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Started by stephaniec, June 14, 2014, 07:54:50 PM

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stephaniec

Given all the pain , social and family destruction that seems to be experienced by people who consider them selves trans , do you think it would be a good thing if the medical scientists found a way to completely block the effects of disphoria  and let people live happy lives without the need to transition. Or just let nature alone and work on society to change to a far more accepting perception of the transgender reality. would you feel better if there was no need to transition or is transitioning it self an experience that far out weighs the pain of the past and just a natural part of human existence.
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Ms Grace

I would a million times rather be a trans woman than be medically retrofitted into being cis male.
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Jessica Merriman

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 14, 2014, 07:56:31 PM
I would a million times rather be a trans woman than be medically retrofitted into being cis male.
This most definitely! Even if they had a drug which could "cure" Dysphoria I would not want it. I love my new life so much now. :)
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Joanna Dark

IDK. I don't think I experience dysphoria the way other people do or I'm not even sure if I have it. All I have is genital dysphoria. But up until I was 3, I had dual sets or reproductive organs. It's left me quite scarred. (<See what I did there!!!) So, I don't know. I have co-concurring IS conditions but I think all things being equal I'd rather be normal. In fact, the whole reason I'm doing this is just to be normal physically.

Of course, I have a BF and am totally in love so I wouldn't stop transitioning either. Maybe that's not a great reason to do this but combined with my physical state I think it is. I feel like if I wasn't physically like the way I am I would just go ahead and be a gay man. Or Bi. But prolly gay. Yeah a gay dude. But I am what I am so a straight woman works. I love the clothes. They fit so well.

But what is dysphoria? I mean I just really don't want a penis and think they messed up but other than that, it's whateva? But then I gots this whole body thing going on and without hormones I had boobs and a shape and people consistently told me a look like a dyke, so it's all so confusing...ack.

Like I said though, the BF. And we're going to get married and he really loves me and wants me to get SRS and I want that thing gone (always have) so yeah. I mean I read something here earlier (and it's not the first time) about thinking SRS is the be all and end all for transition and for someone like me, it really was and is? HRT hasn't changed me at all. In fact I might be less emotional. But it has given be D cups, so there's that. But not sure how I feel about them. Ugh.

Sorry, I know this was TLDR
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ErinS

I was talking about this with my good friend(the first in my circle I came out to)

The truth is, I don't think I would want a cure. This is such a fundamental part of who I am and has shaped my life to such an extent, would I still be the same person afterwards?

I've been very successful as a guy and it is difficult to consider the strong possibility of resetting my life at this point, but I've learned so much that isn't really a part of the male part of my personality. Would I even be able to like myself as a person? My male personality has a coldly sociopathic streak aggravated by my background and occupation choices, without the primary female part of me I could have never learned the beauty of compassion.

For me it would almost be an emotional lobotomy.
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Jessica Merriman

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Kylie

As long as I still felt like myself, I would probably choose to take the "cure" as it would be a much easier and less costly road.  I really wouldn't care if it meant being male or female, I just want to feel right and not want to die everyday.
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MikaylaGC

I think I can understand that for some people who have dysphoria but don't wish to go through everything(or maybe can't for various reasons) this could be an ok thing. But my worry with this is, in 2012 being TG finally got removed from the Mental Disorder list (about time), and this sort of giving you a pill or medicine to suppress/block Gender Dysphoria seems to go backwards in terms of progress. I would fear that lazy, non-understanding/non-sympathetic medical professionals would actually start taking the easy way out and start trying to shove pills down ppls throats to block it. To me thats dangerous for someones mental health, especially if there maybe not as aware as to there options or able to educate themselves independently of the medical fraternity. As we know not all doctors/therapists etc are created equal on this issue, so yea to me it could send us back to the 1950's of lets 'cure' TG.
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Sephirah

Blocking the effects of dysphoria treats only one of the symptoms, not the underlying cause. That's my view, anyway. Stopping me feeling the degree of dysphoria I feel personally, which probably isn't exactly the same as anyone else, wouldn't make me feel less like myself, or more like the way I was born. It would only stop (perhaps temporarily) one physical manifestation of my sense of self. So for me personally, it wouldn't do much good. To me it would feel like using painkillers to stop the pain caused by a decayed tooth. I would still know the tooth needed to be removed, even if I didn't feel the pain from it.
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Umiko

i can say, from all the pain i'm in because of dysphoria and its ever evolving evil, that i would undoubtedly refuse the option of erasing my dysphoria. i've learned a lot about myself, somethings i would of rather not learned, and the others things that are like " oh wow, i never knew that" although this is the worse type of pain i've faced, i'm happier none the less.
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Jessica Merriman

Interesting question though Stephanie. Looks like we better not buy those stocks in the Cure Trans Condition Pharmaceuticals though based on the responses!  ;D
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Rachel

When I was really young I just knew something was wrong with my genitals. I felt like something was missing. I would touch the area and think it just has to be there. I would ask god to help me as I cried myself to sleep. I wish there was a pharmaceutical that could have been given to my parents to accept me and love me as I am and a society that allowed girls to become girls who are born with the wrong parts in the 60's. Then I would never have had to go through this. 
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Bijou

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 14, 2014, 07:56:31 PM
I would a million times rather be a trans woman than be medically retrofitted into being cis male.

This.
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stephaniec

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stephaniec

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Just Shelly

For many years I wished there was that pill that could erase all those dysphoria feelings....I never found it and new the only cure was to transition. Even through all my ups and downs since transitioning especially now with dating...I can honestly say I have found the cure and am happy. Yes if there would of been something to make me into that "normal" man I would of took it back then. I'm now at the point that I really would of regretted it!!!!

I now wish I could find that pill to give me a normal cis female upbringing LOL!!
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~Evelyn~

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on June 14, 2014, 07:58:15 PM
This most definitely! Even if they had a drug which could "cure" Dysphoria I would not want it. I love my new life so much now. :)
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sveebee85

Quote from: Ms Grace on June 14, 2014, 07:56:31 PM
I would a million times rather be a trans woman than be medically retrofitted into being cis male.


me too for sure. i thing we have to work a lot with our society, especially each of us must show them that being trans* is
such a normal thing and we´re kind of normal persons - independent of our gender.
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