So I'm out and about and run into a gas station for a coke, I wasn't overly dressed a simple grey sweater dress black leggins and heels. I run in grab a coke on my way out from across the street 2 construction workers whistle and give me the hey baby line GAGME..... anywho I can't imagine this as being normal, being somewhat self conscious was I read or is that normal?

Ha the longer your a woman the more you come to realize a heck of a lot of men are really disgusting.

I used to dream of having a man but these days I don't think I have the patience to deal with that crap.

Welcome to womanhood. I am normally okay with it, except one time it was a gang of bikers and that scared the crap out of me. Other than that enjoy the attention

Mmm were they hot? <3<3<3

There is a growing movement against street harassment. Every  female I have discussed this with, every one, has been annoyed by it. There are a bunch of organizations trying to raise awareness.

http://www.stopstreetharassment.org/
http://www.ihollaback.org/

Quote from: suzifrommd on October 28, 2013, 01:37:04 PM
There is a growing movement against street harassment. Every  female I have discussed this with, every one, has been annoyed by it. There are a bunch of organizations trying to raise awareness.

http://www.stopstreetharassment.org/
http://www.ihollaback.org/

Wow I'm just guessing right now but I think I know what a hollaback girl is now. Damn now I have Gwen Steffani stuck in my head!!

I get that kind of attention, too, occasionally, although I'm not certain if it is because I'm passing and very tall, or if it's sarcastic and derisive, so I just play the shy girl and duck my head and walk faster (with short steps).

I hope to one day get used to it enough that I can be irritated by it.  Then, maybe I'll have the confidence to *do* something about it. 

Hugs to all the fierce sisters who do!

Fortunately sexual harassment from building sites has largely been stamped out in Australia, at least in the cities and on union worksites it has been. Doesn't stop idiots in cars though.

I also am very self conscious and have felt the same the very few times it has happened....it really isn't the norm but depends on where your at, what type guys they are and how your dressed....heels usually turn heads!!

Most men in general will look and give a nice smile...but there are some that are more blunt. I worked with one years ago....while he sat in passenger side of a car he would show women passing by a sign he made that said "show me your t***....this is the type guy I am talking about.

Most times I am dressed fairly nice or in a bit younger style, I will usually get looks from other women, most I believe are just noticing my style like I have done to others....some I think (not saying I'm all that) my be a bit jealous of my shape!!

I think I have seen a pic or two of you....definitely don't over think this!!! This coming from someone that over thinks any out of the ordinary look!!

Quote from: Just Shelly on October 28, 2013, 03:22:05 PM
I also am very self conscious and have felt the same the very few times it has happened....it really isn't the norm but depends on where your at, what type guys they are and how your dressed....heels usually turn heads!!

Most men in general will look and give a nice smile...but there are some that are more blunt. I worked with one years ago....while he sat in passenger side of a car he would show women passing by a sign he made that said "show me your t***....this is the type guy I am talking about.

Most times I am dressed fairly nice or in a bit younger style, I will usually get looks from other women, most I believe are just noticing my style like I have done to others....some I think (not saying I'm all that) my be a bit jealous of my shape!!

I think I have seen a pic or two of you....definitely don't over think this!!! This coming from someone that over thinks any out of the ordinary look!!

Ya I guess I'm just reading to much, I hope, and thanks for the compliment ;-)

Quote from: Cyndigurl45 on October 28, 2013, 12:58:25 PM
... anywho I can't imagine this as being normal, being somewhat self conscious was I read or is that normal?

Yeah, it's pretty normal. Guys do it because they objectify women and regard public places to be venues where they can safely invade someone's privacy. It's annoying. As to what to do... see below.

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on October 28, 2013, 04:07:47 PM
Next time - blow them a kiss from a safe distance . Much safer than flippping them off and way more sarcastic if done properly

Um... please don't. Responding with anything short of total ignoring of the acts just kinda gives them what they want (attention). It also gives them tacit permission to continue the behavior as it becomes a 'game' to them and when they encounter a woman who doesn't want to 'play', they get angry and, at times, violent. Best policy is to ignore them completely. Leave social outreach organizations and public pressure to get the fighting done. Much safer that way.

Happened to me last week driving to my go's for the weekend after I had gotten my hair and makeup done......was the first time I'd been subjected to comments such as "Hey, what will it take to give me a BJ" at a traffic light. I got smiled at a lot and one guy blew me a kiss - it didn't all feel bad, and kinda served as a "Things must be working" check, if you know what I mean. Of course, the BJ guy was a complete creep and a good example of why I want nothing to do with men. I'm even reducing my number of 'guy friends' slowly but surely, because I have never had anything in common with the majority of them

XO
Kelsie

Let's walk down Bourbon Street... I'll show you how much it can happen....

The other night after a football game, I was with my mother... MY MOTHER. We walked down that street for like 5 minutes and I got 2 or 3 "Hey baby"s, and I walked behind a guy ... with my MOTHER ... and he reached behind himself and rubbed my elbow while we passed him. Dude... seriously? Do you not see the 60 year old woman with me?

But don't ever respond. Ever. Nothing good comes of it.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 29, 2013, 07:42:15 PM
But don't ever respond. Ever. Nothing good comes of it.

I'm sure that's right.....I wouldn't dare, even though it would seem 'funny' to me for a split second, it could end up with me being killed so I let it alone

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on October 29, 2013, 07:42:15 PM
and he reached behind himself and rubbed my elbow while we passed him. Dude... seriously? Do you not see the 60 year old woman with me?

If someone will touch me without my permission I will just slap him on his face instantly - and my mother would do the same,btw. We have the same temper!
Those who dont respect other people private space and boundaries just never got taught a lesson to themselves.

When I was out on Halloween, I was definitely shy of being passable and a handful of girls who recognized I was a guy gave me a butt pinch or slap.  One even reached up under my skirt when she gave me the pinch.  I kinda just assumed they used me as the subject to take out their revenge on all the men who had harassed them like that. 

I occasionally get cat calls and/or wolf whistles when I'm riding my bike around and sometimes guys look at me with that goobering smile that some guys get when I'm at a store or someplace

It's what guys do, I don't let it bother anymore unless they get too aggressive or start insulting me

I just smile and go about my business

A while back I was grocery shopping with my dear mother. She is in good health in her nineties, but she is no speed demon on foot. I really like that because the leisurely pace is so calming to me. We got the last items from the back and I suggested that I take the cart ahead and get in line for the wait. she agreed so I was solo with the cart. I was dressed to the nines and feeling fine, when I started up an isle with cold cabinets on one side and shelves of pickles on the other. Mid way up I spied a male shopper that was trying to appear nonchalant, gazing down the isle at me. My creep meter told me he was eyeing me. He was partially turned looking over his shoulder, with his cart diagonally blocking the isle. We were the only two in that isle. My creep meter warned me to observe carefully.

He was dressed in a wrinkly sloppy sport logo jersey, cruddy gym shorts, funky patterned and clashing colors and filthy sneakers. You get the picture, every woman's dream catch. His smirking grin was such a turn on too. NOT!!! I watched him with no reactions, creep meter now pegged at a ten! As I approached I did not ask him to move his offending cart. He stood there waiting for my reaction, I chose to ignore appearing to shop for pickles. Finally with no reaction coming, he said excuse me and jerked his cart to the side. He had turned toward me with a big grim. He was not wearing chonies and his little peg was standing straight out. Even though that was so far beyond disgusting, I emotionlessly shopped through like it isn't my favorite brand of pickle.

I have recounted this story to my natal girl friends and they have all told me that they have had to put up with that behavior all their adult lives and this probably won't be my last time. Oh joy, I really don't like pot bellied pigs. Hug. Joann

Anyone been flashed? I can hardly believe it still happens and yet a cis girl friend told me it happened to her recently, some drunk homeless guy apparently.

Luckily I live in a society that is a) a bit more reserved (so I don't get asked for a ->-bleeped-<- at least), and b) too cold for half the year to see enough of my body to make any kind of comment. But it sucks in the summer. All I have to do is wear skinny jeans and a tank top and a few comments are inevitable. It is one of the side effects of living in a society that views women as objects of public consumption. And, trust me, any novelty will wear off fast enough. I just feel embarrassed and unsafe, regardless of how relatively innocuous the comment is.

Hell, my girlfriend's 16 year old sister gets catcalled. People can be really, really gross human beings when there isn't anything around to stop them.

Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on October 28, 2013, 04:58:59 PMBest policy is to ignore them completely. Leave social outreach organizations and public pressure to get the fighting done. Much safer that way.

Or better yet, be part of the public pressure and support the social outreach organizations. I also recommend headphones when walking alone. You are much less likely to get catcalled if they know you won't be able to hear it.