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Do your Family accept you?

Started by Naturally Blonde, November 16, 2013, 09:04:44 AM

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sam79

Only my mother fully accepts me. Nobody else talks to me any more.
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Paige0000

Honestly I want to think they are but the the constant use of the wrong name and pronouns plus my dad say he wishes I'd go back to being a "boy" again even though mum does call me sweetheart, buys me female attire etc. I want my daddy to think of me as his daughter soo much but I know the reality and I'm just going to have to live with it. xx
Be yourself regardless of what other may think of you. Tis your life not theirs. :)
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big kim

I had a strange outcome to coming out,my laid back Dad took a long time to come round,my Mum who held very racist & homophobic views accepted me straight away as did my sister who was very religious at the time. I've since met with several cousins & 2 Uncles and an Aunt who were all great.My other cousin was far too refined to ever have anything to do with an oik like me and I haven't seen her for 30 years, she always thought she was a step up from the rest of the family. My ex brother in law never really approved but hasn't the balls to say so to my face at my nephews wedding I saw him sat with his church buddies looking down his nose at me  a horrid little man who cheated on my sister used her for a punch bag and then left her to bring up 5 kids before leaving his second wife with a Downs syndrome daughter!My sister is bi like me,cousins Harry & Mike are gay & cousin Joe is a TV so they've all had plenty time to get used to people with a difference!
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Fernandabr

I Don't know if my family accepts me, I know they know, but no one talks about it. My mother keeps me saying to stop act like woman. I like to take shower a lot of times during the day, also I use base for my nails , so, she definetely knows that my actions are in a feminine way.

Also I've lived the last 10 years alone, no girls, never going out... so, it's pretty obvious that something doesn't fits, but i'm not that stupid, I can feel in the air that she knows. My sisters knows about the clothes I hide, I always take photos and send to them, they know since the beggining, and I believe my mother also knows, she just won't accept it.

Even my nieces knows about it, I did told them recently before break relation with my sister and her 2 daughters, (my 2 nieces) - "Gaby 12", "Michelle 17"

My old sister, who still lives with me and my mother, she knows and she said that she would do everything to support me, but sometimes, she hurt me by saying things like... stop that, asking me to hide the clothes, and that makes me feel sad.

So, I guess I'm alone in this path...
And at my lonely room, I cry...  It's sad! too bad!
My depression makes me think about end my life, maybe one day, cause' now I'll live my dream.
Nanda  The cute kitty =^_^=
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Janae


My mother does the rest of my family doesn't know. I'm not in contact with them so I could careless if they did or didn't.

My mothers acceptance is the only one that matters to me.


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Carrie Liz

My mom is my #1 fan. We're closer than we've ever been now. She can really see just how happy this whole thing is making me, and she's been 100% behind me since day 1, actually crying tears of happiness a few times because for the first time since I was 14 years old I was smiling again.

My uncle has suddenly become like my bodyguard, constantly making sure that I'm okay, constantly checking up on me, and always reminding me that he's only an 8-hour drive away if I need support.

My dad, unfortunately, is still trying to convince me that I'm not trans, I'm just taking a sexual fantasy too far. (Because as we all know, just because he sometimes imagines being a woman purely as a sexual turn-on, that automatically means that it's the same for everyone else... :/) and he's constantly explaining away all of the positive mental benefits I've gotten from transition. He's technically okay with it as long as it really is what I want, but I can tell that he's really not happy about it. (I do admittedly feel pretty guilty, because he seemed to take great pride in introducing me to other people by saying "this is my boy" in a prideful way.)

And finally, my aunt is another person that I'm closer to than ever recently, and she's supportive, and we've been talking more and on a deeper level than ever before.

That's all the family that I've got. I guess I can't complain. 3/4 openly supporting me with 0/4 outright rejecting me isn't too bad.
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Fernandabr

Quote from: Carrie Liz on November 17, 2013, 06:03:39 AM
My mom is my #1 fan. We're closer than we've ever been now. She can really see just how happy this whole thing is making me, and she's been 100% behind me since day 1, actually crying tears of happiness a few times because for the first time since I was 14 years old I was smiling again.

My uncle has suddenly become like my bodyguard, constantly making sure that I'm okay, constantly checking up on me, and always reminding me that he's only an 8-hour drive away if I need support.

My dad, unfortunately, is still trying to convince me that I'm not trans, I'm just taking a sexual fantasy too far. (Because as we all know, just because he sometimes imagines being a woman purely as a sexual turn-on, that automatically means that it's the same for everyone else... :/) and he's constantly explaining away all of the positive mental benefits I've gotten from transition. He's technically okay with it as long as it really is what I want, but I can tell that he's really not happy about it. (I do admittedly feel pretty guilty, because he seemed to take great pride in introducing me to other people by saying "this is my boy" in a prideful way.)

And finally, my aunt is another person that I'm closer to than ever recently, and she's supportive, and we've been talking more and on a deeper level than ever before.

That's all the family that I've got. I guess I can't complain. 3/4 openly supporting me with 0/4 outright rejecting me isn't too bad.


You are pretty good with all the support you have, wish I can get the same positive results, so far... I dont even know what's gonna be, but no matter what, i'll cross the line.

By the way, you look stunning. 

Kisses bY Nanda ^^
Nanda  The cute kitty =^_^=
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Cassie 4 Ever!!!

Quote from: Janae on November 17, 2013, 05:20:18 AM
My mother does the rest of my family doesn't know. I'm not in contact with them so I could careless if they did or didn't.

My mothers acceptance is the only one that matters to me.

If i could have only one person in my family accept me, it would be my mother. Without out her, i would feel so bad, and lost. I could always talk to her and actually talked to her about feeling like a girl in 6th grade. SHe has been very supportive, while giving me space to let me make my own choices. Even now, she loves me all the same an if anything, our bond is even closer than before. :)
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Megumi

It's still too early to tell for me. I want to say they do but every action outside of words of acceptance show's they don't.

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Jill F

My wife and her family were amaaazing.  For a bunch of self-described conservatives, her parents were with me right from the get-go.  For all we knew, we'd be disowned and disinherited by me coming out.  My wife's stepfather is something of a homophobe, but he's kept his piehole shut so far.

My brother and sister are cool with it.  I'm pretty sure my brother is bisexual and lives in an extremely liberal, LGBT city and my sister had a really good friend in high school who is MTF.

My parents were slow to get back to me after coming out.   My mom told me after a couple of days that, "Your father and I discussed the matter and we decided that we're not going to disown you."  Nice, huh?  I was hoping for "We love you very much and just want for you to be happy."  Nope.
They still have yet to address me as Jill or "she/her" after 6 months.  We shall see what happens on Thanksgiving, but my guess is they will try to ignore the elephant in the room.

One of my uncles is not so keen on it, and I suspect that I am dead to him now.  Oh well.  I guess I did OK in the family department overall though, and I am grateful for every one of my relatives who doesn't regularly view the inside of their own colon.
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Riley Skye

I have found acceptance in my family. They are accepting of their "new" daughter. Honestly they are rather ignorant when it come to almost everything transgender and still use male pronouns and my birth name as 13.5 months later they're still growing used to me. They have definitely been making an effort to educate themselves and come to some group meetings with me. Also they have been very cool and been paying for my therapy, doctor visits and medications as I am still in school and currently jobless. I'm happy that they have been more than will to provide me with such support.
Love and peace are eternal
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WFane

My mother is weirded out about it, I haven't told my father, and I don't really plan on telling anyone. My brother found out on facebook, and sent me a message saying: "I'm not playing this game. Straighten up or ship out, sir."

So I told him to eff off, and now he's probably telling my dad. Whatever... I'm so done with the "family."
~Alyssa
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Paige0000

Quote from: Carrie Liz on November 17, 2013, 06:03:39 AM
My mom is my #1 fan. We're closer than we've ever been now. She can really see just how happy this whole thing is making me, and she's been 100% behind me since day 1, actually crying tears of happiness a few times because for the first time since I was 14 years old I was smiling again.

My uncle has suddenly become like my bodyguard, constantly making sure that I'm okay, constantly checking up on me, and always reminding me that he's only an 8-hour drive away if I need support.

My dad, unfortunately, is still trying to convince me that I'm not trans, I'm just taking a sexual fantasy too far. (Because as we all know, just because he sometimes imagines being a woman purely as a sexual turn-on, that automatically means that it's the same for everyone else... :/) and he's constantly explaining away all of the positive mental benefits I've gotten from transition. He's technically okay with it as long as it really is what I want, but I can tell that he's really not happy about it. (I do admittedly feel pretty guilty, because he seemed to take great pride in introducing me to other people by saying "this is my boy" in a prideful way.)

And finally, my aunt is another person that I'm closer to than ever recently, and she's supportive, and we've been talking more and on a deeper level than ever before.

That's all the family that I've got. I guess I can't complain. 3/4 openly supporting me with 0/4 outright rejecting me isn't too bad.

Wow Carrie I'm so happy that things have work out so well :). Having your family's full acceptance and support is a rare thing for sure. I'm still hopeful mine will turn around eventually  :)

You are such a beautiful soul inside and out and I hope things just get even better for you as time goes along xx
Be yourself regardless of what other may think of you. Tis your life not theirs. :)
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Northern Jane

My adopted folks didn't, especially my mom. I think my dad would have but mom wouldn't allow it. They sure had lots of time to adjust to the idea because I was showing signs from early childhood and was in open rebellion from puberty onward. HRT happened without parental consent and when SRS finally became available (1974) I got thrown out and disowned over it. I hardly ever saw them again. They are both dead now. It's a shame they couldn't have accepted me because I became the kind of person they could have been very proud of.

Strangely, when I was 40 I tracked down my birth mother and she hardly missed a beat. "You're mine regardless and I will always love you." was her feeling. I was a deep dark secret though; nobody but her husband knew I existed so we didn't get to spend much time together. She passed away nearly 3 years ago.

But life always has surprises in store!

Two years ago I was contacted by an uncle. They had found out I existed and sought me out - they wanted me to be part of the family! I now have a whole family, aunts, uncles, cousins, and they have all been wonderfully welcoming.

You just never know .......  ;D
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Starla

My brothers (I have 4 of them!) accept me 100% I feel incredibly lucky. I haven't really told my parents about me being trans, only hints here and there. I really only care about how my siblings feel and they were great. They actually encouraged me and there was nothing "weird" about it at all to them. I feel like the luckiest girl alive!
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FrancisAnn

Terrible day for me, older nice relatives had a death in their family. I had to go to a funeral & go in male mode. Hated every minute of it dressed as a male. However there is no way 80 year old relatives will understand that I'm correcting/or changing genders. They have always known & see me as a male.

What a mess?????
mtF, mid 50's, always a girl since childhood, HRT (Spiro, E & Fin.) since 8-13. Hormone levels are t at 12 & estrogen at 186. Face lift & eye lid surgery in 2014. Abdominoplasty/tummy tuck & some facial surgery May, 2015. Life is good for me. Love long nails & handsome men! Hopeful for my GRS & a nice normal depth vagina maybe by late summer. 5' 8", 180 pounds, 14 dress size, size 9.5 shoes. I'm kind of an elegant woman & like everything pink, nice & neet. Love my nails & classic Revlon Red. Moving back to Florida, so excited but so much work moving
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Ashey

I finally had a talk with my parents and it went amazingly well. Other than occasional brief conversations about the hormones, laser sessions, or name change stuff, we hadn't really discussed it aside from initial emails when I came out to them last year. It was more between my mom and I, but my dad listened in too and spoke up occasionally. They seem fine with it, and are merely just concerned that it'll be a hard path for me to take. But it's hard either way so.. ::) My mom also strongly believes there's a biological basis to it and that if we could see the medical histories of my birth families, that we'd probably find another trans family member. I'm not entirely sure it works that way but it was still nice that she doesn't think it's a choice. Then they both related stories of transgendered people that they knew, almost like "I have a gay friend" stories. xD We talked about clothes and body stuff, and I went on about the changes they should expect, and none of it seemed to bother them. :) And when I discussed changing my name, I decided to leave picking my middle name to my mom so she could have a part and say in all of this. She had an amused look and said it was an interesting idea, and that she'd try to think of one. Makes me feel a lot more confident and less worried about the next steps of my transition. ^__^
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KabitTarah

I have recent news on this front.

My parents are starting to understand my need. They will accept and want to support me as much as possible.

My BIL does not accept what I'm going through. He doesn't want his kids to see me transition (or after I've transitioned)... he's fine until some unknown point where that starts. Hopefully his tune will change when I'm further along. My sister I thought supported, but she appears to be letting her husband do the talking. It may be time to talk to her... but I have no idea how to go with that.

My brother and his wife support me and are there for me. ♥
~ Tarah ~

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NatalieT

I was very lucky in that my family accepted me unconditionally when I came out to them, my parents even going as far as helping me decide on what name would suit me!

My parents then began letting other family members know, so they wouldn't be shocked when I starting changing things. I have had amazing reactions from everyone, my Grandmother being someone I have talked deeply with about my feelings on numerous occasions now.

I tell my parents some of the horror stories that people on here go through with their families and at one point my mum broke down in tears and said "how can anyone turn their back on their own child? It jus makes me want to give them all a hug and tell them how important they are"

Obviously being trans sucks for me, just like it does for everyone else, but I think I got off lightly on the family front
"There's no point in living, if you can't feel alive"
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Naturally Blonde

Quote from: FrancisAnn on November 16, 2013, 08:05:00 PM
I have a 1/2 brother that seems like your brother. I do not need him & I told him so point blank. That was 2 years ago & good riddance as they say.

Take care & good luck, girl friend

My brother is also my 1/2 brother. He has known about my transition for over a decade.
Living in the real world, not a fantasy
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