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Were you lucky to have a birth name with a Feminine/Masculine variant??

Started by Marvel, June 14, 2013, 01:48:11 AM

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brainiac

My middle name is unisex, but it just doesn't feel like it fits me. My first name is female-only, but the middle syllable can be a male nickname (hint hint), so I'm thinking of going with that.
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mikaelmackison

It would depend what one considers lucky, or acceptable, I suppose. 

My former name was Valorie.  As I understand it, in a few countries there is a masculine variant.  (Val, Valery, Valėre, Valerios & Valério)  None of those choices was terribly appealing & where I live, would likely never be considered masculine.

That aside, 95%+ of the people I met or know insisted upon calling me Val & opting for a masculine variant wouldn't change that.  The sound of Val passing their lips sounds like nails on a chalk board to my ears.   >:-)
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Simon

I've noticed more of the guys are iffy about disclosing their birth names than the women are, lol. Meh, I'm so disconnected to my old name (legally changed it over 11 years ago) that it doesn't even feel like it was ever mine to begin with. My name was Dawn which I could have changed to Don, Dean, Dane, Dale, etc but I wanted to get away from it at the time. I thought if I chose anything similar at all the old name would always be associated with me.

The only bad feelings I ever had against my birth name was the reason why it was given to me. Long Jerry Springer story turned short, my dad was caught cheating by my mom. She burned his clothes in a barrel...whole nine yards. They were finished. Months later he smooth talks her into another chance and says he'll give her another child. That is where "Dawn" comes in..."a new beginning". Gag me with a spoon, lol.
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smile_jma

I was (at least the shortened version of it), but I'm not going to use it. I'm changing all 3. Dramatic/too much you ask? I say no. I have a brother, so he can keep the surname going (which is actually VERY rare; we might be the only family + 1 other family with the name in the US, and maybe only 3 other small families somewhere is Europe..). Even if I kept it, I don't want kids, so the non existent kids won't get it. Middle name, very masculine. I never liked my first name.

Now, like Barbie, I too have a Korean name that I go by (sometimes), but it too is masculine. So basically, changing to a completely female Korean name some time in the future without an English "nickname." BUT the Korean last name is my family's last name in Korea. Go figure.   (adopted..if you were confused).
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JillSter

I asked my mom a few times over the years what she would have named me if I had been female. It was a common name. But she said by the time I was born she'd heard it so many times she got sick of it. Even though it was the name she wanted to give her daughter ever since she was a little girl. It probably would have been my name.

But I chose another name. I did, however, use my grandmother's name as my middle name (which makes sense if you knew the story I won't tell you :P) and I picked a family name for my last name.

Unfortunately, my chosen name is not legal. But maybe someday it will be.
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Des

I've never ever really liked my female name at all. Lately I can't tell if that's because I don't like how it sounds/how feminine it is or if it's because I'm reminded every time someone calls me by my name that I'm still female and they see me strictly as female, so in that sense I don't think I'm lucky at all :(. It's definitely getting to me more now that I know what I am. It took me a while before I decided on a male name I will be going as but I decided to avoid the names most ftm go for, apparently if I was going to be born a boy my mum had a name in mind for already, so when I do my legal stuff I'm going to go with what she wanted because that way it's not too random and it still has some meaning to it :)
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D0LL

Haha My name's actually Natalie, but I would never be able to go by Nathan. My best friend growing up since I was like 2 was Nathan. He was the first house on my road while I was the last, he had the same bleach white skin as me and the same dark black hair. We've always been around the same height and he's only about 9 months older than me. So growing up, he was always referred to as my male counterpart. We still talk even, so I don't think I could ever use his name.
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Makalii

The name I was born with was Billy Makali'i Brown. And though I had heard of a select few women going by the name Billie (spelled a little differently, at least that was the case for my great aunt) it didn't seem probable that anyone from my time period would think of it as anything other than a masculine name. Also, I have always hated that name, Billy, even long before I knew I was transgendered. And I hate it when people try to rhyme with it or mess with it in attempts to be funny, or call me bill, I especially hated that one. Long story short it has caused me a lot of grief. Conveniently however, my middle name is Hawaiian, and is pretty androgynous as far as anyone can tell. So I was actually able to start going by that name before coming out to anyone or anything like that.
- Circus Girl
- MtF
- Pre-HRT (for now)
- Call me Maka  ;)

For how could I ever ask someone to love me as a woman for my body, if I can't even love my body as a woman for myself?
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Erin Brianne

I am using the variation of my name already...a lot of people already write it as such when I place orders or go somewhere so I think I'll just keep using it
Live life one day at a time because tomorrow is not promised to anyone!!
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Mosaic dude

Yes, I'm lucky in that my birth name has a masculine variant and I like it.  Both my first name and middle name can be easily masculinized.
Living in interesting times since 1985.
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xander

Mine did but I would never use it because it would feel like there was no change. Changing my name is very symbolic to me and it really showed me who cared enough to make the effort.
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