Its about 3/4 months since I had my grs and as some are already aware I've not fully healed as of yet. I'm wondering though would it be safe to use a vibrator since i'm not ready yet to have vaginal sex? 

Thanks

nessa76

Should be ok, just be gentle (assuming a vibrator of the poking type as opposed to an egg style or a pocket rocket that is mostly clit stimulating type). I recommend a towel in case things get messy on orgasm.

Like the previous poster said, I'm sure you'd be fine. May I recommend a rabbit? 

Quote from: Shaina on October 21, 2013, 12:11:12 AM
Like the previous poster said, I'm sure you'd be fine. May I recommend a rabbit? 

I tried that but it wouldn't hold the vibrator and kept hoping away.

Dumb Bunny

Quote from: Cindy on October 21, 2013, 01:57:37 AM
I tried that but it wouldn't hold the vibrator and kept hoping away.

Dumb Bunny

Haha Cindy you crack me up! Clearly I should move to Australia, never met an Aussie I didn't like  

Hee Heee

Oh no another American I have to warn the immigration dept about. Place will be over run by Susie's Warriors!

Quote from: Cindy on October 21, 2013, 01:57:37 AM
I tried that but it wouldn't hold the vibrator and kept hoping away.

Dumb Bunny

You need a better rabbit!

Quote from: Cherrie on October 21, 2013, 08:08:57 AM
I think you need to ask this to your surgeon.

I suppose your right Cherrie, better for me to be safe than sorry because the last thing I need is to have more complications   

I will admit though, I was just getting a little curious though as to what an orgasm feels like now that I've had grs lol

Ok guys - I'm only a student so this is NOT medical advice... (sorry I have to preface my comment with that or I could get into trouble)

However - having said that, I can tell you that issue is not really with it being a vibe - but rather the fact that:

a.) if you aren't fully healed then any vigorous movement could cause tears or damage
b.) a vibe may not have nicely rounded contours like a dilator and so again could cause damage if not inserted with care.
c.) if you were having sex there would be an infection risk.

That said - I had corrective surgery for my intersex condition about 30 years ago - and I started using a vibe within days of the surgery before the stitches were even fully out... I'm still here and so is my vag! So used carefully I can't see a problem.

That said I concur with everyone that a quick email or telephone call to your supervising doctor (surgeon) just to check is a jolly good idea.

Aside from seconding "ask your surgeon" (which you're going to do!), I personally was cautious about that sort of thing until the site was fully healed. It's hard to predict or control how much vibration will affect half-healed tissue.

That said, nothing at all stops you from trying a non-insertable vibe if you think *that* area is healed. The first time I tried that post-op... wow. I gotta say, despite knowing it's the same or fewer nerve endings as before, I couldn't BELIEVE that fact anymore.

Quote from: Jenna Marie on October 21, 2013, 03:59:36 PM
Aside from seconding "ask your surgeon" (which you're going to do!), I personally was cautious about that sort of thing until the site was fully healed. It's hard to predict or control how much vibration will affect half-healed tissue.

That said, nothing at all stops you from trying a non-insertable vibe if you think *that* area is healed. The first time I tried that post-op... wow. I gotta say, despite knowing it's the same or fewer nerve endings as before, I couldn't BELIEVE that fact anymore.

Why, was the feeling/orgasm better despite knowing the same or fewer nerve endings as before?   

MUCH better. It felt like about 10,000 new nerve endings. Still, though, it won't be nearly as much fun if things are still sore there... I remember that part, too.

You said you are at the 3 or 4 month mark. I know most of the surgeons say after 3 months most can has SEX. I would say as long as you do not get to rough with it you should be fine internal or external. But i would look at your discharge papers for the time mark of sex.

The nurses said on my discharge to stay away from vibs for first 3 months or until i felt it was healed enough for sex.

Lots of luck on getting to know your new found BIG O

Izzy

Quote from: mind is quiet now on October 21, 2013, 06:11:36 PM
You said you are at the 3 or 4 month mark. I know most of the surgeons say after 3 months most can has SEX. I would say as long as you do not get to rough with it you should be fine internal or external. But i would look at your discharge papers for the time mark of sex.

The nurses said on my discharge to stay away from vibs for first 3 months or until i felt it was healed enough for sex.

Lots of luck on getting to know your new found BIG O

Izzy

I had a warm tingly feeling when I dilated on the 2nd week, which I think was kind of an orgasm. I just can't wait to discover the new found BIG O, curiosity more than anything 

Quote from: Jenna Marie on October 21, 2013, 05:45:57 PM
MUCH better. It felt like about 10,000 new nerve endings. Still, though, it won't be nearly as much fun if things are still sore there... I remember that part, too.

That's good, 10,000 new nerve endings must have made it real intense 

That might be fun to find your O spot & enjoy.  I wish I were there with you now.  For me I want a man!

Quote from: FrancisAnn on October 22, 2013, 10:07:22 PM
That might be fun to find your O spot & enjoy.  I wish I were there with you now.  For me I want a man!

Here here!