I hate asking my dad for that stuff that girls use every month, It's humiliating and unfair that I have to deal with these things, Honestly I couldn't but to cry it just fustrates me, And my mom not helping talking about it's a cleanse in our body and that she wants to teach me how to insert tampons, That's nasty and did not help, I wanted to punch a wall or throw something, I'm so built up in Anger and rage mostly because I keep forgetting that it even happens to me, I can't wait till it's gone!

Hey, Sorry for your pain man. I know it sucks, one day you can be worry free ! Have you ever thought about going on birth control? If you look it up on line there's ways that you can take it to extend the time between them? I have heard of some guys doing that though I have never myself. Research on google a little bit maybe you can see what I am talking about.

Though you need a doctor to prescribe to birth control!

Good luck man

Quote from: thatboyfresh on December 26, 2013, 04:07:54 PM
Hey, Sorry for your pain man. I know it sucks, one day you can be worry free ! Have you ever thought about going on birth control? If you look it up on line there's ways that you can take it to extend the time between them? I have heard of some guys doing that though I have never myself. Research on google a little bit maybe you can see what I am talking about.

Though you need a doctor to prescribe to birth control!

Good luck man

No I'm not because it makes your breast grow larget and I really can't stand the sight of that

I know your dad said he'd bring you to a gender therapist, have you gotten any further along in finding one?

You could tell your dad it is embarrassing for you to have to ask him for that stuff, and maybe he would agree to put a little money in a jar every month so you could buy the stuff for yourself when you go out without asking. When he notices the money is gone he could just stick more in it. That way you'd never have to discuss it.

Quote from: Simon on December 26, 2013, 05:32:30 PM
You could tell your dad it is embarrassing for you to have to ask him for that stuff, and maybe he would agree to put a little money in a jar every month so you could buy the stuff for yourself when you go out without asking. When he notices the money is gone he could just stick more in it. That way you'd never have to discuss it.

I don't ever go out and get them my dad does I personally don't even like going in that section, Tha's even worse but that's just me

Quote from: LearnedHand on December 26, 2013, 04:44:54 PM
I know your dad said he'd bring you to a gender therapist, have you gotten any further along in finding one?

I haven't had any luck finding one my school counselour said she'd help

Leave a note for him or send a text. I can't stand buying or asking for that stuff anymore than you can. I actually leave it as late as possible to do so, hoping someone else will notice. Sometimes I'd left it so long that I had to tell them to go to the shops there and then, because there was nothing left. Since I've moved out I've got to buy them for myself, but the road I have to cross to get to the shop scares me to death (I've been nervous crossing roads since my accident a year ago, and it's so much larger than anything in the countryside where I grew up), and I get depressed and lethargic at that time. It doesn't help that people volunteer to go with you if they know you're going, but I get too self conscious to buy them with company. I ended up "borrowing" some at the end of last time, and refusing to buy more until I went to my parents for Christmas, nodded at them in the shop and mumbled "I need those".

Some guys find tampons help as you can forget about them once they're in. I keep meaning to try, I tried them before but never trusted them to work and took them out before I left the bathroom. I was scared of getting it on me with them too, but a guy suggested wrapping paper around my hand first so that couldn't happen.

Don't forget that cis guys sometimes have to use them too. My grandfather had a prostate biopsy a few years ago and was given pads in case of any bleeding. He had to use them too (after my nan taught him how, he thought they stuck on himself like a plaster!) And I mean actual sanitary pads, not incontinence ones or anything.

Quote from: AlexanderC on December 26, 2013, 08:41:42 PM
Leave a note for him or send a text. I can't stand buying or asking for that stuff anymore than you can. I actually leave it as late as possible to do so, hoping someone else will notice. Sometimes I'd left it so long that I had to tell them to go to the shops there and then, because there was nothing left. Since I've moved out I've got to buy them for myself, but the road I have to cross to get to the shop scares me to death (I've been nervous crossing roads since my accident a year ago, and it's so much larger than anything in the countryside where I grew up), and I get depressed and lethargic at that time. It doesn't help that people volunteer to go with you if they know you're going, but I get too self conscious to buy them with company. I ended up "borrowing" some at the end of last time, and refusing to buy more until I went to my parents for Christmas, nodded at them in the shop and mumbled "I need those".

Some guys find tampons help as you can forget about them once they're in. I keep meaning to try, I tried them before but never trusted them to work and took them out before I left the bathroom. I was scared of getting it on me with them too, but a guy suggested wrapping paper around my hand first so that couldn't happen.

Don't forget that cis guys sometimes have to use them too. My grandfather had a prostate biopsy a few years ago and was given pads in case of any bleeding. He had to use them too (after my nan taught him how, he thought they stuck on himself like a plaster!) And I mean actual sanitary pads, not incontinence ones or anything.

Yea... But how often do you find not trying to be an ass just asking,  My dad thinks its funny that I call myself a man yet has to deal with thoes

Quote from: Brandon on December 26, 2013, 08:51:39 PM

Yea... But how often do you find not trying to be an ass just asking,  My dad thinks its funny that I call myself a man yet has to deal with thoes

Sorry, I didn't understand a word of the first part of that...

Men are awkward around this whole thing to begin with, he probably doesn't know how to react, or can't imagine himself (the first example of a man he'd think of) dealing with it.

I'm not trying to make light of your guy's situation with those products because I remember before my hysto being annoyed with it. I did want to say that if you pass most of the time that nobody in the shops really gives second thoughts to a man buying that stuff. I will pick some up for my wife if she needs it without a second thought...a lot of guys do.

There's also a lot of reusable products. Buy it once, never be bothered again.

Washable pads: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=a9_sc_1?rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Areusable+menstrual+pads&keywords=reusable+menstrual+pads&ie=UTF8&qid=1388114899

For those able to stand the thought: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=menstrual+cup&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Amenstrual+cup

I haven't had to bother going to the feminine hygiene section since spring. A $30 investment has since saved me lots of time and money, and I never have to worry about running out of products.

Quote from: AlexanderC on December 26, 2013, 08:57:20 PM
Sorry, I didn't understand a word of the first part of that...

Men are awkward around this whole thing to begin with, he probably doesn't know how to react, or can't imagine himself (the first example of a man he'd think of) dealing with it.

I meant to say its not often that you find a man wearing pads, How do you think I feel, I feel awkward when I hear girls talk about that me and my boys just give em that look, I mean I just know figured out why you shouldn't ask a girl if their on their period, Yucky yucky, Heck my mom has me go in and grab hers sometimes

Quote from: Simon on December 26, 2013, 09:03:06 PM
I'm not trying to make light of your guy's situation with those products because I remember before my hysto being annoyed with it. I did want to say that if you pass most of the time that nobody in the shops really gives second thoughts to a man buying that stuff. I will pick some up for my wife if she needs it without a second thought...a lot of guys do.

Well I know that I get them for my mom sometimes

Quote from: LearnedHand on December 26, 2013, 09:31:04 PM
There's also a lot of reusable products. Buy it once, never be bothered again.

Washable pads: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=a9_sc_1?rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Areusable+menstrual+pads&keywords=reusable+menstrual+pads&ie=UTF8&qid=1388114899

For those able to stand the thought: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=menstrual+cup&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Amenstrual+cup

I haven't had to bother going to the feminine hygiene section since spring. A $30 investment has since saved me lots of time and money, and I never have to worry about running out of products

Well since I'm going to transition soon I won't do that, Because I nly have on more year and by then Ill have a T letter

What I'm trying to get you to see if that you're not the only guy who has to use them. There are not only trans guys, but also cis guys who have to use them. And trust me, they're just as unhappy about it as we are.

I know how you feel, I can't stand it either. I don't know why they want to talk about it, or what's interesting about it, but they do. You're not the only one.

Quote from: AlexanderC on December 26, 2013, 10:13:11 PM
What I'm trying to get you to see if that you're not the only guy who has to use them. There are not only trans guys, but also cis guys who have to use them. And trust me, they're just as unhappy about it as we are.

I know how you feel, I can't stand it either. I don't know why they want to talk about it, or what's interesting about it, but they do. You're not the only one.

I understand that I'm just saying it's rare, And I shouldn't have to go through this at all it's really embarrasing and humiliating, Its like a slap in the face, And that I'm getting laughed, This is when I get suicidal the most

Quote from: Brandon on December 26, 2013, 10:19:47 PM

I understand that I'm just saying it's rare, And I shouldn't have to go through this at all it's really embarrasing and humiliating, Its like a slap in the face, And that I'm getting laughed, This is when I get suicidal the most

You might understand the words, but you're not grasping that your perspective has to change for you to be able to deal with it better. You aren't alone in this, you're in the same situation as trans and cis guys all over the world. We can't change the fact that, for now, it happens to us, but we can change the way we cope.

I'm the same. I get depressed, I don't talk if I can help it, I snap at my friends, I skip meals, and yeah, the last time I was so close to ending it all. It would never have worked, but that's not the point, at that moment I would have done and tried anything which might have. That was my lowest point in two years, and it wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for that. Not even my missus knows that happened.

You reckon you'll be on T in a year, what's that 14 times at most? Stock up now and you'll only have to ask 7 or 8 times more. How long does the stress of asking last? 5 minutes at most? That's 35 minutes of your life,  not even an hour.

Ask over text, ask cryptically, think of a different name to it (I can only warn the missus by telling her that I'm laying [eggs] because I can't bring myself to say the words), listen to loud music when you're changing to distract yourself, stuff toilet paper up your nose, find what helps you cope, and do it. It won't get easier if you don't try things.

Quote from: Brandon on December 26, 2013, 04:35:21 PM

No I'm not because it makes your breast grow larget and I really can't stand the sight of that

I've been on birth control for over a year, my time of the month is super short and only one day is pad-worthy. And I have had literally no physical changes. Same as I was two years ago, just older-looking. Definitely no chest growth.
Look into the different options out there before saying no to them all. There's even non-hormonal ones if the estrogen puts you off.

Quote from: AlexanderC on December 26, 2013, 10:42:39 PM
You might understand the words, but you're not grasping that your perspective has to change for you to be able to deal with it better. You aren't alone in this, you're in the same situation as trans and cis guys all over the world. We can't change the fact that, for now, it happens to us, but we can change the way we cope.

I'm the same. I get depressed, I don't talk if I can help it, I snap at my friends, I skip meals, and yeah, the last time I was so close to ending it all. It would never have worked, but that's not the point, at that moment I would have done and tried anything which might have. That was my lowest point in two years, and it wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for that. Not even my missus knows that happened.

You reckon you'll be on T in a year, what's that 14 times at most? Stock up now and you'll only have to ask 7 or 8 times more. How long does the stress of asking last? 5 minutes at most? That's 35 minutes of your life,  not even an hour.

Ask over text, ask cryptically, think of a different name to it (I can only warn the missus by telling her that I'm laying [eggs] because I can't bring myself to say the words), listen to loud music when you're changing to distract yourself, stuff toilet paper up your nose, find what helps you cope, and do it. It won't get easier if you don't try things.

I get what your saying but Bio guys don't get thoes that's my point yea they use em but not for the same reasons, I get it though,  I really can't cope with being male and having thoes, Yea maybe temporarily but my thoughts are still there about everything, That's nasty feeling blood come out of you and it's fustrating, I can't really deal, And don't know how much longer I can take