Wow, I actually thought I would end up being a complete nerve wreck after this would happen, but it turns out I am amazingly calm but I think it is because I have had the last few months to think this over.
When I came out of the closet, a few weeks later my daughter came and told me something her dad did that no parent would like to hear. So, I put myself coming out as an FTM on hold to my ex, and focused more on just fighting for her. Long story short, battle still going and now we are heading into a full custody battle. While we had our last meeting together with someone who works with trying to get things to work civil, he brought up my trans status he seemed to have found out about.
There is only one person who could have told him, and it's a friend I have had for seven or eight years and claims to be my best friend, I asked her not to tell anyone since I was not ready to be fully out. Should have known she wouldn't be able to keep her mouth closed.
He spoke up about it and said that I am not mentally stable since I have now started living as a man and come out as trans. So, he says he fears my 'Mental unstable trans identity' will be bad for our daughter. In stead of getting nervous, I actually found myself almost wanting to laugh. If I would use something against myself it would not be my gender identity, I would use that I am diagnosed with PTSD.
I actually now don't feel the need to hide anything, the cat is fully out of the bag now. I have a team of specialists on my end who can vouch for that I am not mentally unstable and luckily enough, I have the law on my side and I am actually more confident in myself after coming out. I never was mentally unstable, but if I ever was, I am not now.

Has anyone here been told that they are mentally unstable when coming out/found out that they are trans?

Quote from: Dalex on June 08, 2014, 07:25:20 AM
Has anyone here been told that they are mentally unstable when coming out/found out that they are trans?

I am in a divorce situation and my ex and her attorney are claiming this as well. When they talked to my son (who is living with me) he told them to get over themselves. I was so proud of him. I have been full time since January and he accepts me better now than before transition. My "mommy" nature spoils him rotten!

Not about being trans, but my ex tried to claim I was mentally unstable after I left him with my son. He requested a psych evaluation. I laughed as well and agreed to have one if he would. Guess who came out of that looking better.

'Mentally unstable' was one of the ones my dad came up with, when I came out to him. Along with freak and  a plethora of other nasty things. Bit of a transphobe.

I've never been called mentally unstable, but when I came out to my grade in school some people would call me a freak.

mines was just downplayed and my mother thought i was just gay. though she didnt know enough, she kept on downplaying i was trans

Mentally unstable is really the newest one, though I already did know he would try to play this card. Actually just seem to be more disappointed in myself for trusting my friend, since I asked her not to tell anyone I just assumed she wouldn't at least go running to my ex. Actually just debating with myself if I should bother putting the effort on confronting her about it.

Quote from: Dalex on June 08, 2014, 07:25:20 AM
Has anyone here been told that they are mentally unstable when coming out/found out that they are trans?

Yes, my ex said the exact same kind of nonsense, and he & his family did their best to poison my kids against me. They tried to frighten my kids by telling them that I'm some kind of weirdo pervert monster who's a major danger to them. It's a scare tactic: he's clutching at straws to try to find some leverage to use against me, because as the parent who gave birth to the children I'm in a much stronger position.

But like you I have a team of specialists who I've seen over the past few years who can testify that I'm of perfectly sound mind, and no danger to my kids. My ex, however, can't say the same thing.

Good luck with the custody battle.

Both my parents and my in-laws think I'm mentally unstable because I came out as trans. I've told them that I'm happier now than I ever have been. All the depression that I dealt with before has practically disappeared. I still deal with it every now and then but it's triggered by stress and worry or constant gloomy, cold weather - not a constant thing.