i generally avoid defining myself as anything. None of the labels seem to describe me particularly well, except maybe "gender variant," and I'm always afraid if I say "I'm an X", people will start telling me that if I'm really an X, I have to do/think/feel A, B, and C. Much of my life has been spent joing some group or other in the hopes of feeling like I (finally!) belong somewhere, and then finding out that there are too many things I have to do/think/believe to be a part of the group, but can't do. So I end up leaving or being frozen out. After enough experiences like that, you learn to stay on the periphery wherever you are.