My first foray into trying to communicate with other androgynes consisted of me joining a mailing list.
This was about the time of the "ZOMG XERXES FROM 300 IS SO ANDROGYNOUS!" thing.
The mailing list was RIFE with argument between the male and female bodied androgynes arguing over who was a real androgyne. Each group, male and female, was claiming that the other "didn't know what it was to be androgynous."
Scared me right out of communication with other androgynes, it did.
In fact, the only reason I ever came to Susan's in the first place (even though I knew it had an androgyne board) was because my fiancée needed people like her to talk to. I avoided other androgynes like the plague because of that mailing list.