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How did / do / will you fund your transition?

Started by mandonlym, March 13, 2014, 10:21:50 PM

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mandonlym

One of the other topics brought up the issue of transition funding and I was wondering how people here are funding theirs?

I have an interesting story. I was with an independently wealthy gay guy when I transitioned and he helped me pay for surgery even though it meant the two of us breaking up. It would make a good made-for-tv movie someday.
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stephaniec

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TaoRaven

wow, that IS an amazing story.

Mine's not so fancy...I work for a property management company, and soon I will be able to have an apartment given to me for free....so no more rent or utility payments. Combined with selling a bit of land that I've been holding onto in New England, and I should be set to even take off a cople months after my eventual SRS to recover.

Seems kinda....blah...compared to yours ;)
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Jill F

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mandonlym

Quote from: TaoRaven on March 13, 2014, 10:25:40 PM
wow, that IS an amazing story.

Mine's not so fancy...I work for a property management company, and soon I will be able to have an apartment given to me for free....so no more rent or utility payments. Combined with selling a bit of land that I've been holding onto in New England, and I should be set to even take off a cople months after my eventual SRS to recover.

Hey it's not the story it's getting it done! Though yeah, mine is unique and a little tragic.
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Missadventure

I'm personally planning on scouring the northwest to see if I can locate any more of DB Coopers money.

In all seriousness, I have no idea. The story of my 20's was every new job paying LESS than the one before had paid. The last job I had, when I finally decided to start transitioning, was a part time job paying federal minimum wage. I have since lost that job, and haven't yet found another to replace it.

So, at this point thinking about financing surgeries is something my brain just doesn't even know how to do. May as well be a billion dollars to me.

Thankfully, at my current dose, I have enough estrogen to last until August, and my Rx for spiro and prometrium doesn't run out until May. So, I have some buffer room before that panic sets in.

Joanna Dark

Right now I'm trying to save every red cent I can and I'm also suing my old company for a hostile work place and I have the evidence to prove it. I have a lawyer. They took the case for free. It's one of the largest trans advocacy orgs in the country. So I should get a good chunk of change from that.

All I know is I'm going to find a way to do it. Maybe my kinda Bf's mom will pay for it. They're rich. She really likes me. And she knows I have sex with her son, so...ya never know. I've asked him. He doesn't say no. he just says "we'll see." Whatever that means. He is still on the fence with me in some ways though he has come a long way. He did accuse me of putting a spell on him lol and once duting a bad altercation said "I thought I would never see you again. I couldn't imagine anything worse." It wasn't rehearsed either so I'm hoping he helps. But the problem is he also really really good looking, like james franco good looking, so sometimes all i think is why are you with me? I thought he was trying to get back with his ex but today he said she's such a bitch. She's not like you.

But if not him then my other option is going to grad school at a school that has insurance that pays for SRS, like U of Penn. Or getting a job at City hall. The other thing I want to maybe do is find a good inexpensive doctor in South America in a country with favorable exchange rates, like Argentina. They have skilled doctors and it is a consitutional right in that country to have SRS.
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Saskia

I was extremely lucky to have a very generous friend who loaned me the money for my GRS. She got that all back eventually and as soon as possible. Back then I was in an extremely badly paid job so it was difficult to even manage to live.
Now I have a very well paid job and have paid for all other surgeries since then myself. The last one I intend to have is just a short month away in South Korea at Yesons.
I've spent a small fortune over the years trying to correct natures blunder. But it's all been worthwhile.
Live your life for yourself and no one else
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Alaia

Saving up for anything is going to be very difficult considering I'll probably be paying around $3000 a month in child support and alimony. Fortunately, my employer has made sure to have transgender specific provisions in our insurance. Therapy, hormones, lab work, GRS, trachea shave, and breast augmentation is all covered. But I'll still have to foot the bill for FFS and VFS if I can ever manage to save up for them. Hrmm, wonder if I should try renting a storage unit and living out of my car...



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― Rumi
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Anatta

Kia Ora,

Re: How did / do / will you fund your transition?

::) With the help of a "Sugar Daddy" called the New Zealand Government....

My surgery was government funded(my taxes) and HRT is subsidised (again by my taxes)

Metta Anatta:)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Janae

This has to be the worst part of transitioning to me.

I knew when I decided to enter into this things were going to be expensive. It's stressful to even think about, and it doesn't help that I think about it pretty much everyday. Right now things are in limbo and I'm trying to get the train moving. I'm finishing up my resume now and will be sending it out to different prospects next week. I'm a nursing asst and I'm throwing every dollar into getting my first procedures done so I can go 24/7 asap. I'm to the point where I don't want to live as I am another day. Good thing is I don't pay any bills or rent for my apartment so that's a huge weight off my shoulders. I can dedicate 97% of my income to this. Plus my boyfriend will be moving in around June so I'll be able to add what he'll give me to the pot.

I wish I had someone who could help out, even if it was just with the full body laser I need. I wanna cry when I think about how much that alone is going to cost. Sadly, I'll have to get that done before my first major surgery. I plan on getting a Brazilian Butt Lift first. I've gained a good amount of weight in my tummy over the past 5yrs, add to that the weight I gained in my inner thighs, and I want to get that sexy lower shape. I'm way overweight for my height, which is 5'7, and the extra weight is putting a strain on my lower back. So to get this done would be killing 2 birds with one stone. Because it's the most annoying procedure to recover from, I want to get it out of the way first. Then I want to get my breasts & ffs done at the same time, then I'll wait a few yrs to save up for srs.

Out of all my procedures I think FFS will be the most expensive because I think it'll run me about 25k, only because I'm seriously leaning towards Dr. Lee in BH. My friend went to him and she looks amazing. But if push comes to shove I may go with Cardenas. I'm just afraid of getting a nose that looks to "European". I saw what Dr. Lee did to my friends nose along with everything else so I'm set on him for now.

It's so sad what we have to give just to be ourselves, what's saddest is that a lot of it all depends on money. 


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big kim

#11
NHS did mine but they had 18 years contributions from me as I worked from 16.I sold my classic Mercury Comet to pay for a good bit of electrolysis and body waxing and also new clothes instead of stuff from charity shops
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noeleena

Hi.

In my normal manner  got off my back side and worked plus was given some money from our daughter and when i had the amount  $ 16,000 went for surgerys in Thailand, 
even though not a trans person i still needed surgerys, i paid for every thing  i never ask for money from any one  yet iv been very well surplyed with what i needed, i cant ask for more,

...noeleena...
Hi. from New Zealand, Im a woman of difference & intersex who is living life to the full.   we have 3 grown up kids and 11 grand kid's 6 boy's & 5 girl's,
Jos and i are still friends and  is very happy with her new life with someone.
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JaimeD

Mostly as I can. I haven't had any surgeries, but I pay for hrt as I go and my dad did help out initially with laser and some doctor bills. He wanted to pay for srs before he died, but I wouldn't take it, he was dealing with cancer and he needed the money more than me, plus no way did I want to make him do without anything during his last few years. I have thought about selling my house, but the market sucks currently and besides, its very helpful not to have to pay rent or a mortgage right now.
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mandonlym

Wow, I also wasn't thinking about the fact that different people want / require different surgeries / procedures, etc. I'm really fortunate to have little body hair and all of it blonde so I didn't do any hair removal except for some electrolysis on my face. The only other thing I've done is SRS and a tracheal shave. I was exploring FFS at one point (really prominent brow ridge) but the couple of people I consulted with strongly discouraged it. So my bill ended up being about $12,000 since hormones are covered by insurance. And yes, my ex paid for that, which I'd feel guilty about if he were struggling but it's all inheritance money. I feel more guilty that he thinks the man he loved died when I had the surgery, but he loved the man so much that he was willing to pay for it anyway.... argh.
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Jenna Marie

That *is* an interesting story!

I worked three jobs; I estimate transition cost less than $25K overall including GRS, and it still took me three years to save up enough money for surgery.
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Nicolette

Living with my mother helped somewhat. She paid for the first set of surgeries. After that my company was earning enough to cover everything. Then the recent SRS was paid using 0% credit cards, which I'm paying off. HRT and blood tests are paid by the NHS.
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Hikari

Unless something good happens, I am going to be paying for things by my paycheck. HRT is quite affordable, the hair removal stuff isn't so bad, but I don't think I have ever had over $10K in my bank account, so SRS and FFS will be very difficult.

I am considering allocating some money towards rebuilding my credit, and going into debt again to get these things done. I still have some old outstanding debt that I would need to pay off, but I am pretty sure that it would come out to be better than just saving that cash. Still I have to do more research on exactly how effective this could be, my overall debt is lower than $10k (if you don't factor in my car) so it shouldn't be too hard to pay off.

I am renting a room from a friend, bought a car used instead of new, and really trying to be cheap on food and wardrobe expenses to allow the most to be used for transition. Still I am looking into increasing my cash flow, as I can only cut but so much out of my budget, yet there isn't really a ceiling on how much money I can earn; though in practical terms unless I move to a different career field which I want to do $70K seems to be about as much as it is possible for me to make, but I don't make nearly that much so I do have room to grow so to speak.
15 years on Susans, where has all the time gone?
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Christine Eryn

I've been saving as much as I can, but not as much as I should, if that makes any sense. I still buy a lot of useless trinkets. The FFS surgeon I saw recently told me what my costs would be, and I was overjoyed to find out I could pay for it and have money left over. Then, I was brought back to reality when I discovered the cost of SRS here in the US.  :eusa_doh:

My plan is basically to sell all my collectables and as much as my "male past" items. I hardly have any debt, have great credit, and can use a few credit cards if I need to.
"There was a sculptor, and he found this stone, a special stone. He dragged it home and he worked on it for months, until he finally finished. When he was ready he showed it to his friends and they said he had created a great statue. And the sculptor said he hadn't created anything, the statue was always there, he just cleared away the small peices." Rambo III
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Evolving Beauty

I use to prostitute myself on the streets at night, now I do it in a house and put my publicity online and do it part time, in daytime I have a normal job, sometimes I do camsex on webcam on cam4 and they pay me by paypal. My first set of surgeries as boobs was paid by one of my client who became a friend. The major stuff I'm fighting my own battle alone right now.
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