Quote from: Cute Ida on December 25, 2013, 02:28:35 AM
Hello everyone,
How have you dealt with your parents refusing to call you by your preferred name? Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and I'm grateful that they've helped me out when I was unemployed recently and allowed me to come over to their house for the first time this year for thanksgiving and christmas after transitioning but they keep calling me by my old name and I can't stand it! I've been living full time as a woman for 14 months and been on hormones for 14 months yet they won't use my preferred pronouns and name. They don't even want me to tell my cousins or aunts and uncles or any other family member that I'm trans. At least my friends, my sister and coworkers use my preferred name but it really hurts that my parents won't call me Ida. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and how did you deal with it?
Love is not always a two way street.
You can love them 100% but, if they simply refuse to accept your new name and the fact you are not the gender they use, then it is not a 100% reciprocation and no amount of convenient financial aid is going to be sufficient to cover for that. The fact they want it kept secret is proof positive they are ashamed of you. No I am not sugar coating it. I don't know you, it is just an opinion. Take it as nothing more than that.
But that is how I see it.
Sometimes you need to force people to accept, that their lack of acceptance might have severe repercussions. How would they like being told they show less love for you than mere co workers? Hey if a co worker can do it, they have no reason to be less than a co worker.
Stop dancing around the truth.
If they won't call you Ida, it's because they don't want Ida, they want the other person.
That's basically telling you they don't want YOU.
Are you willing to deal with that?