I think I outed myself at work.  I know some folks at work had questioned some signs of my transition, but I purposely have been keeping it quiet due to a recent job promotion.  I really wish to situate myself into this new position as to increase my value to the company, and to use my salary increase to further my transition.

Anyway, I was texting a friend of mine who is aware of my transition and had to post her a picture of this really great handbag I got for myself.  I texted a photo of the handbag while I was in my cosmetic infested bathroom but instead sent it to a coworker .  I didn't realize it until the next day when he confronted me about it.  I responded rather confidently that I carry handbags because I don't like to cram all my stuff in my pockets.  I could have made up some excuse, but I hate  to lie. 

Now I wonder what I do from here.  This could very possibly spread around which might not be such a bad thing, but I certainly wasn't ready to do this at this point.  I must be a texting dummy

Accidental outing isn't ideal but it happens. In my case a doctor called me at work by my new name, a co-employee answered: "Uh There's no Melissa XXXX here." I heard the rumor about myself months later, and by then I was about to make the announcement anyhow. You can understand they were scrutinizing me intently during that period and already knew.

I suppose it was eventually to be expected.  I was actually confronted about being transgender before at work, but was able to change the subject.  I'm not really upset about it, but preparing myself for even more questions while taking a new role is going to make my next month harder.  I guess I should make some preparations so I'm ready for what may come.  I am really confused as what to do now.

Wow, someone asked "are you transgender?"?? How remarkably...forthright!

Sometimes our subconscious is quite happy to sabotage our best laid plans, I'd say I was likely to make a similar error if I wasn't already dying to tell everyone anyway!

Quote from: svaso on January 22, 2014, 08:41:12 PM
I suppose it was eventually to be expected.  I was actually confronted about being transgender before at work, but was able to change the subject.  I'm not really upset about it, but preparing myself for even more questions while taking a new role is going to make my next month harder.  I guess I should make some preparations so I'm ready for what may come.  I am really confused as what to do now.

If they ask just say I'm a transgender woman and I've dealt with it, finally, so I can be me. And be proud!!! And remember Cindy will be standing next to you in spirit.

Quote from: Ms Grace on January 23, 2014, 01:36:44 AM
Wow, someone asked "are you transgender?"?? How remarkably...forthright!

Sometimes our subconscious is quite happy to sabotage our best laid plans, I'd say I was likely to make a similar error if I wasn't already dying to tell everyone anyway!

The men I work with can be rather blunt when they see someone as being different.  I can't say I act like one of the guys. I don't want to play that act anymore.  At this point, that would make coming out much harder. 

My subconscious definitely is at a faster pace than me

Quote from: Cindy on January 23, 2014, 01:46:58 AM
If they ask just say I'm a transgender woman and I've dealt with it, finally, so I can be me. And be proud!!! And remember Cindy will be standing next to you in spirit.

This will probably be the answer I will give from this point out.  Thanks for the shadow spirit!