anyone close to me yet, and I'm afraid. Either I'm going to be met with "Yeah, duh," or "WTF ARE YOU THINKING?!" Well, more likely a middle ground, with polite discomfort and attempts at acceptance, but I fear seeing my life crumble around me.

Fear of rejection is my biggest issue.

Besides that.....

Quote from: misschievous on June 04, 2013, 03:35:40 PM

Electrolysis 10k
FFS       10-20k depending on what needs done
Yeson   10k     including plane hotel ect
HRT      2k       one person on a different website said she was paying $50 a month and i figured at 3 years
SRS      10-20k depending on who you go too 
If we go with cheapest case scenario that's $72,000 that most insurances wouldn't cover
I can barely keep a roof over my head now I hate to see what it will be like when I get into all of this

Though in my case there are some differences.  I will be getting laser done instead of electrolysis.  Also, I will probably not get FFS depending on how I look a year after hrt.  Maybe I will do something about my voice as it is terrible and saddens me, but I want to give practice a fair shot before making that judgement.  Well, that and I'm terrified of operating on my vocal chords.  Srs doesn't even scare me.  I've had a surgery down there before, I can easily handle another one. 

Missing out on my teen years as a girl... That will always be my biggest regret but I can't really move back only forwards.

I guess having to deal with the everyday living at the moment is the worst thing, going out dressed partly in woman's clothing, seeing people looking at me saying "Is that a girl or boy?" Even though I've never had anyone actually come up and ask me for months - last time it was this wee girl... yeah it was getting that obvious with me, even when I was still in guy mode! - but it always makes me feel awkward because I look like I don't fit in on either side... very much stuck in the middle right now in terms of looks. But on the inside I know I'm a girl, its the only thing that makes me happy and get through the day atm.

Currently looking at Youtube for make up tutorials etc. bought a load of products from Ebay stores but everytime I do my make up I still look like a man - experimenting with the lipstick trick and various foundations. It's getting easier and above my moustache area I look pretty but below the beard area it's still a mess...! I really want to be perfect at it but everythings sliding off and looking greasy atm...

Once my hair grows out more, I'm able to wear more styles of clothing and feel comfortable in myself around others I know it'll be fantastic - it all takes time I guess.

A complete and utter disassociation with anything below my neck. This started around the age of 9 years when my body decided to betray me by developing the wrong secondary sexual characteristics.

Ever since then I've not been able to look in a mirror without feeling heartbroken. Nor can I look at myself when I wash; I tend to stare straight ahead whilst washing because I can't bear to look down.

In a way, I feel like Rapunzel: I'm stuck in the highest room of the tower, and everything below my room is an inaccessible structure that stands between me and my freedom.

Oh, and because of said body issues, I'm unable to find a new life partner at the moment because no gay man worth his salt would be interested in what I currently have to offer.

Society's lack of acceptance.