QuoteI've always wondered why more girls don't just wait it out on hrt and save money for surgeries before diving feet first into full time. Some people sadly don't naturally pass before hrt & surge. To me it all goes back to planing and being 100% honest with yourself before just putting yourself out there with the wolves. We all know what we look like and that should always be taken into account beforehand. I know many girls who waited till things were further enough along before going full time. I think it's better to ease into things gradually. Getting clocked is the lest of any girls worries if you ask me. I tend to look at things from a safety point. It's just not safe to jump out there prematurely.
It may not be fun waiting but nothing worth having/doing is ever easy. Why set yourself up for what could be easily avoided?
I very much agree with that, as sadly we live lives of compromised dreams and curtailed expectations (though, sometimes we do get lucky and life conjures up the dream!). It is very important to simulate what how you may look and how you intend to cope with being TS before embarking on the nitty-gritty involving surgery and hormones. Create some personal rules, decide the best case and worst case scenarios as well as the usual pro's and con's list.
I tend to go with expecting the worst but planning to get as best outcome as possible. I guess that's probably a pessimistic outlook, but I think with transexualism its healthy to be pessimistic, sadly. Assume that the worst will happen (you won't pass, you'll have trouble, etc etc so that you can better plan for it and prepare your mind.
As for me, I'd love to wear maxi dresses in summer and be an elegant female, but I very much doubt that'll ever be possible (especially as I'd prefer a slow and low-dose HRT regime). So I've tempered this depressing highly probable outcome by deciding that I would wear some stylish female trouser suits instead. That would be my "look". I'd much rather have more flexibility of course, but this would be a great compromise, as I could still wear female clothes yet without the issues of wearing socially inflammatory things as dresses and skirts. There aren't enough transexuals or sympathisers in the world in order to change how most people view us, so until then, we have to play the binary gender game or face the consequences.
By all means, rebel, undermine and defy gender convention & stay true to yourself as much as you can, but do it wisely so you don't make more trouble for yourself.
You can't beat the system, collective society rules.
So, instead - play the system intelligently.
You can only undermine it brick by brick, slowly and subtly. Until a day may come in decades or centuries when being transgender becomes acceptable & ordinary.
Simples! :p
