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Do you feel fat?

Started by Thundra, July 21, 2007, 01:49:22 PM

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Do you ever feel fat?

Don't be silly.
11 (15.5%)
Groan.
17 (23.9%)
I'm having a bad day, go away.
11 (15.5%)
Do these jeans make me look fat?
10 (14.1%)
I hate standing next to Twiggy over there.
12 (16.9%)
Don't be silly.
4 (5.6%)
No, I will not eat a cracker!
6 (8.5%)

Total Members Voted: 28

Kimberly

Tell me something please,

I am trying to discern if what I do is... normal in essence.

Now, for myself my internal 'map' says that I should be about 130lbs but roughly 5'5" or so, obviously I am taller in the waking world but 130lbs is 'right' to me. Now, as such I find I tend to feel 'fat' at 150lbs (I reached that once then blinked and found myself at 130lbs again) I LIKE this weight, and long ago I swore that I would never be fat. ... This is all fine an dandy as far as I know however how I remain like this does not seem proper; I eat once a day, and sometimes I have to force myself to do that. The short form is I feast or famine with the famine being the more normal state. I abhor solid food and quite literally can not think about what I am doing while I am eating else my throat closes off and the rest of the food on my plate rots. I hate that. But, that is what happens.

So, um, might there be any advice out there? Just telling me to 'eat more' is worthless, I am told I need to eat all of the time, it doesn't help, doesn't work, doesn't change a damn thing.

...

I basically really don't know what to do.





Any thoughts are welcome, thank you.
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Thundra

QuoteWhat would 129lbs with a height of 5'9" qualify as?

Anorexic in IMNSHO.

It depends on height, frame size, and age too, but 130# @ 5'9" is way low.
It speaks to the cartoonish image we have of women as promugated in Hollywood.
(i.e. you is fat and ugly if you don't look like this)

They are killing our young women, and even men are becoming susceptible to the disease now in greater numbers.

Now 130# at 5'5" sounds healthier looking, but it depends on exercise and diet too, not just statistics. I think at 5'9", you could weigh around 170# or better depending on your body type, frame size, muscle mass, etc. and still look very healthy.

Our perception of ourself is always different than what other people see. Especially so when we are in the throes of a disease like anorexia. You lose the ability to think rationally.

I know that I am overweight now because I am carrying a paunch for the first time in my life. [No! not the guy from Chips!] It's gross. But back then, I felt that I was fat when I weighed 140#, which was completely irrational. That is a full 80# less than I weigh now. And I eventually went far below 140#.

This is a tipping point that you can reach where you slide from extremely thin to unhealthy. It varies from person to person, but it sounds as if you are targeting it. If you go there, it will kill you. I was lucky, very lucky, to come back. But it affects your body for the rest of your life.

Concentrate more on how healthy you look, rather than how you look wearing this or that. many styles of clothing make everyone look heavy. But, when you are alone and nekid, or with someone and almost nekid, you can see whether you look healthy or not. Anorexic women look skinny, not healthy. And what good is looking skinny if you can't do anything, and nobody wants you?
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Lisbeth

Quote from: Thundra on July 21, 2007, 01:49:22 PM
I am struggling with middle-age weight gain for the first time in my life due to an injury.

It's psychologically debillitating.

For a former anorexic, I don't whether to be angry or proud?
Just like there is no such thing as a former alchoholic, there is no such thing as a former anorexic.  You had better be careful or you will be sucked into it again.  The number of middle-aged anorexics is growing rapidly.

All right.  Tink, Tay, Thundra, and anybody I missed.  Anorexia is a very ganderous condition.  It has the highest mortality rate of any condition listed in the DSM IV.  All of you, please look into getting help!
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Keira


Thoundra, 170 at 5 foot 9 is just over the healthy BMI limit of 25 if you've got a normal size female frame (which many TS have); if you've got an above normal frame for female (even more frequent), your under the upper limit.

Going by BMI, 130 at 5 foot 9, is still within healthy weight (18.5 and over) if you've got a normal female frame (with a large female frame, so that would put that weight as underweight then). How big is the wrist circumference?

My wrist is 6.1 for 6 foot, which is a small frame even for a female, so my ideal female weight if I'm not athletic is around 145, about 155-160s if I'm athletic, that's what I'm shooting for.


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Thundra

Th<o>undra, 170 at 5 foot 9 is just over the healthy BMI limit of 25 if you've got a normal size female frame (which many TS have); if you've got an above normal frame for female (even more frequent), your under the upper limit.

Keira, yeah I know, but you have to understand that when you are talking to a "former" anorexic [correct Lisbeth, just like alcoholism], you try not to give a "hard" target, or one that is ridiculously out of reach. So, 170# @ 5'9" is on the low side, but do you realize how much another 10 or 20 pounds looks like to an anorexic? Think Mt. Everest. You gotta try to go as small as possible, and incremental. [Actually, if people transitioning used the same psychology that is taught to recovering anorexics, it would greatly benefit them.]

I am a little better than six feet and a size 14, and I still see myself as "fat." Get the idea?
I know of what I speak. If I didn't have the poncherelli with me, I'd be pretty happy actually.
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Sheila

Yes, I am overweight!!!  I haven't been under 200 lbs since I was in 9th grade. I have tried all the diets and I feel I'm in good shape as far as health goes. I ride a bike in the summer, 17miles a day, never to lose an ounce. I'm 5'9" and I weigh in at between 220 and 230. I still have arms that are quite muscular and they are at 16 inches around and my wrists are 8 inches. I have been on hormones for about 10 years and I'm post-op 3years now. I have lost weight and a lot of muscle, arms use to be 19 inches. I have C-cups but they look like they are A-cups when you look at my body. I wish I was small and petite, but it aint going to happen in my life time.
Sheila
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RebeccaFog


I don't believe in BMI

    Some people's genetic makeup simply defies the BMI and these people are all made to feel bad.  I'm not making excuses for myself.  I'm 5-10 and 186.  I can drop weight in 2 weeks just by walking it off. So, I'm not using my own condition as an excuse to ignore the BMI.
    I just really don't accept it as a standard.  It's a form of terror upon innocent people whose bodies can never be anything other than what they are.

    I'm not advocating for couch potatoism either.  I just believe that if a person treats themself well, that they can be healthy despite what experts tell them.
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Wendy

Hey I have my records from 8th grade and at 13 I was 5 feet 7.5 inches and 117 pounds! 

I think my bathroom scale is broken.  I have gained weight in the past two years (I love juxtaposing 13 and 2 years)  with my assorted after meal mints.  I think they contain fat boosters or something.   By the way I am no longer a waif.  I think I have heavy bones.
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mikke

Am I the only guy in this poll? *shrug*

Yes, yes yes! I feel fat all the time and nothing helps. OF course, being bulimic and overweight is a nice indicator there...
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TheBattler

Groan,

When I was not doing exercise I went from a size 12 skirt to size 16. I brought some jeans in Sydney and now I am worried they will be to loose - I need to loose some weight to fit into my ball dress  ;D.  I am now swimming twice a week to help me burn that awful fat. I hate it when I did not exercise.

Alice

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Suzy

Yes, I've hit a plateau on my weight loss and it's driving me crazy.  7 more pounds to go and then I'll feel about right.
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Wendy

Quote from: Kristi on July 24, 2007, 11:06:51 PM
Yes, I've hit a plateau on my weight loss and it's driving me crazy.  7 more pounds to go and then I'll feel about right.

I got to find some chocolate.  I need to eat some chocolate.
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ChildOfTheLight

6'/139#.

I'm definitely not anorexic -- I run a lot and I eat a lot.

Voted "I love my body."   :)
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Rachael

im technically obease according to my bmi, but i really dont look it >< im curvey, and dont really have much belly to speakof.i guess im just dense :D

R :police:
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tinkerbell

Quote from: Rachael on August 12, 2007, 01:06:15 AM
im technically obease according to my bmi

Oh yeah, you are really obese, Rachael!  ::) ::) ::)

Get real girl!  ;D

tink :icon_chick:
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Rachael

:P my bmi is 32!!! im obease for my hight :P oh well, i think i have a heart of lead! :P

R :police:
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Buffy

Quote from: Rachael on August 12, 2007, 01:18:57 AM
:P my bmi is 32!!! im obease for my hight :P oh well, i think i have a heart of lead! :P

R :police:

Advice: Grow another 12 inches you will be fine, BMI will be spot on < 25 then.

Buffy
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Rachael

i dont want to be 6ft 9!
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RebeccaFog

Quote from: Rachael on August 12, 2007, 04:05:14 AM
i dont want to be 6ft 9!

Just do as you're told.  Why do you have to be so difficult about everything?  >:D

:laugh:                                              :laugh:


(I'm joking)
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Shana A

Yes, and the only thing that might help would be to eat something. Chocolate usually makes me feel better  >:D

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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