Hi. I have known a girl for almost 4 years, who I've become very close with in the past few months. She recently revealed to me that she's (pre-op) MtF, and I'm honestly surprised with myself that I don't have any huge problem with this. I love her regardless, and still find her very attractive.

I've always considered myself a straight male, I'm not attracted at all to other males (and still am not)... I've always seen her as a girl, and even after she told me, it really hasn't changed the way I see her.

It doesn't really matter in terms of how I feel (both about myself or about her), but I'm genuinely just curious what this makes me? Am I still a 'straight male'? Or is there another term for this that I might be described as?

Quote from: Heton on September 30, 2013, 07:39:01 AM
I've always seen her as a girl, even after she told me

As long as this applies, you're straight. Straight straight straight straight.

She was born as a woman but trapped in a male body. In my opion you are a straight guy who loves a woman.

Lara

Huh, makes sense. Thanks for the clarification! 

It makes you a cool, open-minded and loving person. And also straight.

It makes you a great guy. I strait one too.

This makes you a very special person. Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you in her life. Seeing how you view her as a girl, you need not question yourself as to your sexualality. I wish the two of you a very happy and long lasting relationship.

If you identity as straight and only have attraction to women, I think you already have the answer.

P.S.  Congrats on your relationship.  It's nice to see that there are understanding guys out there!

You are an open-mind straight man, who can love someone for how they are not what they are.

She is very lucky to have you.

It makes you one in a million. Thanks for being awesome - from me and (I'm sure) every other woman on this site.

Straight. You're only attracted to women, she's a woman, simple as that.

Although in the end it's always up to you - my wife was bisexual when I was a man, and she's bisexual now that I'm a woman. The assumptions *other* people make have changed, but that doesn't change her orientation unless she chooses to let it.

(Granted, there are some men who are attracted to women and also to penises, but not to men; it doesn't sound like you're one of them, but even if you were, your orientation would ultimately be yours to decide.)

What a wonderful string.  Hugs Shannon

Well, having had to come out as a "lesbian" prior to transition, I can tell you that being attracted to both cis women and trans women hasn't affected my perception of my sexual orientation at all. Much in the same way you've never been attracted to men, neither have I. I wouldn't worry about what it "makes" you, because you're just a guy that loves a girl. That means you're straight. I don't think anyone really spends time with a woman thinking "ooooh, dat pussy." Yeah, sometimes that's a part of it when things are sexual, but much of a relationship just goes so far beyond that, and much of what makes a woman attractive and endearing goes beyond that.

A gay man told me he was with a trans man and asked me what that made him. I said, "A lucky gay man".

A penis is a very small part of a body, and a body is a very small part of a person. So I don't see why that tiny part of her overall being has to negate the overall fact: she is a woman. And therefore you're straight.

Ahaha, thank you all for the kind words/wishes and answers. Honestly it feels a bit strange though, as it doesn't really feel like a 'huge thing' to me in that sense. I fell in love with a girl, she revealed to me that she wasn't born a girl, it doesn't really change the feelings I have and had prior for her. I guess I just come from a fairly liberal area, I'm not really afraid to tell my friends (but wont without her permission), as I know all my good friends would be happy for me and supportive.

Wish you all the best!

Quote from: Heton on September 30, 2013, 05:31:41 PM
Wish you all the best!

Thank you Heton. I just have to ask. Do you have a brother? 

I think it makes you lucky!

"Girlfriend is MtF, what does this make me?"

It makes you someone with a girlfriend! Congratulations!

Hugs, Devlyn

My boy freind is in the same boat.  (I have a boy friend? Holy crap, I didn't mean to do that xD) I met him and he had a huge crush on me and well.  I really don't even normaly like boys.  but if your happy with the person your with?  So anyways, I cam out and he basically said that he had no idea, but it didn't change me.   then I told him how confused I! was. and he asked if I was happy.    Mind you I'm a tramp, I'm still trying to meet other girls but hes says its ok.  just not other guys Oh and that if I meet a girl and we all get along I have to share.  It's a ->-bleeped-<-ed up sort of thing but everyones happy

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on September 30, 2013, 07:32:54 PM
I think it makes you lucky!

I agree entirely! 

Quote from: Bethany Dawn on September 30, 2013, 07:05:45 PM
Thank you Heton. I just have to ask. Do you have a brother? 

Ahah, sorry, I don't.