Quote from: Shantel on May 16, 2014, 08:44:44 PM
Uh - probably has something to do with the motives of others like the pretty little chickster in line ahead of me at Starbucks who was showing off her big diamond engagement ring to her wide eyed girlfriend as she said, "He makes a great income and can really take care of me!" I didn't hear the word "love" or anything like that mentioned in the conversation.
Possibly. I'd hate to think that so many women were shallow. =/ Not that men can't be shallow too. I wonder if part of it has to do with socialization...I think a lot of girls are raised to revere men as if they were some strange species, and then you couple that with the "fantasy" of finding the "good man" and settling down and having the white picket fence and the 2.4 kids...like women are taught that if you've achieved that, you've reached success and that's the goal.
It's completely impossible for me to understand. For me, the idea of being with a man was so completely abhorrent. If I chose that path, and my husband became a woman, it would seriously go like this:
Me to other people: yeah gotta stand by my man no matter what you know.
Me to my new wife: Let me play with your boobies later.
Quote from: Jill F on May 16, 2014, 08:50:04 PM
Ya know, I have no freaking clue. My wife is pretty dudely/andro anyway, doesn't have religious or family hangups, kinda bisexual, truly my soulmate and said that she fell in love with a person and not a gender. I'm really the same person, but just "new and improved" now. I even have that "new girl smell" going for me. The funny thing is that if she became "Ken" (yes, she said she would have wanted that name if she was a guy), I would have probably had to process that one for a bit but ulitmately I'd be fine with it. Hell, she can already grow a way better 'stache than I can anyway.
My ex and I had that conversation...I wondered extensively what I would have done if it turned out she was FTM. I can't say for sure, because you don't know until these things happen, but I honestly think that if we stayed together, it would be the end of the sexual and physical relationship. But if she just had to get her breasts removed for something, and wasn't working towards a male appearance, I'd be OK - as long as the rest of her was all woman. Just like if a woman has a penis, I don't mind, as long as she is aesthetically female.
Quote from: Edge on May 16, 2014, 11:15:41 PM
On the subject of significant others, I have no idea. I imagine if I came out as trans to some of my cis male ex's, they'd have a huge problem with it though. Ironically, my most abusive ex is perfectly fine with me being trans.
I wonder if I should ask for hair advice or if that would make me seem too weird.
Funny you mention the hair thing, I've been thinking of asking people the same question but I don't know how to do that without showing my face.
It's weird how the most abusive person is OK with the trans thing. People are so surprising with this.
