I am writing this because I have this duality and sadness that has come with the knowledge I feel I have gained since transitioning four years ago.  I am 22, a college student a year out from starting law school, and I am fortunate enough to pass extremely well; my co-workers and many of my friends don't know.  I know it seems irrational to come to the conclusion that I have, but I wonder what its going to be like to live my life....forever single.  I know that some people have success, and I have no problem getting an attractive and kind man, but unfortunately I doubt I will ever have what most people have.  I have accepted that in other areas, but I find myself alone on a Saturday night, despite having a relatively full social life majority of the time, and thinking about how low the chances are that I'll ever find a relationship.  I never used to want a relationship but since making some major life changes, going back and excelling in college, being independent and working as a gymnastics coach, and ultimately living a normal city girl life - I've been dating and realizing that normalcy and openness in a relationship (guy brings girl around friends and family) is so unlikely.  Not only that, I guess I just am not sure that despite being on a track to a successful career, if I will find a joyous life...I'm sure I am not the only one.  I also want to say that I am happy being single, but I wonder if the joys of DINK/yuppiedom will be enough for me...of course altruism and pursuing positive interests are secure locks into deeper meaning, but I have that feeling that I am longing for something that simply cannot be.  Writing this has helped, actually.  Thoughts? Thanks.

I know it can be hard at times but your only 22 I think it may be a little too soon to write off love. Just give it time I believe you can find what your looking for just don't give up and never settle for a person less than you deserve.

Hey baby! What is this negative thinking stuff? Let's see you pass well, are educated, on the career fast track and yet you don't see how that could attract the right someone? I think if you relax a little and let your personality shine you will attract the right person. I still have some hope for myself and I just started HRT at 47!! Up your confidence baby, you will do fine. You have no idea what the future will bring so quit worrying and just be you. A lot of people would be attracted to what you have to offer them and it will happen when everything is right. Please PM me if you ever need to for some private girl talk. I will get you through this as you are my sister and I want to see you excel at all you do. Take care baby. BIG HUG!! 

And now...
You just be you

Well your still wet behind the ears as 22 is way young.
Enjoy life enjoy being a beautiful young intelligent woman. What more could you ever want?

Men?? They will come so don't fret.
Remember they just mess up the place.

Well done on being you.

Jen

Charsock,

* You pass "extremely well"
* You are educated and anticipate going to law school
* You have friends and a "full social life"

What am I missing here?  Are you pre-op?

i also dont get it - what really is the issue - what should keep you from having a relationship? Are you pre-Op or planning to be non-OP? Then I can understand somewhat. But other than that - everything is possible for you just as with any other woman your age - if you want it it should be possible. Well one thing of course not, that is having kids with your genetics - but maybe you can find a guy who has already kids or if the regulations in your country allow it adopt kids, if that is what you want. Other women have that issue too if they have some conditions. What is it that you think is keeping you from not being single anymore?
I know for me it is just myself - I am single because I myself dont know what I am looking for... but for you it sounds like an issue with others, not yourself?