First off, congratulations on accepting yourself and taking the steps necessary to become a woman by seeing a therapist. I've recently also come to terms with it and now I'm on my way to transition. I'm not going to lie, there is going to be tough times ahead of you and life as you know it might begin to crumble around you so be prepared for that. I suggest, in a little while, to come out to your wife since the longer you wait, the harder it will be. When you do come out, invite her to see the therapist with you and to visit this website for information and a way to get herself together. She might not be on board right away but you can at least point her in the right direction for information if she's willing to read up on this. As for the children, I would come out to them ASAP since the younger they are, the easier it is for them to accept it since they are less exposed to external influences.

I've only started the hard work of accepting myself for who I am when I was 52. That was almost 6 years ago. And I do mean hard work with all the baggage you accumulate as you go through life. You took a very big and important step. Now you feel like a ton of weight was lifted, which it has.

One of the common themes I've seen is going too fast. First you hardly know what's up. You wife even less. Guaranteed after dropping the T-Bomb she will be in shock and likely have a ton of questions. Most of which you cannot truly answer for her, nor likely even to yourself.

My wife had known for some 30 years a little about my dysphoria. Not much less than I really allowed myself to honestly know.  I was not sure what or if to even tell her for months after going to my TG support group meetings. I had no idea whatsoever of what future plans I had other than to end the cycle of disasters which I reasoned occured because of how poorly I handled being TG. It has been a slow and steady process of me learning and discovering who I am and her also learning and adjusting.

Also a difficult tear filled process for you both. Made all the difficult as you both dance on the knife edge of venting and TMI while trying to have open and honest discussions. It is difficult to be honest with another person when you yourself don't know what is real. I still am not sure after 5 years in exactly what I need

Hi,
A proverb say : "we live just one time".
I do not say you to go fast or slow rather not too fast and not too slow.
And when we are at death's door, we see our entire life pass in our mind... but it is too late to say "I would be"
We are the same age. I try to live just with what I want for me without the other's opinion but I take care of the other because with that, I take care of myself.
The best decision for you is probably the decision that is the most confortable for you.
At last, I think that it is easier to give happiness if you are happy...
Take care of yourself,
Hannah (h)

No therapist today due to the holiday. I am anxious to see her again as she is currently the only person in the world that I have explained how I really feel to. I am going through period's of fear and depression thinking about the day I come out to my wife alternating with excitement and impatience and wanting to.tell her now. I have to admit that I have become a bit obsessed with this site.and researching MTF in general. 
Well, just checking in ladies, have a wonderful day.

SARAH FRANCES