Last night when I was working, a young lady who was all dressed up went to my till. Seeing that she was young, I asked her for her ID, which she didn't have so she couldn't buy the beer she wanted. (I work at a liquor store).  I really didn't notice much about her, I see so many people during the day that I really don't care about details other than if they look young and if I should ID them (the fines for not IDing are insane here).

Anyway, she left and two other women, in there thirties, were at my till (they were behind her in line).

"Did you ID her to see if she was a boy or a girl?" The one lady asked, with a bit of a snicker and the other girl with her was giggling.

"No." I said slightly confused.

"What do you think -- I kind of wonder -- I think it's a boy. There's people like that all over, and I can spot them pretty good." she said.

I'm still confused, and say, "Really? Oh. Okay. I just thought she looked young, and that's why I asked for ID. It doesn't matter how someone lives or does with there lives, I really don't care."

Anyway, the conversation went on for a bit, and then the two women left. I cracked up laughing afterwards because they had no idea that I was Transexual -- no flipp'n clue! So many people here are red-neck, it's crazy.

It was a really weird experience, anyway.  It was also an awkward situation to be in as well. I remember most of all wondering if they would clock me during the conversation, and they didn't.  Part of me wanted to say that I'm transexual, but the other part of me was cautions because I knew that with people like this it could lead to something harmful down the road.

That sort of thing has happened several times on the bus.  A bunch of people will get on laughing about some "->-bleeped-<-," and they sit about two feet from me and never figure it out.

that was strange.

  It's good for you, though, because if these nitpickers can't clock you, it has got to feel good.  Usually I'd say speak up, but it was best not to.  You're just being an employee there and if you speak up in a situation like that, you could cause trouble for yourself or for the business. 

 

Rebis

Wow, that IS an odd situation to be in.  It makes me wonder if the girl just didn't want to show an ID with a man's picture on it....  ?  At any rate, you're definitely strong for being able to hold your tongue.  I have trouble dealing with prejudice in a mature manner.  I think staying quiet about it was the smart thing to do because you still have your dignity and no confrontation came about.  Kudos!!

The frequent one I get is people starting to talk about how gays are this, are that, etc, in my presence like I would parrot their line (I don't and I let know my position real loud).

I think you did a good job. You don't want to sell to an underage person. This person should have known and instead put you in an ackward position. I know about the fines, in this state you can be fined and the store will be fined and most likely you would have been fired. You did your job. It is time that we need to think about that. It isn't all about us. There are others to be thinking about.
Sheila