I'm in my 30's and started towards transition 2 years ago (when I first started seeing a psychologist about it). It's hard for me to hear of these younger guys underage and/or still at home dealing with that. It's makes me grateful I've lived out of the house for quite awhile and am financially stable (hope to stay that way). That's a plus for most older guys.

I did have concerns about my career but I seem to be somewhat safe where I work now. I do look forward to working somewhere else where I can start out being male. People's "slips" of pronouns at work are getting enraging. In fact, it seems worse lately. It just makes them look stupid to other people. You'd think they'd learn. I had concerns about contacting my past employers so they could update my name and gender. I need them for my resume and references for job searching. Surprisingly they were all supportive and- to my knowledge- updated my files. So, I've lucked out there.

My family who knows so far have been very supportive. I think at our age people realize we know who we are and know what we're doing. People seem to have a stereotype that younger people don't know themselves and everything's a phase. Several pre-transition friends have been good about it as well as new friends who know.

My biggest problems come from my ex. I lost all our mutual friends and his family. They were his friends first so of course they sided with him (as I guess they should). I have no idea if they know I'm trans or not (friends or his family). Every time I see or talk to him (which thankfully isn't alot) he always acts angry and tries to make me feel like crap. At first I was hoping we'd be friends, but he just wants me dead. After everything now I don't want to be his friend.

I've lost alot from the divorce, but that seems to be normal for the guy . Seriously, he was way more the "woman" in our relationship than me. I look forward to the day when I can break myself from the house and move on. I definitely want to move to a different city/state and start fresh... mostly because of him. I'll miss my friends but my peace of mind outweighs that.

So, there are pros and cons to transitioning later in life. I do regret getting married since that definately postponed my transition. But, I made those decisions and just have to accept that. I can't imagine having children in the picture, too. I admire the strength of those who have kids involved. I'm sure that brings up different problems and road blocks, but you all seem to get through them.

Oh, another con for me was it seemed T changes took longer for me than for the younger guys, but I was told that might happen. It took longer to pass all the time too.

Hey does a F2M pre transition of 60 count?.. It's good to talk to other 40+ guys I've had to stay in this body that's foriegn to me. I was going to start hormones years ago but due to health issues I could not take the injections my body makes higher T than normal yes I have a moustache not a thick one but still have a female voice.. I'm going to see another phych and doc maybe the medical people have developed a type of male hormone that's safer you see last time I had a mild stroke I've recovered but hopefully I can go through a transition this time.

PheonixUK, I noticed you said you can't take injections. They have T in gel and patches now. There's also pills but they've been shown to cause a higher rate of liver problems.

I believe there's also pellets(?) you can have inserted under the skin for a slow release of T. I may be wrong but I think this technique is used more in Europe. I don't hear about it much in the U.S.

Quote from: TJ on January 02, 2014, 01:53:24 PM
I am it seems there are no older people going through the transition stages.

I am guessing that's sarcastic?
I think I might have answered in that thread somewhere. I am way way over 40. Started T. I am really having the same changes everyone else gets. I am on t-cream so maybe it was slower but at 10 months  on T, that's not a big deal anymore. I am being read as male about 95% the time. I think the only thing, I am not getting so much body hair but i have a little stache.
Need to update my picture.

--Jay

I know I answered and I'm well over 40.

I'm 32 and don't feel like I belong with the younger or the older crowd, go figure. 

Nice to see this thread brought back to life.  Transitioning later in life (I started almost 2 yrs ago at age 49) does have very different challenges.  I tried joining a support group but all of the guys were from 18 - 23, most in college, none have ever been married, didn't have any children, if they were in a relationship it was dating but nothing too serious.  I transitioned at my job, have a daughter in her early 30's, have a girlfriend who was in her early 50's, had never been with a man, has identified her whole adult life as a lesbian.  They talked a lot about the difficulties with their parents accepting their transition, both my parents are deceased.  Physically they saw changes much quicker than I.  So I joined Susan's about a year and a half ago and certainly feel like I get more from this forum than I ever did from group.

Maybe there should be a section for people who transition later in life, I would certainly love to see that happen, it could be for both us guys and the girls to talk about the challenges we face.  Just an observation here, but it does seem like a good many of the threads are about helping the younger people, that is not a bad thing, it would just be nice to have somewhere for us to discuss the unique difficulties that we face.

It is great to find others like myself and younger or older. I have not started on T. yet. I do not like needles so much. I am in a relationship and she is bisexual. It was not hard telling her. It is very hard telling my family.

Lots of older guys here.  We just don't post as much as the younger ones.  Way over 40 here, too.

Jay

I turn 40 this year and started T a couple of months ago.

Glad this thread got brought back to life

I belong in this thread but, not telling the age I just started transition and the effects of E are pretty similar to the younger crowd. Although the youngsters seem a little plumper I don't know it's hard to see your self. I've experienced vary similar things as others here ,except I'm on E. Especially feeling so wrong for so long. Because of dysphoria not being able to be happy. But, HRT does seem to change the darkness to light.

Quote from: stephaniec on January 03, 2014, 10:44:36 AM
I belong in this thread but, not telling the age I just started transition and the effects of E are pretty similar to the younger crowd. Although the youngsters seem a little plumper I don't know it's hard to see your self. I've experienced vary similar things as others here ,except I'm on E. Especially feeling so wrong for so long. Because of dysphoria not being able to be happy. But, HRT does seem to change the darkness to light.

Sounding good!!! Pleased to hear it's going well!!!

It would be great to see a forum for older guys and gals.  I started transitioning 10 years ago at 46.  It is a different experience.  Coming from a different era and not even knowing there was such a thing as transitioning.  I was married years ago.  Trying to do the female thing because, back then, that's what you did.  I never had kids though.  That's one of the reasons the marriage didn't last.  I just knew I could not do the female part of that equation.  Wish I could have, and I stand in awe of you guys that are now grandfathers. 

though I still don't see the need for more threads. It is getting so everyone needs their own board.

Contact me, if you are interested in an over 40 forum. I am a mod. on one, it's private but not secret.

--Jay

Yea Aleon, I am interested.

Quote from: aleon515 on January 04, 2014, 03:42:30 PM
Contact me, if you are interested in an over 40 forum. I am a mod. on one, it's private but not secret.

--Jay

Me too Jay, I'd be interested!

If you'll take me 5 months early that is. I'm 40 in June.

We're very strict on the after 40 part as we have had a lot of abuse. I have a friend who is 39, and have not even invited him. However, as I said contact me, but PM me, you as well Matt, I could send you the info at least.
I am not comfortable just putting it right here, we've had a lot of abuse of this so, I am somewhat careful. Lots of 20 year olds, cis girls, and people trying to sell stuff.

(BTW, its all free, so I am not selling any stuff here.)

--Jay

Hello ladies & gents,
For myself I have just turned 48.  I had to keep my dysphoria a secret from my family and friends merely to comply in what they expected from me, even through my marriages (the first I had two sons). Secretly I was miserable, with my most recent relationship I was feeling so guilty because I deeply care for my partner I told her my secret. Unfortunately she could not cope with being in an intimate relationship however she will stand beside me while I start transition. While this broke my heart I understood,  she is my best friend! 

Now I was in desperate need of somewhere to live, as chance would have it I found a very accepting family who has rented me room in their home and is very accepting of my transitioning. I can be who I was always meant to be!

I have a job which keeps me very busy so finding time to actually see a specialist so I can start on hormones is difficult.  But I am starting to network,  I am meeting tomorrow evening with other members of Seahorse Queensland in Brisbane to find out more about the group and find more about myself (hopefully get some great advice on makeup as well!) 

So hello world, my name is Trudi and I am here!