i feel that its time to come out to my parents again. last time, a year plus ago, my mom told me that what i did when moved out was up to me. now im 18 and it feels necessary to come out once more. but now if they dont like my decission they can throw me out. so should i talk to them and risk homelessness or continue living a lie. i would prefer to avoid either of those options ha ha... *sigh*. any ideas or any choice im over looking?

I really wish I had something for this, but this is a decision you have to make on your own. All I can say is if it were me I would come out again and go from there. Of course I was at a live or die moment when I came out. I had no choice, but to do it. You might ask around though and see if any of your friends are looking for a roommate or someone to split an apartment. Is college a possibility? That would give you at least one year of room and board. Please have a back up plan in case you tell them and it goes badly for you. Take care!

Honestly, I would take a little time, if you have not already, and set up a proper safety net.

What I'd -really- do, is move out first. At least get a job if you don't already have one.

I don't know what your situation is or which country you're in, but you could also try getting scholarships and grants to go to college. If you're in certain countries, college isn't really going to cost you.

I lucked out and got a ton of great scholarships in high school, and one of them paid my entire first 4 years of college. I also got thousands of dollars per semester from grants. You should research stuff like that, if you're interested in college at all.

College is also a good place to transition. I was too much of a wimp back then to start HRT (on it now though ), but colleges are some of the most accepting places. I know at least 4 transpeople from my days in college. None of them had issues, with staff or other students. I've also heard many stories of people coming out and transitioning during college, and having great success with their peers and instructors.

I'm only just 25, but trust me, you should really think hard and try to plan carefully for the future, and be ready for your plans to need to change.

Without knowing more about your parents it's hard to say what you should do. I know she said 'what you do when you move out is up to you' but I don't know just how against it she actually is. Does she seem ultra-against-it?

You never know if they'll come around.

ive thought a lot about college and i think ill go but im close to my own live or die moment. also i want some RLE before college and the sooner the better. oh somewhat random question- is it possible to get hormones and therapy while going to college? i dont think ill ever have that much money and the idea of going without is heartbreaking. anyway should i wait until college to transition and tell my parents (who were very against it but in a protecting way).

Quote from: Jasmine96 on March 01, 2014, 05:46:25 PM
ive thought a lot about college and i think ill go but im close to my own live or die moment. also i want some RLE before college and the sooner the better. oh somewhat random question- is it possible to get hormones and therapy while going to college? i dont think ill ever have that much money and the idea of going without is heartbreaking. anyway should i wait until college to transition and tell my parents (who were very against it but in a protecting way).

There are many colleges that give cheap and/or free healthcare to students, including therapy and hormones, depending on the college. My college had free healthcare, so long as you used the university's facilities for said healthcare. Same with therapy. Whether or not that healthcare will apply for trans people depends on the university. Plenty of people transition during college, or before, or after. Most colleges are pretty accepting of trans people, from what I've read. My college was no different.

Whatever you do, I'd say it'd be a good idea to consider transitioning as soon as you can, whatever you do. The younger you are, the better chances you have at hormones having better effects on you. Also, the younger you start, the younger you get to the point you want to be at, which gives you more time in your life spent as your desired gender. If you truly want to transition I would not put it off any longer than you have to, whether you go to college or not.