For me, I would never have my own kids.  I've occasionally had the desire, but nothing that was long lasting and it was more like because the biological portion said I was a good age to have kids.  Logically, I don't want kids.  I'm not ready for them and probably never will be.  And the idea of carrying a "child" inside of me for 9 months is revolting.

But it's just my opinion for me.  If someone else wants it, go for it.  If not, respect their choice not to have kids.

My sister wanted me to be her surrogate recently, even after knowing I was a trans man.  I told her outright no. However she said she would pay me. Enough for chest surgery actually... plus a bit more. That actually made me stop and consider it. In the end I stuck with my original response. The money is very very tempting, but I could never go through with it.

I've thought about becoming pregnant. It's one of the reasons I'm so worried about starting hormones; I've heard all these rumors that if you don't get surgery within 3 years you'll have an increased risk of cancers.

I'm not certain honestly. I guess it's just my paternal instinct mixing in with my teenage hormones but my head is all wishy-washy when it comes to child rearing. Do I want to adopt or do I want a biological child? Should I store my eggs just in case? My ideal is to have two children but, as someone who is most likely aromantic, all this sounds terribly hard.

How will I be able to handle a baby and a job on my own? I'm not the type of father who would leave the baby with someone else either. Those first few years are precious. Once they turn five they can go to kindergarten but before that? Nah.   

As a trans man people would react differently to you begin pregnant. Pregnant women get cooed over, pregnant men do not.

I'm also worried about how to feed the child. To me, the only option is breastfeeding. What if I get surgery beforehand? Then I won't be able to breastfeed the child, and wet nurses are hard to come across. Child birth itself is horrifying. I can't handle pain and the only option for me is natural childbirth; I refuse to have a hospital one unless I'm having complications.

If I have kids I'll probably adopt. I'd like to adopt an older child, someone between the ages of five and thirteen. Afterwards if I still feel the need I can adopt a younger one.. But I doubt it. I'm fine with my child being an only child. I was an only child and I did just fine.   

Have 3 natural kids. It was the worst experience of my life
Never again!

Quote from: Brandon on September 04, 2013, 05:57:45 PM
And not to sound rude but I don't think homosexuals should have kids, But I feel they should be able to get married or just be together

Everybody is equal here, they're not any less worthy of being parents then you. I don't see why thought makes you "uncomfortable" or "scared". What makes me scared is knowing there's tons of beautiful, innocent children out there with bad or no parents, and people preventing homosexuals who could be great parents from adopting these children.

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 04, 2013, 07:00:36 PM
Everybody is equal here, they're not any less worthy of being parents then you. I don't see why thought makes you "uncomfortable" or "scared". What makes me scared is knowing there's tons of beautiful, innocent children out there with bad or no parents, and people preventing homosexuals who could be great parents from adopting these children.

The thought of being pregnant makes m scared and uncomfortable because Im a man, And God said a woman is suppose to bare the child. You misread what I said, And no homosexuals should not raise kids two women can't raise a boy and two guys can't raise a girl I think they need a man and a woman for that, Its like people who think daughters don't need their fathers they most definately do.







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Quote from: Brandon on September 04, 2013, 07:32:16 PM


The thought of being pregnant makes m scared and uncomfortable because Im a man, And God said a woman is suppose to bare the child. You misread what I said, And no homosexuals should not raise kids two women can't raise a boy and two guys can't raise a girl I think they need a man and a woman for that, Its like people who think daughters don't need their fathers they most definately do.







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It's not about belief, it's cold, hard, scientific fact that same-sex couples raise not just acceptable kids, but actually kids that turn out better than the average sort raised by straight parents. You won't find one unbiased study that says otherwise.

As for me, I'm not a trans man, but I'm agender/neutrois, and it was a nasty pregnancy scare and a few specific discussions about kids that made me realize that I might not have been the gender I was assigned. I missed a period and had another symptom or two of pregnancy (which isn't unusual for me, tbh, as I have a disease of the reproductive stuff) that gave me panic attacks for days.

Quote from: Lo on September 04, 2013, 09:13:34 PM
It's not about belief, it's cold, hard, scientific fact that same-sex couples raise not just acceptable kids, but actually kids that turn out better than the average sort raised by straight parents. You won't find one unbiased study that says otherwise.

As for me, I'm not a trans man, but I'm agender/neutrois, and it was a nasty pregnancy scare and a few specific discussions about kids that made me realize that I might not have been the gender I was assigned. I missed a period and had another symptom or two of pregnancy (which isn't unusual for me, tbh, as I have a disease of the reproductive stuff) that gave me panic attacks for days.

Thats not what God intended for, If you believe in God or read the bible, Homosexuals can't reproduce for a reason, No offence, Im fine with gays I have gay and bi friends their perfectly nomal, And yes that does scare me

Quote from: Brandon on September 04, 2013, 10:03:31 PM

Thats not what God intended for, If you believe in God or read the bible, Homosexuals can't reproduce for a reason, No offence, Im fine with gays I have gay and bi friends their perfectly nomal, And yes that does scare me

Your version of God may differ from others, this is why in America we have "freedom of religion" (sorry if I wrongly assume that you are from the USA). If my version of God says that homosexuals can raise children, what makes your God better than mine? Don't forget, quite a few Christians would say trans people shouldn't have children because that's not what God intended. You might find the Spirituality section of Susan's to be of interest to you if you are a person of faith. The various opinions there might help you open your mind a little bit by exposing you to well reasoned opinions on LGBT issues.

Sat nam, Henry 

Quote from: Brandon on September 04, 2013, 10:03:31 PM

Thats not what God intended for, If you believe in God or read the bible, Homosexuals can't reproduce for a reason, No offence, Im fine with gays I have gay and bi friends their perfectly nomal, And yes that does scare me

My gods enjoyed human sacrifice back in the dickities, but that doesn't belong in this discussion either. I'd suggest you keep this stuff in the religious section as well.

Quote from: Lo on September 04, 2013, 10:19:39 PM
My gods enjoyed human sacrifice back in the dickities, but that doesn't belong in this discussion either. I'd suggest you keep this stuff in the religious section as well.

I can tell your getting upset so ill stop

Quote from: LearnedHand on September 04, 2013, 10:11:59 PM
Your version of God may differ from others, this is why in America we have "freedom of religion" (sorry if I wrongly assume that you are from the USA). If my version of God says that homosexuals can raise children, what makes your God better than mine? Don't forget, quite a few Christians would say trans people shouldn't have children because that's not what God intended. You might find the Spirituality section of Susan's to be of interest to you if you are a person of faith. The various opinions there might help you open your mind a little bit by exposing you to well reasoned opinions on LGBT issues.

Sat nam, Henry 

Theirs only one God but ok Im done just know my beliefs arent gonna change, And Ive never had that said to me at all actually most of my christian friends are fine with me, My mom hasnt even said that, And she hates what Im trying to do as far as being trans

Quote from: Brandon on September 04, 2013, 10:21:50 PM
I can tell your getting upset so ill stop

No, just disappointed that you feel this opinion is relevant to such a sensitive topic.

Quote from: Lo on September 05, 2013, 11:07:48 AM
No, just disappointed that you feel this opinion is relevant to such a sensitive topic.

Again men arent suppose to carry babies

You better read up, young man: https://www.susans.org/wiki/Hormone_replacement_therapy_%28female-to-male%29#Childbearing

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Brandon on September 05, 2013, 11:30:12 AM

Quote from: Lo on September 05, 2013, 11:07:48 AM
No, just disappointed that you feel this opinion is relevant to such a sensitive topic.

Again men arent suppose to carry babies

They're not but some of them are born with a uterus.

Quote from: Brandon on September 05, 2013, 11:30:12 AM
Again men arent suppose to carry babies

And if a trans man gets pregnant, and isn't allowed to get an abortion (I'm assuming this is something else you believe in) does that make him any less a man? Does having been pregnant, by will or by rape, make him an abomination?

Jesus also said nothing about gay or trans* people, jussayin'.

Quote from: Lo on September 05, 2013, 02:57:41 PM
And if a trans man gets pregnant, and isn't allowed to get an abortion (I'm assuming this is something else you believe in) does that make him any less a man? Does having been pregnant, by will or by rape, make him an abomination?

Jesus also said nothing about gay or trans* people, jussayin'.

If your gonna be a man then don't get pregnant, Pregnant men don't help transgender men they make us look bad, And make look stupid, And yes God did speak about homosexuality you just don't wanna believe it, And I have no problem with abortion, You don't sound religious please don't put me in a box with other Christians

Quote from: Brandon on September 05, 2013, 03:29:01 PM

If your gonna be a man then don't get pregnant, Pregnant men don't help transgenders they make us look bad, And make look stupid,

A lot of guys here feel strongly on both sides of this issue. It can be a touchy topic because we have guys on one end who are sick at the thought of carrying their own child and others glad they have the ability to do it. Many here have expressed the same feelings on male pregnancy you have, and many the opposite.

QuoteAnd yes God did speak about homosexuality you just son't wanna believe it, And I have no problem with abortion, You don't sound religious please don't put me in a box with other Christians

Religion has also been a hotly debated topic here in the past. You have your beliefs but this really isn't the place for airing religious views against homosexuality. It's best to just agree to disagree on this point.

I beat there is at least 1 cis-guy who wouldnt mind being able to give birth and that alone to me says well if he could, he would, so if you can and want,then do.

People are allowed to do what they want. I know this doesnt measure to the same level but its in the way the same as inpregnating a woman. I cant imagin even using my penis for sex so well I would say no thanks but I am sure there is one t-girl who wants to so let them.

In the end it all comes down to how closed minded you are to what makes a specific gender After all reproduction is the last real natural instinct humans have left.