My gf told me the other day she wants to transition from female to male. I'm okay with it and I support her with everything she wants to do. I love her for the way she is not because of w.e gender she may be . I just want advice and want to know about the experiences you guys went trough. She wants to start taking T and someday wants to do top surgery. She just doesn't know how to get into all that . Also needs advice on how to tell her parents and family . She came out when she was 12 as lesbian and her mom accepts her but she still sometimes says mean things about her liking girls . I know her telling her mom she's transgender will be harder and she doesn't know what to say how did your parents react to this? What problems did you get from coming out as transgender? Any advice would  help so much.

Hello,

I think a good first step is beginning to call them by their preferred pronouns. They're going to need all the support they can get through this hard time, and if they prefer you calling them your boyfriend and referring to them as "he", it'd be good to begin doing so now. It's hard enough getting misgendered out in the world, but if you're there with the support, it makes all the difference in the world.

The first thing they should probably do is seek out a gender therapist. That's what I had to do. They should also do some research on top surgery/attaining T in your state. A site I find helpful is theartoftransliness.com. It has a lot of resources if you need.

I'm not "fully out" to my parents, but there's lots of pamphlets and such things they can probably give to their parents. They're going to face a LOT of problems - like using the bathroom, for example; there's a list of things on the site. I think browsing that site will help both of you.

Be prepared. Most trans people choose a new name... or twenty. Help him find one that you both like and that suits him.

Her real name is Amanda but she's been had a guy name I met her as manny , my family call her manny but her family still calls her Amanda . She hates it but I told her that will take sometime for them to get used to that name. I knew that there was something wrong because she always tell me I wish I had a guys body. I don't like being a girl. I some times call her my boy friend or call her he. I'm just still trying to get used to me saying he instead of she.

Quote from: Judy18 on July 14, 2013, 09:18:34 PM
Her real name is Amanda but she's been had a guy name I met her as manny , my family call her manny but her family still calls her Amanda . She hates it but I told her that will take sometime for them to get used to that name. I knew that there was something wrong because she always tell me I wish I had a guys body. I don't like being a girl. I some times call her my boy friend or call her he. I'm just still trying to get used to me saying he instead of she.

Okay, let's start with this. It's "birth name", not "real name". And it will take some getting used to, even for him. Why don't you start by deleting the "s"s you put in front of the "he"s. It's much easier to type than say, so you can get used to it online. Transitioning is very difficult, even when the person has full support of family and friends. Without them it can be entirely unbearable. Do your best to let him know you'll be there for him.

Thanks so much and I will do my best to let him know that I'll always be here for him . No matter what yes it is hard for me to get used to saying he but I'm trying . I just want him to be happy . Also do any of you have kids? Because we want to get married some day and have kids , he's worried that our kids will dislike him for being transgender

Quote from: Judy18 on July 14, 2013, 10:00:04 PM
Thanks so much and I will do my best to let him know that I'll always be here for him . No matter what yes it is hard for me to get used to saying he but I'm trying . I just want him to be happy . Also do any of you have kids? Because we want to get married some day and have kids , he's worried that our kids will dislike him for being transgender

Try asking the transsexual forum. Either ftm or post-op.