There are so many great men out there and they usually have a girl friend already.
I have been fortunate to find men that loved me thoroughly, romantically and persuasively for years. That was before i came out transgender. It is way too easy to find a hook up for casual sex as many guys are accustomed to compartmentalized sex and relationships....well just "getting off" is not a date really? Dating is like a complicated dance that does not always fit the music. Sure it all works out in Hollywood but real time means you kiss frogs more often than the just right prince.
I would let guys know I am bi and that I am a girly bottom. Might as well be upfront these days. Many gay men are not in to twinks, or fem guys and many often want a "straight" appearing man. Finding the guy with a profile that matches is part of the new dating scene for some. I found dreamy ways of dissociating from my genitals during intimacy, turning it into a toy or "theirs."
Romance is unpredictable and the one you want may not return the affection and the converse too, of course. Talking on the phone first seems helpful and reminds me of teenage fun. I have known many men who have been or are still in very long term relationships. There are as many options as there are people ready to meet you.
Being bi means that for me it is about sharing love with an individual not the gender, the genitals or the grunts and groans. When I appeared to be a man, in the past, women did hit on me but I knew what they saw in me was not who I was as an intimate partner. So much hurt and heartache can be avoided by honest if, vulnerable conversation. Try it over candle light.
