Quote from: theirrationaldress on August 11, 2013, 08:20:41 PM
Great question! Very timely for many it seems, myself included.

Having gotten intimate with women myself, it seems that sex for females can be a more...indulgent experience, involving the whole body as opposed to just the certain parts. There also the whole multiple orgasm thing, whereas with males, the pleasure release is solely restricted to the functional act and then that's it. Female sex seems to be more rewarding for the person, whereas for males its more about practical manouevers. However, don't quote me on this! :-p

I'd bloody hate to loose my sex drive, as sex and laughing are two major things that make being a dysfunctional human bearable. I'd hate to loose my creative approach to sex & the appreciation of aesthetics too as I treat sex as a creative playtime rather than just a natural physical act (though I do realise that that sentence makes me sound like a pseudo-intellectual prat).

Regarding HRT's potential effects - I'd be perfectly fine with a quality instead quantity trade-off regarding reduced drive in return for a more fulfilling experience when finally turned-on, and wouldn't mind needing more time to get aroused, as that is a major part of the whole experience. And I'd definitely welcome more sensitivity all over my body, although, as I'm very sensitive already, maybe I'd pass-out with delight from over-stimulus. Well, I'd like to think that would be the "worst case scenario" anywho 

So, for those on HRT and experiencing its effects - do you feel that sex (including initial arousal and foreply) is more immersive/involving now or are you so disinterested in it now that you don't care either way?

biggest problem I had dating men was the disappointment is then letting me down and never cuddling or doing anything but "the act" I actually need foreplay and real touch - I get this with womyn trans and cis

I never had a problem with reduced drive - and you can see the numbers below - that is 20 years on HRT.

I actually feel more pleasure now that ever before  and even with sex when I was married to my wife I was on HRT it was better than previous to HRT even with just the touch all over my body and the breast experience.

today I discovered something.  or to be more accurate, sorta realised it.
even though I'm not on HRT or anything, I realised that I have felt a very female sexuality before now.
I can't get the bodily sensations, but the raw animalistic sexuality is something I noticed before and thought it was very odd. I've never seen men act this way in porn or in films... but today I summoned up this animal nature, sort of growling and wanting to bite things etc. I realised, I have seen women behave this way many times. when I realised that I felt more affinity with this feeling, I started to associate with it better and I started to laugh.
I realised that the boring and disinterested attitude to sex that i have had over the years, is because I am not connecting with my female sexuality. in fact, my very powerful female sexuality is a very dirty, cheeky, horny and sexy bitch.
I really want to connect to this part of myself more! but I feel like it doesn't really seem to 'fit' with what happens when my genitals starts to misbehave. it's sort of like, my female sexuality is not connected to anything, and my genitals is not connected to that sexuality.
but anyway, it made me realise, the joy that I felt, sex is fun! it is something to be cherished and to be enjoyed and to be played with! I never saw it that way before. I always saw it as a means to an end. a way to get a momentary euphoric release. I don't know if that is truly what all men get, but if that is true... I don't see any reason I would ever want to be a man.