I didn't want to hear it at that time because I was in love and helpless when it came to my feelings.
I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years 3 months now... and for the past 8-9 months, I felt extreme change. I started T 10 months ago as of today. Let's just say all those months I have been emotionally and sexually going out of my mind. She kept coming up with excuses to stay distant from me, refrain from anything sexual, and just, be more friend-like.

Today, we were laughing and having fun in her room, acting stupid, and when I went home, she texted me saying something like "Today was amazing. It reminded me of when you were female and it couldn't make me happier. It was like the old times. I couldn't see your mustache because it was dark, and it really reminded me of the past." After that text, I told her how I felt...how I know she stopped loving me, stopped feeling attracted to me whatsoever. This time, for the first time in 10 months, she didn't deny a thing. Yet she keeps telling me how she wants to keep trying and trying, and does not want this to end.

I told her I have been trying all I could, but she hasn't responded to my love. There's nothing else left for me to do. She wants to be with a girl. She can only see me as a girl, and now that that image is blocked, she lost everything for me. Yet, she doesn't want to leave. She is crying her heart out right now. Why? I don't know. She admitted that she feels as if we are friends, even though we kiss and hug.


What is this? I don't get it. All of you were so right when you said it most likely wouldn't work.

Im sorry to hear about it all.Sadly most of us have been through the rodeo more then we wish to admit.I dont know if what i have to say is what you wish to hear and i wish that i could offer some form of comfort over it,that everything will work out and be how you wish for it to be but i cant.The only thing i can offer you is personal experience and honesty,tell you what i seen or know to be true for me.

My personal feelings is that she is seeking a comfort zone.A romantic friend but no sexual or serious commitment.Been more times then i can count,that i have been told many things and seen different actions and over time,you get used to it and you can almost read people like a book.And more times then that,i can count the same reaction to my feeling of being pulled around and led on.(i have personal negative feelings on relationships atm) and i have just become more of an emotionless,sexual man.And for about the same reason you speak of.No matter what,i feel that your best course is to see it as over-walk away and look else where.because regardless,she is playing with your heart and should have been honest to begin with.What hurts the most is opening up yourself and your transition to someone who cant be honest about their feelings.its a hard and painful blow and not one so easy to come back from.do whats best for you.

BearGuy - there is an old adage:  "Love is blind (and lovers can not see)"

It goes back to Shakespeare, and is probably much older.  When we are in love our critical thinking processes are diminished.  It is important that you review your relationship with your eyes wide open.  If, at the point, both you and your girlfriend feel you can work things out, then go for it.

I have been kind of in your situation my friend. I know how hard it is to let someone/something go when you've loved them for soo soo long with all you had. I know how hard it is to try and convince your self you don't want/need that person in your life. And for a while you'll feel like all the pain, confusion and hurt is worth a couple hours of happiness. Let me tell you my brother that is not the case. Bluntly, this girl is poison for you and the direction you are going in your life. Even the comments you said she mentioned shows that she is being extremely selfish. She wants her cake and wants to eat it too.  Not to put this woman down or anything I don't know her from Eve . That being said in this type of relationship is defenitaly not healthy for you or her. Both in a state of denial, her for not wanting to accept that you are a man. And you not wanting to accept that this relationship wont prosper. I'm sorry man I really am.
I've been there and I seriously thought I would be alone for ever. That no one would ever accept and love me for me. I was proven so wrong. Now my gf is the most supportive person I have in my life. I couldn't ask for a more wonderful human being.
If you don't want to lose her out of your life all together maybe suggest being JUST friends if that is something you could handle. Let her know that this is who you are and that is not going to change. Life is too short for people to live in misery for the satisfaction of someone else.

I really hope things turn around for you. I hope you keep fishing till you find your self a mermaid.

I remember that thread. Sorry to hear it seems to not be working out. If anything, you could take it as a validation of your maleness if you wanted to find something positive in all of it.

Also - I'm sure she will still be one of your best friends, right? Some of the strongest friendships can be with ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends, as long as it doesn't end badly. That bond doesn't have to go away.

Transitioning is a loss for the people around us in some ways. That could be why she cries.

I think it's very true that when we transition, others around us do as well. She is crying more than likely because she is losing the person you were before. Most people in our lives go through this. Especially in the early stages of our transitions.