Pretty much everything. 50 years of being socialized as a boy and then having that rug snatched out from under me caused that. It makes me feel like a clumsy elephant in a china closet, and I'm deathly afraid of doing something stereotypically male in a female setting.

Some of it has been coming naturally, but handwriting, voice, walking & mannerisms, appearance - they all still need work.

I'm really bad at opening up and allowing myself to be vulnerable.  I like talking to people and listening to chit chat, but I'm still very reticent about actually talking about myself or my feelings.  I'm very bad at sharing and very little of my inner dialog is suitable for casual conversation.  It makes girl-talk a bit one-sided and difficult for me.

I curse a lot...

but Im working on it

This handwriting thing is a bit weird! I had very neat handwriting coming out of hormones the first time, but it gradually got worse and worse. About a month or so ago I started to notice that I was unintentionally writing much more neatly again.

As for the other stuff, I do have a low tolerance for melodramatics but I still try to be supportive and empathetic when someone is upset regardless of how they express it. The one thing I try to avoid is "fixing the problem" which is something men have the tendency to do - "If you just do x then everything will be alright."

The question maybe could also be asked, "what masculine things do you still hold on to?" - the problem is, in our childhood and youth we were schooled in the way of being boys and men, and for the most part we learned them subconsciously regardless of our gender orientation.

Things that men tend to do is talk over the top of women. I really had to force myself to stop doing that. Even when I knew it was a thing men did I still found myself doing it even as recently as last year.

OMG things that come out. Handwriting!!

His handwriting was scrawl, mine is neat and I even take pride in it and enjoy writing.

It is stunningly obvious in my journal, just watching the style change is looking at an E driven progression!

wait girls, is this for real?

I mean my handwritting was always absolutly terrible! like you cant even imagine...
is it possible that it ll change?

I always though that this was bs buuut , i dunno...

My posture. Sometimes I feel like I'm not sitting or stand in a very feminine way, though it may just be me being self conscious.

Luckily, my cursive is absolutely gorgeous. 

 I eat like a guy.  I hate it..  I am a slender girl. I am also a vegetarian.  But when I am hungry, I eat way to fast. 

Borrowing from another thread, singing

Voice, definitely voice! I sound like Lurch opening the door to the Addams Family house. EECK!

Quote from: FalsePrincess on December 30, 2013, 12:45:14 AM
I curse a lot...

but Im working on it

Me too,as Jamie and Devlyn will tell you!I grew up in a fishing port,my best friend gave swearing lessons(really), I was a biker who worked in factories and warehouses,I had a boyfriend who was a soldier so I got a lot of practice

Good at : Empathy, feminine posture and movements (gymnastics as child helped a lot!), voice (somewhat).

Bad at: Terrible handwriting, disinterest in marriage & having/adopting children, I always have to sort out spiders in our house (I love them!), I eat loads of food and very fast (need to learn to eat in a more socially acceptable manner haha) and I guess I suck at make-up (but I'm not really that fussed bout it anyway, I just wash my face and moisturise)

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i'm the same way jenny, i love food lol..

Hair but I just haven't had enough time with it to learn. I will be good at it. Just need more practice.


As far as hand writing I've always wrote like a girl.

Quote from: Jennygirl on December 29, 2013, 10:05:49 PM
Oh and another thing I suck at is eating small portions. I love to eat eat eat.

yea, definitely the eating thing

I can't think of a thing. I'm emotional, empathetic and sensitive...nd always have been. It's not HRT. I write like a girl, talk like a girl, walk like  girl and m relly enthusiastic nd lways have been. In fact, once I was on a girls night out and the one girl was like I totally forgot urr a guy. You're just like us. You should prolly geet a sex change lol how right she was.

If ur having trouble, a lot of people say observe women. That's bad advice. Well it's okay advice. But the best thing you can do is make friends with girls and become BFFs. Immerse yourself. But you might lose yourself so be sure this is for you. Once you become girly and demure and delicate it's hard to change back. I mean I get treated so much better now and the world seems so nice. A caveat: if ur into macho things like cars, football, engineering, etc don't talk about it around girls. Sure some girls are tomboys but ime most girls are, well, girly and girls can be mean and won't want to hang with someone who talks of boring things. Gain female interests. Romance boos and films, decorating, baaking (not cooking), fashion, celeb gossip, makeup, etc. Oh and of course, MEN. Me and my new BFF talk hot guys all the time.

I have a really hard time speaking candidly. In my opinion, I whether I'm talking or writing, I sound too professional...

LOL... I posted a Before & After with my handwriting samples... I had been actively trying to make it better pre-OOTC... but post-OOTC it changed completely. Still... I've always had good handwriting. I use a fountain pen.

I don't know what my faults are yet... I can agree with snakes and spiders... I'm not too scared, though I hate killing bugs... never ever liked that and I won't go near wasps without that 10-foot spray. It was about the worst thing ever when my wife called me in for that task . I hope karma is good to me.

I can't do makeup. I haven't tried very hard.
I'm assertive when I know I'm right.

.... what about those feminine faults that you *do* have?

I can be a low talker sometimes (when I'm not excited). I can get neurotic over little things (I did that to my wife in a facebook message last night - she laughed at something I wrote in Susan's chat... turns out she couldn't even see it). I'm concerned with my weight, but have the urge to binge constantly.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on December 30, 2013, 12:00:46 PM
Oh and of course, MEN. Me and my new BFF talk hot guys all the time.

Good point...and something I'm going to have trouble with since I'm more into women. Late last year I found myself at a dinner table full of gorgeous lesbian ladies, it was seriously the best night I'd had in ages. They were all in relationships - with partners also at the table - so there wasn't any talk about hot women (maybe my presence tempered it too) but it did make me wonder how lesbian women put up with socialising in wider hetro circles where women might chat endlessly about hot guys and men in general. I've been meaning to find out since then.

As for spiders and creepy crawlies...I can deal with them up to a point. We have large spiders in Australia known as huntsmen that often make their way inside, they're like small tarantulas and like to sit on the wall. Pretty harmless but they freak a lot of people out (understandably). I just find a plastic container, catch them and throw them outside...but they are easily spooked and if one runs towards me when I'm trying to catch it I squeal like a girl and run away! 

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 30, 2013, 12:33:36 PM
Good point...and something I'm going to have trouble with since I'm more into women. Late last year I found myself at a dinner table full of gorgeous lesbian ladies, it was seriously the best night I'd had in ages. They were all in relationships - with partners also at the table - so there wasn't any talk about hot women (maybe my presence tempered it too) but it did make me wonder how lesbian women put up with socialising in wider hetro circles where women might chat endlessly about hot guys and men in general. I've been meaning to find out since then.

As for spiders and creepy crawlies...I can deal with them up to a point. We have large spiders in Australia known as huntsmen that often make their way inside, they're like small tarantulas and like to sit on the wall. Pretty harmless but they freak a lot of people out (understandably). I just find a plastic container, catch them and throw them outside...but they are easily spooked and if one runs towards me when I'm trying to catch it I squeal like a girl and run away! 

I just saw a huntsman spider on youtube that would definitely freak me out