Kia Ora Suzi,

I went for "a few people know", but then 'cause & effect' comes into play... A few people tell a few 'more' people and a few 'more' people tell a few more people and so on....

When I transitioned I didn't know any thing about "Being Stealth", I just went about my business ie, business as usual, and the general public just took it for granted I was 'born this way' =a female...

I'm what I like to call "Semi-Stealth" I have a "T" shirt in my closet which I air out (and wear out) on the odd occasion...

Like other members have mentioned, I don't hide my past, but I don't broadcast it either, it all boils down to a 'need to know' bases, I can't see any point in deliberately rocking the boat just for the effect...

Metta Zenda
 

I put total Stealth (for over 25 years). But my parents and siblings know, also my partners family. Both families live in the UK, I however do not, I live in another country.
My employer, friends and colleagues, neighbours don't know anything. My birth certificate, passport, driving license all have the correct gender marker showing.
Even my local doctor doesn't know anything, as thankfully I've not had any reason to disclose my history.

When I lived in the UK I was half stealth. My employer and work colleagues and local doctor  knew but no one else did around where I was living.

As a transgender woman, I guess I'm fortunate to have been able to get on with my life without being stared at or harassed or worse, but I would've given anything to have just been born normal.

Besides my parents..

Only my roommate and my ex boyfriend know that I am trans..

The rest of my friends , think I was born female.. I pass extremely well and have very female mannerism .

My roommate has told me, she cant believe how much of a girl I am.. I thanked her for the compliment.

Not a secret, but I'm not telling  Wait...you guys know right?

My family, friends, and coworkers know. Old clients know and are cool, new clients don't know. Kids call me Bea in public so I don't get outed. Nothing like having your 6 year old screaming, "Dad, dad, dad, daaaaaad! I gotta go pee.."

My family and friends know, but many of my neighbors and pretty much none of my coworkers know. I don't keep it a secret on Facebook, however... pretty easy to put it together when like 1/3 of my friends are trans...

Like Seyranna said, it's pretty impossible to be 100% stealth. Someone is always going to know, and with the increased exposure we're getting in the news and media, it's not like people are completely ignorant to us anymore, either.

My family knows, but they all abandoned me except for my mom and 1 nephew. But I rarely see him.

And a handful of others at a support group, and you ladies.
Nobody else knows. I had some friends who know when I went full time but I'm no longer friends with them;I moved away.

In the next year or so I'm going completely stealth.

My current boyfriend and girlfriend do not know either.

Only my family, my husband knows, but his family doesn't, he doesn't want them to know, thats ok, its our own private business.

I have no idea how many people I run across can or cant tell I am trans. I dont give it much though............

What I did learn is if someone is a woman then they need to be a woman...... That involves keeping your mouth shut. Now if someone does not mind being a trans person by all means run your mouth............

I choose to just keep my mouth shut.

Oh I tell everyone. In fact I had a hat made especially that lights up and spells "Trans-woman" and I wear it all the time.   It plays a tune almost but not entirety unlike The Grand Old Duke of York.

More seriously, I don't tell anyone ever and no-one has asked.

Rosie.

What ? You didn't wear it out last time we met for coffee. 

Quote from: H, H, H, Honeypot! on December 01, 2013, 01:49:59 PM
Oh I tell everyone. In fact I had a hat made especially that lights up and spells "Trans-woman" and I wear it all the time.   It plays a tune almost but not entirety unlike The Grand Old Duke of York.

More seriously, I don't tell anyone ever and no-one has asked.

Rosie.

*spits out coffee* I was thinking of wearing a neon sign myself.

Quote from: nikkit72 on December 01, 2013, 01:59:16 PM
What ? You didn't wear it out last time we met for coffee. 

I did but Annie wanted to borrow it as a post-modernist deconstructionist statement on the continued influence of the patriarchy in perpetuating misogyny via the mass media.  It turns out only one person understood what trans-woman meant but it did keep her head cosy. Then Mojo wanted to borrow it to conduct some research into current attitudes and found out that 8 out of 10 cats are scared of a large dog regardless of whether he is wearing a hat or not.

Quote from: Jill F on December 01, 2013, 02:32:12 PM
*spits out coffee* I was thinking of wearing a neon sign myself.

What colour neon?

Rosie.

Quote from: H, H, H, Honeypot! on December 01, 2013, 03:48:47 PM

What colour neon?

Rosie.

Pink, of course. 

Quote from: H, H, H, Honeypot! on December 01, 2013, 03:48:47 PM
I did but Annie wanted to borrow it as a post-modernist deconstructionist statement on the continued influence of the patriarchy in perpetuating misogyny via the mass media......

I'm open with my friends and co-workers, allowing me to make the occasional joke about my transition.  Like the other day, when one coworker was talking about male yoga ("broga").  Another woman commented that she should change her gender expression to get in, so I wondered out loud "I wonder if they would let me in...?".  The entire room started laughing, and one person told me to pick a gender and stick with it!

Quote from: HelloKitty on December 01, 2013, 07:42:11 AM
My current boyfriend and girlfriend do not know either.

I slip between categories. My co-workers, students, friends, and family know. But no one else does unless I choose to tell. I have new casual friends and colleagues at conferences who do not know.

Quote from: Katie on December 01, 2013, 01:03:04 PM
I have no idea how many people I run across can or cant tell I am trans. I dont give it much though............

What I did learn is if someone is a woman then they need to be a woman...... That involves keeping your mouth shut. Now if someone does not mind being a trans person by all means run your mouth............

I choose to just keep my mouth shut.

That's true. That's why I'm not out at work, and why I don't really share my Facebook with any of my coworkers. I'd rather just be considered another girl there instead of a girl*

* - really a guy.

At least if I don't tell them, they can't argue it. It's not like they're going to prove it.

I tell people that need to know. Unfortunately living with a roommate that just about anybody can clock just by talking to her for 5 seconds, I get clocked by anybody who walks in the house.

Quote from: Oriah on November 30, 2013, 01:31:27 PM
I don't advertise it, but I don't hide it either

Ditto!!!

I can't hide it.I'm 6'1 and a half,big built with big hands and feet and a growly voice.I look OK but people can tell.I worked for 10 years as a bus driver and word got round pretty quick,soon the novelty wore off.I suppose I'm stealth in plain sight!