Hello girls,

I must apologize in the first place for writing quiet extensive post assuming subjects, that are more or less written in other cathegories, but not truely answered my questions.
So i have a bunch of questions, that I would like to know

To introduce myself, Iam a 20 yo guy, that has an obsession in dressing like a woman, especially dressing as a wh*re. What I mean with that are things like mini skirts, sexy dresses, etc.
So I will list those questions now, and enroll them below:

1) Is it truely possible for a guy, who doesnt want to take any hormone therapy nor surgery to blend in in public?
2) About a female body, is it possible to achieve really hot female figure without any hormones at all?
3) About fake breast, Iv seen on sites some "realistic" looking breasts and I would like to know if they can be truely that realistic?
4) Make up, I dont have anyone to help me, and Iam not truely able to do it i tried several times but always end up looking like a clown.
5) About voice feminization, is it possible to sound like a girl, when its not full time?

1) What my dream is (or goal), is to walk into a bar, take a drink and let some guy walk to me, talk with me and try to date me. I just want to know, if its worth trying, or I can never achieve such succes.
2) What I mean is, iam trained martial artist so some diet and special exercises arent really a problem to me, I just know only a little about fat distribution in male/female body and some characteristics and processes i just couldnt supress. So, would i be truly able to achieve "model-like" figure without hormones and so?
3) I never bought any fake breast, so i dont know, how realistic they are, iam sure i cant take off bra but still, are they realistic enough, that guy wouldnt notice it while wearing bra?
4) Make up problem isnt in fact the problem, as I know it takes a lot of practice to achieve realistic female look, but more I would like to have some1 here, who i could send securely my photo, and he/she would tell me how to achieve highlighting my femme parts of face and hiding my males.
5) Voice is just questionable, I know it takes practice and so, I just want to know, if its truly possible to achieve "part-time" realistic female voice on command - like i could really choose which voice to speak now.

Additional information:
Iam not gay, even though i have this dream of being dated by a guy, I have a girlfriend and Iam really satisfied with her, but as we do know, our girly part takes a call and i dont want to let it be unfullfilled. Even though my girlfriend is the best in the world, she is quiet limited and I dont think she could ever understand that. Even though, she doesnt mind me waxing my legs, so hair removal shouldnt be a problem at all.. Iam waxing just legs now, but I dont think she would notice me waxing my hands or so. About waxing I would have another question, how do u wax your butt hair? i just cant figure a position to have it nicely done, iv bought some hair epilator now, iam waiting for arrival... but still cant figure out the right position. I dont have really a problem about money, still dont want to spend thousand bucks on breast forms... but if it would do the job, i would go for it.

Hope some of you girls could help me respond my questions,
Enjoy the beautifull Sunday!
Laria

Take a look at any good drag queen and I think you'll find all the answers are yes. Good luck

Oh and on your other question, find a gay-friendly salon and they'll wax whatever you need done.

Thx you for reply Orihime,

The problem is, that in my situation i cant really afford to take any risk at being caught... And in my country.. Its just quiet risky.. i have take a look and i read a lot of threads around here and other sites too, but i think those people - drag queens have some mentor to show them some things, some saloon to wax etc etc etc. So do u think I have chance to achieve that alone?

There are a lot of videos on YouTube, so it would be practice, practice, practice

And while it is risky, there are others out there around you I'm sure. You may be able to find a way to connect.

I hoped to find some mentor or at least some "drag-friend" that could comment, maybe even help me a little bit with my advances and moves.. I have read and seen a lot of tutorials, but the thing is, Iam not sure how to identify for example my own masculine parts of face, where to highlight where do darker, even after watching videos... So thank you very much Orihime, maybe somebody will be willing to share some ideas with me in more secure, chat-like or email way...

Hi Laria,
1) Is it truly possible for a guy, who doesn't want to take any hormone therapy or surgery to blend in in public?

Yes, depending on your genetics (is your face + body already feminine shaped?), and your skill with clothes and makeup.

2) About a female body, is it possible to achieve really hot female figure without any hormones at all?

Yes, but I'd say, rare. Same as #1, you are either genetically lucky or not. I heard some people recommend core and lower body exercise, to emphasize slim waist / fuller hips / buttocks, while at the same time stay away from upper body exercise to make your arms / shoulders look smaller. You may need some hip pads and / or a corset.

3) About fake breast, Iv seen on sites some "realistic" looking breasts and I would like to know if they can be truely that realistic?

Yes - some combination of breast forms + bra can give you a realistic look. The breast shape is not the problem, it's the chest shape - i.e. if you take someone with a barrel-shaped chest, and stick breasts on them, the effect can be oversized and fake looking. Clothing choice matters though - concealing or distracting from your manly shoulders / chest.

4) Make up, I don't have anyone to help me, and I'm not truly able to do it i tried several times but always end up looking like a clown.

Internet research and practice, practice, practice. Genetic girls practiced since they were 11, but you just started. Every time you do end up with clownface, it's not a wasted effort - it's an opportunity to learn. We've all done it.

5) About voice feminization, is it possible to sound like a girl, when its not full time?

You can train yourself to speak with a higher voice (there are YouTube guides, or voice therapy). It is a way of modulating your voice, a learned skill, so it's not permanent - you could go back and forth between high and low voice. I've heard a bunch of people that used it, and the effect is an *improvement* over the male voice, but not a truly fem voice either. Think positive though - if your entire presentation is quite feminine, then people may look past the fact that your voice is still 'not 100% fem' - after all, there are genetic women with unusual voices.


If you are in a country where being found out carries a strong risk of physical violence, then I recommend first looking for safe spaces (gay bars? crossdresser meeting places?) Even the harshest countries have glbt spaces, although they may be hidden. Places where you can present female, where people won't hurt you even if you're recognized. It is naive to go among cis-people expecting to never get caught.