Moved Out And am Now Starting Full Time . . .

Gina Taylor · January 06, 2014, 09:24:43 AM

Last week, my mom wanted to have a talk with me and she had a sheet of paper in front of her. It's the one that I posted before. After going over it, I decided then that there was only one solution, to move out. So I grabbed the classified section of the newspaper and went through it and I found some rooms for rent and I called them. I found one that sounded good. I moved in last Friday, and he's got no problem with me transitioning. His other renter had a daughter from a previous marriage who is a FTM transsexual, so she understands the situation that I'm going through with my parents.

Sheala · January 06, 2014, 09:26:28 AM

wow, im sorry you had to move out, but glad that you found somewhere that is supportive and understanding of you. congrats on moving forward with you.

Emo · January 06, 2014, 09:31:02 AM

its unfortunate that you had to move away from your mom but its great that you can move on. i hope things go well for you in the coming years.

Gina Taylor · January 06, 2014, 09:33:18 AM

Quote from: Sheala on January 06, 2014, 09:26:28 AM
wow, im sorry you had to move out, but glad that you found somewhere that is supportive and understanding of you. congrats on moving forward with you.

Thanks Sheala. It's really nice to have a supportive woman with me instead of someone who is tearing me down.

big kim · January 06, 2014, 09:37:18 AM

I hope it all goes well for you,good luck and best wishes

Gina Taylor · January 06, 2014, 09:37:25 AM

Quote from: Emo on January 06, 2014, 09:31:02 AM
Its unfortunate that you had to move away from your mom but it's great that you can move on. I hope things go well for you in the coming years.

Y'know Emo, it was bound to happen. There was just too much conflict between us, and I'm sure that things will go better for us. Like the old saying goes, out of sight , out of mind.

Gina Taylor · January 06, 2014, 09:40:25 AM

Quote from: big kim on January 06, 2014, 09:37:18 AM
I hope it all goes well for you,good luck and best wishes

Thanks Kim. As long as I'm not crossing paths with her, everything should go well. I've already found a church that I can go to, and things are looking up for this girl!

amber1964 · January 06, 2014, 09:54:08 AM

Most important thing in life - find that thing that makes you happy and then do it. My family disowned me and I lost millions of dollars (literally) but at least I like what I see in the mirror - on a good day. Stay strong and true.

suzifrommd · January 06, 2014, 09:58:27 AM

I think things are majorly looking up for you.

And I know it seems unlikely now, but don't be surprised if you find that your Mom ends up missing you and approaches you sometime in the future to mend fences.

LordKAT · January 06, 2014, 10:04:51 AM

I don't it unfortunate all that you moved out. The freedom of having your own place is exhilarating and now you can be yourself and have a supportive landlord. I think this is a good thing. Your mom will be fine on her own and as stated above, I get the feeling she will miss having you around after a bit. You can now control how meetings with her go simply by going home when things start to go bad. It will help you be stronger.

Constance · January 06, 2014, 10:33:57 AM

Congratulations on your freedom and new found support.

Ms Grace · January 06, 2014, 12:14:18 PM

Sounds like it is for the best, Gina. Your mother didn't seem to be giving any ground on the issue. Hopefully once you have transitioned she will change her point of view and welcome you as her daughter. I know a lot of people, especially the younger ones, have no choice but to stay with their parents while they attempt transition - but if there is friction it is often easier on both parties that they part domestically.

Rachel · January 06, 2014, 04:42:52 PM

Gina, congratulations.

I hope 2014 is a wonderful year for you.

Your landlord sounds very supportive; I am happy for you.

izzy · January 06, 2014, 05:02:49 PM

Its good for a fresh start for you. Hopefully she will come back to you.

Jill F · January 06, 2014, 05:06:21 PM

Congrats, Gina!

I sincerely hope she comes around after having more alone time than she bargained for.

Gina Taylor · January 07, 2014, 02:15:45 PM

Quote from: amber1964 on January 06, 2014, 09:54:08 AM
Most important thing in life - find that thing that makes you happy and then do it. My family disowned me and I lost millions of dollars (literally) but at least I like what I see in the mirror - on a good day. Stay strong and true.

I'm really sorry to hear that your family disowned you Amber. My mom told my therapist that when they sell their business they're moving away with or without me, and I really think it will be without me, and she told me that my relatives don't want me in Canada either. So I've been almost disowned myself. But my therapist was quite pleased that I had moved out and had gotten all my ducks in a row and was moving forward with going full time.

Gina Taylor · January 07, 2014, 02:21:37 PM

Quote from: suzifrommd on January 06, 2014, 09:58:27 AM
I think things are majorly looking up for you.

And I know it seems unlikely now, but don't be surprised if you find that your Mom ends up missing you and approaches you sometime in the future to mend fences.

Nice thought there Suzi, but my mom told me that she's happy that I've moved out and the last thing she wants is to see me move back. But she may express some sentiments of loss, but knowing what I'm doing, not sure . . .

Gina Taylor · January 07, 2014, 02:23:46 PM

Quote from: Constance on January 06, 2014, 10:33:57 AM
Congratulations on your freedom and new found support.

Thanks Constance. You're looking great in your avatar and your hair looks really nice!

Gina Taylor · January 07, 2014, 02:32:02 PM

Quote from: Ms Grace on January 06, 2014, 12:14:18 PM
Sounds like it is for the best, Gina. Your mother didn't seem to be giving any ground on the issue. Hopefully once you have transitioned she will change her point of view and welcome you as her daughter. I know a lot of people, especially the younger ones, have no choice but to stay with their parents while they attempt transition - but if there is friction it is often easier on both parties that they part domestically.

Thanks Grace for your kind and thoughtful words. My mom told me today that she's to old to accept this change in me. But really, if I had transitioned 20 years ago, would it have been any different? My therapist said something a bit absurd. He told me that he doesn't really see a woman sitting in front of him, even though I was in male mode. My mom went into her little spiel about when I was taken from her and presented to her I was introduced as her 'boy'. I could have then told her that sure the doctor told you what 'sex' I was, but he was unable to tell you what 'gender' I was. But I didn't want to get into that with her. So I'll talk with my therapist about that during our next session. It should be interesting.

Gina Taylor · January 07, 2014, 02:33:16 PM

Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on January 06, 2014, 04:42:52 PM
Gina, congratulations.

I hope 2014 is a wonderful year for you.

Your landlord sounds very supportive; I am happy for you.

Thanks Cynthia. I figure everything should work out for the best this year.

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