I'll start out by saying I'm a hard wired bi-sexual been this way since childhood and have no regrets . Not in any relationship at the moment , but hoping on developing something with a woman I know who knows my background. I'm only into strong meaningful relationships. I was just curious because there is such a diversity among everyone here about their relationships whether if your straight , bi or lesbian , have you always been this way from as far back as you can remember or have you oscillated between different view points about who your attracted to. Has there been any shift in your attraction pre or post HRT or have you always been the same way. Thanks , Just seeking  information to try to understand myself a little better. HRT hasn't changed me other than letting me be more accepting of my bi-sexuality.

I've always been a meaningful relationship type person as well ~ I tried the hook-ups and one night stands and being a "player" back in my male days, but i just felt that it wasn't for me. And now where I am in my HRT process, i feel about the same as I did before even though I'm married. i mean i like to have fun and flirt and stuff, but when it comes to attraction and connection; it would only work for me if it were a long term relationship or an actual meaningful relationship and not just a fling I've always been sort of a romantic xD

I'm sure you've seen me talk about it in other posts about how I use to be Bi pre-hrt, and now im 100% lesbian. But I am also inclined to believe that anything is possible, and anything could happen in the future. I mean from reading JayneS' post about being hit on and asked out by a guy, it gave me butterflies and for some reason thinking about being hit on romantically and being given legitimate attention from a guy for some reason would be sort of dreamy for me... but i'm sure the moment i got to know them I'd probably be like "yeah.. i'm out lol" So I guess that my romantic interests are subject to change in the future, but sexually I have 0 attraction to men.. i dont find them to be sexually appealing at all don't know why; I am completely captivated by the female body as I was before, except now its in a different way, back then it was mostly in one way (if you catch my drift lol), now that "one way" isn't even part of the equation in my sexual attraction to women. my attraction to women now stems out of tiny details in shape and form, as well as personality, attitude, aura, and also partly just out of respect and pride for the female gender. I dont know how to explain it, but you get the gist of what im saying

I have never been attracted to men, although I clearly remember a period where I thought I was supposed to be. It never materialized in reality. I've always been attracted to women and only ever had relationships with women. But I don't find women as attractive as I used to. I still don't feel attracted to men either.

I'm in a relationship and my attraction to my partner hasn't changed. Which makes me wonder, if it doesn't work, who would I want to be with? People I know seem to have a very clear definition of who they want to be with, or at least which genders and preferences they prefer. I don't know anymore. IDK what I'm gonna do if it all falls apart. I don't really want to be with anyone else. I don't feel even motivated by sexual desires anymore. I guess if anything, I've just become a lot more asexual.

I went out with a woman once, just once. But it was for three/four years. We prolly had sex a handful of times. I loved her, still do in a way, but it was more like dating my best friend who I'm not sexually attracted to unless I forced myself to be. It wasn't fair to her or me. Luckily, we never got married. I was very open with her about my trans/hermie status.

Now though, I'm in love with a man and the difference in feeling and how much I love him is huge. Being with a man just feels right in a way that being with a woman does not. I guess I thought I was Bi, but i was just fooling myself. I'm not Bi; I'd never date a woman again. Well, I guess never say never. If she was masculine enough...

Yeah I've always been attracted to women much more vs guys that just intensified when I finally began estrogen. Not to say my physical attraction for men hasn't increased, cause I do find them cuter but I couldn't be in a relationship with a man.

prehrt 90% attraction towards women 10% attraction to men.

hrt- 200% attraction towards women 30% attraction to men

Personally, at this stage in my life, if I can find anyone who is a loving, caring, sharing, gorgeous person who will be in a relationship with me then I don't care about their gender or sex plumbing. Does that make me a personsexual?

About to start HRT so cannot compare a before and after related to that, but in general I've always thought and felt that anyone caring, loving, strong, willing to compromise, kind and cute was a possibility regardless of sex.

I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember. Well I would say if your were straight before HRT there might be a change in preference. But since you are bi and bi from the biginning, you will probably remain that way.

Love has been a major contributing factor to all the problems in my life... To a lesser extent, so has sex. I avoid love like the plague, and am very cautious about sex.

I know I'm probably sounding like a broken record by now, but if you're trans, you're pretty much beyond queer anyway.  You like who you like and it's really no big deal.  As a transwoman, I feel that my sexuality is pretty much in the noise.  As long as I could form an emotional bond with someone, it wouldn't matter where on the gender spectrum they ID'd or whichever way they were designated at birth.

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 12, 2014, 03:59:59 PM
Personally, at this stage in my life, if I can find anyone who is a loving, caring, sharing, gorgeous person who will be in a relationship with me then I don't care about their gender or sex plumbing. Does that make me a personsexual?

Id say so! I kind of have the same outlook though.

Very interesting question, my orientation was all over the board as a youth. Once I was married I stayed straight and true to our relationship. Once my dysphoria resurfaced and the anxiety led me into my decade of substance abuse I went asexual since being coming out and being on hrt for a bit about a year pre med and several months with medical supervision I am finding myself sexually interested again, emotionally I find females to be much better partners most of the time but am beginning to find males quite attractive in there silly little ways, tonight I have my first dinner date with a male that we have exchange minor conversation several times and I am going to take a leap of faith and have dinner at his house. So with any luck I will let you know how my feelings are about male companionship tomorrow tehe

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 12, 2014, 03:59:59 PM
Personally, at this stage in my life, if I can find anyone who is a loving, caring, sharing, gorgeous person who will be in a relationship with me then I don't care about their gender or sex plumbing. Does that make me a personsexual?

I think it makes you a loving human .

I like to consider myself a Sapiosexual xD because having an engaging conversation with someone who can bring something to the table is just such a turn on for me regardless of gender... so that in itself confuses me on what it is that I can really identify as ~ I went to a little gathering the other day and there was this guy there, totally mysterious, looked a bit tormented but like he'd seen a lot of things, same age as me, didn't speak much but when he spoke it was with eloquence; and i just remember being so attracted to him; he wasn't ugly but he wasnt like "OMG HOT" either, he was good looking... but i was just so intrigued by him and so attracted to his character...

So i'm not sure what I am, despite identifying as a lesbian. I guess maybe I'm just very very VERY picky when it comes to guys, and sexually its not really a thought for me ~ but seeing as hearing this guy talk kinda made my heart beat faster, there's is definitely an attraction there of some kind. Funny enough back then i could confidently claim being Pansexual, but for some reason even with all this that i'm mentioning, i cant help but still feel like "Lesbian" is just a more correct term We will see what happens in the coming year as HRT continues to open doors i once deemed locked forever.

Quote from: LittleEmily24 on June 13, 2014, 11:33:57 AM
I like to consider myself a Sapiosexual xD because having an engaging conversation with someone who can bring something to the table is just such a turn on for me regardless of gender... so that in itself confuses me on what it is that I can really identify as ~ I went to a little gathering the other day and there was this guy there, totally mysterious, looked a bit tormented but like he'd seen a lot of things, same age as me, didn't speak much but when he spoke it was with eloquence; and i just remember being so attracted to him; he wasn't ugly but he wasnt like "OMG HOT" either, he was good looking... but i was just so intrigued by him and so attracted to his character...

So i'm not sure what I am, despite identifying as a lesbian. I guess maybe I'm just very very VERY picky when it comes to guys, and sexually its not really a thought for me ~ but seeing as hearing this guy talk kinda made my heart beat faster, there's is definitely an attraction there of some kind. Funny enough back then i could confidently claim being Pansexual, but for some reason even with all this that i'm mentioning, i cant help but still feel like "Lesbian" is just a more correct term We will see what happens in the coming year as HRT continues to open doors i once deemed locked forever.

most men don't turn me on at all. I just see a bag of testosterone . the ones that do though put me on another planet. most women don't turn me on sexually I'm more into the fashion and styles and comparing myself to them , I'm really more interested in an intense long term loving relationship with a woman. I had a relationship with a man a ways back , but he didn't want what I wanted in the relationship. I love fantasizing about men, but women are very much important to me. I'm kind of split in half. Love is the most important thing though.

The more I go through transition, the more I notice that I'm not as concerned with bodies, but more with people. As a 'guy', I was only into other men, including transmen. However, as I discover my woman hood, I notice that I'm not so centered on men. I'm married to a man, so I doubt I'll ever be with a woman. In a hypothetical situation though, I could see myself with another woman.

Hum, I never managed to have feelings for a girl. I've thought it could happen cuz I idealize people a lot but when they would suddenly want to experiment it always weirded me out.

I wish I could be attracted to girls, it would probably be better for me, but in the end I just like scary dominant guys  I find girls to be really boring romantically, sorry just being honest lol

wow lol. i keep flipping back and forth. i rarely get romantically involved even though i do get sexually involved. i guess i can be called bi but yet i'm asexual at the same time o.o confusing i know

I have always been a lesbian.
With all the trans procedures, I continue to remain a lesbian ... HRT in particular inflamed my passions (am very romantic too)

Bisexual, have always been bi, but attraction shifted from maybe 90-10 in favor of women to more like 80-20.