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Started by Allison, August 30, 2013, 08:13:41 PM
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Quote from: Tessa James on August 30, 2013, 09:04:43 PMWell Allison you are getting some practice on telling your story and working with coming out versions that suit you. Hang in there but, again, people who have experienced prejudice and discrimination are sadly still able to heap it on others. I like what you say about "your terms"--good for you! I have to remind myself that most people are good to one another and to let the crap just blow away. Sounds like you are in College and you have an excellent chance to meet some progressive and thoughtful people there?
Quote from: Tessa James on August 30, 2013, 09:19:00 PMVery cool! Does the College have a diversity committee or an LGBT club you might check out? I am a college trustee here and have great support from our diversity team for being out.
Quote from: Allison on August 30, 2013, 08:13:41 PMhe is a fun guy and I love being around him and hanging out with him
Quote from: Joanna Dark on August 30, 2013, 09:29:00 PMI'm tempted to say screw him. but then you say this:I think sometimes I, myself, talk about hormones and transition to my BF way too much. I should really shut up because though he has occasionally misgendered me (not on purpose), but he is simply not doing it anymore. He never has called me by anything other then my preferred name however. So sometimes if someone is sufficiently amazing, you give them a pass. I think my BF is actually forgetting I'm male at all sometimes because of the time he has misgendred me people correct him lolIf you two can just not talk about trans subjects, perhaps things will improve. Are you on hormones? If not, maybe when you get on them (if that's what you want) he will see things differently. You will be amazed at how people change their views on you after the hormones take effect. YMMV.P.S. is it possible he likes you? Guys are weird like that and show their emotions in bizarre, complex ways. Of course, they also say they don't understand women which I never understood lol
Quote from: Tessa James on August 30, 2013, 09:26:56 PMYa, sometimes the clubs come and go as students graduate. I know our Board of Directors really appreciates the students that get involved in any of the extracurricular stuff and it is a big plus for resumes if you have been in student government. What floats your boat there? What got you in the door?
Quote from: Allison on August 30, 2013, 09:39:17 PMAlso need to get out of college if I want to move to Oregon or Washington... protection for transgendered individuals in the workplace is so important to me.
Quote from: Joanna Dark on August 30, 2013, 10:04:03 PMIf you want protection in the workplace and the possibility of FREE SRS, you hsve to move to Philadelphia. Philly is the world capital of trans protections. We have three doctors that do SRS, multiple clinics, unisex bathrooms everywhere, and a city government where not one person will dare come out against trans individuals. It would be suicide. They passed a law allowing all city employees to be eligible for SRS and they offer businesses in the city tax breaks for paying for it. I'm not exactly sure when I became so lucky, but I believe it was when I found that of Ace of hearts on the ground at 31st and Spring Garden in West Philly.
Quote from: Tessa James on August 30, 2013, 10:19:35 PMAllison your dream from childhood is compelling and feels nicely romantic to me. How fun and how nice to know what you want. We do a lot of advising for students (and I was one) that don't have a clue about what they want. I also applaud your altruism and understanding of how important it is to have "out" supporters and mentors. I hope you do restart that LGBTQ club. I live in Oregon and while not wanting to compete with fantastic Philly I believe you are correct about the civil protections and insurance laws that are quite favorable for us here. Good to know you will have some positive choices to consider.
Quote from: Allison on August 30, 2013, 10:06:55 PMHmn that would certainly help, works even better me being an Eagles fan too! Haha added bonuses!
Quote from: -Emily- on August 31, 2013, 03:01:49 AMCheez, he sounds like a bugger... Is he really that much fun to be around? Well, he is quite insensitive and ignorant... so, how about using that and turning that against him? Ally, would he try to harm You physically if, lets say, in the middle of some gossip/chit-chat You would drop some "cute" words like "->-bleeped-<-gy" when addressing him or his behaviour? I mean, being nasty, but keeping the limits - making him feel that but not being able to do anything about that.
Quote from: Alice Danielle on August 31, 2013, 05:48:06 AMNo offense but this doesn't sound like good advice. Sounds like fighting hate with hate.