Yeah, there's no reason to dwell on the bad stuff, but my son and his wife just cancelled out of Thanksgiving, and with it any chance of me seeing them before Christmas.  Hope I can see them, and more importantly my grandson on that holiday, but there's no way to tell if they will show up then either.  He hasn't talked to me in such a long time I don't even want to think about it.  I was going to cry but it won't do any good.  JoAnn just went to work, and she was about to break down in tears as she left.

Need to get away and do something.

Heartache.

Big hug! I'm sorry, hon. I know it hurts. Hugs, Devlyn

so sorry too.

-HUGS-

BIG HUG Kathy. This will be my first major holiday without my family as well. You are not alone, you have all 8,000+ of us!

Devlyn, Eve, Malachite, and Jessica.  Thank you. 

Took some time to sit in the sun and think about who I am, and what I've lost.  There's so much to be thankful for, and although it hurts I have to let my sons live as the free thinking adults they are.  I gave them all the love I could, and my wife and I raised them to respect and understand others. I'm sure one day they'll open their eyes and see why I had to live my own life from now on.  And for what it's worth I'll still love them more than myself, even if they never know it.

JoAnn and I will go to my sister's house tomorrow for dinner, and we'll have a good time.

K

Kathy, I can imagine how disappointing that is. I hope you enjoy your holiday in spite of it.

Keep in mind that whether or not you're around your son, he carries a piece of you with him all the time.

Hugs from me.

It hurts for lots of us with family. I only have 1 aunt & some cousins however we are not close & they would never understand that I would correct/change my gender so I never see them.

Try & not dwell on it, maybe try & find some friends close by to go see.

Good luck GF.

We take our losses... but they're still sad .
I've had the smallest look into losing family, I'm sure some of it will happen, and it's the worst feeling in the world.

♥

Be yourself and try not to think of those who can't accept.

Kathy - I'm sorry that this has happened to you. Holidays really suck when you have difficulties with the people that are close to you. This is my first Thanksgiving and first Christmas that I will be alone and I'm trying to make the best of it, but it's really, really hard.

Suzi, Francis, Kabit and Eva.  Thank you for your kindness.  Today is bright and sunny, there's a warm fire in the woodstove, and my heart is at peace again.   Hugs

But for you Eva, and extra warm embrace.  Two years ago I spent a snowy Thanksgiving alone in our old family home in Michigan.  I was pre-HRT, confused, and months away from this new life.  It was terribly difficult, and there were a lot of tears.  I'll be thinking of you hun.  Take care.   

K

Don't feel bad hun, my day sucked to the point i wished i stayed home and partied with Bud and Jim instead. First my mom pulled me aside and at first i thought i was gonna get a how are things going.....but nope. Instead i get told i should have waited until i actually have a vagina before i show up to a family event dressed how i was. I was wearing a plain black skirt, grey cotton blouse, black tights and heels. But that wasn't the worst part of the day. When i was in the basement grabbing some sodas my aunt asks if she can speak to me probably. I say sure so we go sit down and i am asked f i perform regular self checks....my aunt is a PCP. When i replied not yet (yes i know i should be) she pulls a pair of gloves from her purse and asks if she can perform one for me. Worse yet she then asks about doing a prostate exam!! For crying out loud im only 30 with no family history!! So just when my day couldn't possibly get any worse, when im outside having a cigarette my uncle says to me "you know it would have been a lot cheaper and easier for all of us to deal with if you decided to be gay".....i mean really.

So don't worry hun, while sometimes it sucks not getting to see family, sometimes seeing them sucks even worse.

Quote from: kariann330 on November 28, 2013, 08:17:00 PM
... i get told i should have waited until i actually have a vagina before i show up to a family event dressed how i was. I was wearing a plain black skirt, grey cotton blouse, black tights and heels.
... i am asked f i perform regular self checks....my aunt ...pulls a pair of gloves from her purse and asks if she can perform one for me. Worse yet she then asks about doing a prostate exam!!
... uncle says to me "you know it would have been a lot cheaper and easier for all of us to deal with if you decided to be gay."

Kariann.  As far as bad Thanksgivings go you're the winner.  So sorry.

Quote from: kathyk on November 28, 2013, 09:26:08 PM
Kariann.  As far as bad Thanksgivings go you're the winner.  So sorry.

That's for sure!

Mine wasn't bad at all... despite some of the comments (from my father and the women) which were pretty minor.