Alright, my current situation, 5 months on hormones and Im passing quite well, not clocked often in female clothes, almost overwhelming gendered female in my androgynous/ leaning male wardrobe.  I want to move on and go "full-time", which means wearing makeup and female clothes at work, but 1)my wardrobe is incredibly shallow 2)I dont want to go back and forth between clothes there 3)I dont have much time for shopping, work and a toddler that just is at the perfect age to mke it impossible 4)Im overwhelmed a bit when I do get to go, tiny circle of friends that are usually busy means I go alone, or with a friend who admittedly cant help much.  I need help there, Trying to do it myself is slow going and its going to take months to learn and figure out at this rate. I also feel a bit anxious because pretty much the only people I pass as male too these days are people that I am introduced to as male.

I went on a date last night with a guy.  Im not physically attracted to guys, but I have become a bit emotionally attracted to a couple.  Last night was one of them, and it went really really well.  We both had a great time, things went smoothly, I didnt even have any problems when I got carded, the person didnt even look at it, I left it in my wallet and the edge of the plastic display area hides the gender marker, and they really didnt even look at it.  One guy even bought us both drinks (my date was going to make me cover the round, and the guy hitting on me wanted to show him up and bought them for me, being a girl is sometimes awesome).  Of course there was the dark flipside to that, the attention from dead shark eyed gross guys that look at you like they eye their favorite food, absolutely disgusting.  During the date we held hands, even ended up cuddling for a while, it was all very unexpectedly enjoyable to me, every single minute and everything that happened.  He does know im trans, actually knew me before I started to transition, and at one point in he date he told me he felt like the universe was playing a cruel trick on him, that I was the perfect girl for him in every way except that I hadnt always been.  I retorted with "Look at me, I AM a girl", and he agreed, we started holding hands after that

The human heart does strange unexpected things!

Quote from: ashrock on July 12, 2014, 09:57:56 PM
Alright, my current situation, 5 months on hormones and Im passing quite well, not clocked often in female clothes, almost overwhelming gendered female in my androgynous/ leaning male wardrobe.  I want to move on and go "full-time", which means wearing makeup and female clothes at work, but 1)my wardrobe is incredibly shallow 2)I dont want to go back and forth between clothes there 3)I dont have much time for shopping, work and a toddler that just is at the perfect age to mke it impossible 4)Im overwhelmed a bit when I do get to go, tiny circle of friends that are usually busy means I go alone, or with a friend who admittedly cant help much.  I need help there, Trying to do it myself is slow going and its going to take months to learn and figure out at this rate. I also feel a bit anxious because pretty much the only people I pass as male too these days are people that I am introduced to as male.

I went on a date last night with a guy.  Im not physically attracted to guys, but I have become a bit emotionally attracted to a couple.  Last night was one of them, and it went really really well.  We both had a great time, things went smoothly, I didnt even have any problems when I got carded, the person didnt even look at it, I left it in my wallet and the edge of the plastic display area hides the gender marker, and they really didnt even look at it.  One guy even bought us both drinks (my date was going to make me cover the round, and the guy hitting on me wanted to show him up and bought them for me, being a girl is sometimes awesome).  Of course there was the dark flipside to that, the attention from dead shark eyed gross guys that look at you like they eye their favorite food, absolutely disgusting.  During the date we held hands, even ended up cuddling for a while, it was all very unexpectedly enjoyable to me, every single minute and everything that happened.  He does know im trans, actually knew me before I started to transition, and at one point in he date he told me he felt like the universe was playing a cruel trick on him, that I was the perfect girl for him in every way except that I hadnt always been.  I retorted with "Look at me, I AM a girl", and he agreed, we started holding hands after that

thanks for sharing very happy experience

That's what its all about just going about life trying to be the happiest we can.

You need to find someway the time to shop.

I wish you the best and never turn a blind eye to love, it happens more when we are not looking for it.

Hugs
Izzy

Heartwarming ending

Hasnt left you wondering if there's more in store? (Even though you said you arent physically attracted to guys)

Aww! Thts great, good luck going full time!

Thanks all! We've been talking almost daily since and things are good between us so far. I really don't know where it may go, but to be honest, it felt good to feel like a woman, and Ive never felt more that way than when I was in his arms.  Still needing help building a wardrobe, but its slowly accumulating as I can

Quote from: ashrock on July 15, 2014, 12:31:24 PM
Thanks all! We've been talking almost daily since and things are good between us so far. I really don't know where it may go, but to be honest, it felt good to feel like a woman, and Ive never felt more that way than when I was in his arms.  Still needing help building a wardrobe, but its slowly accumulating as I can

your avatar looks great

Your avatar does look great. Your story makes me jealous yet again

Quote from: ashrock on July 12, 2014, 09:57:56 PM
Alright, my current situation, 5 months on hormones and Im passing quite well, not clocked often in female clothes, almost overwhelming gendered female in my androgynous/ leaning male wardrobe.  I want to move on and go "full-time", which means wearing makeup and female clothes at work, but 1)my wardrobe is incredibly shallow 2)I dont want to go back and forth between clothes there 3)I dont have much time for shopping, work and a toddler that just is at the perfect age to mke it impossible 4)Im overwhelmed a bit when I do get to go, tiny circle of friends that are usually busy means I go alone, or with a friend who admittedly cant help much.  I need help there, Trying to do it myself is slow going and its going to take months to learn and figure out at this rate. I also feel a bit anxious because pretty much the only people I pass as male too these days are people that I am introduced to as male.

I went on a date last night with a guy.  Im not physically attracted to guys, but I have become a bit emotionally attracted to a couple.  Last night was one of them, and it went really really well.  We both had a great time, things went smoothly, I didnt even have any problems when I got carded, the person didnt even look at it, I left it in my wallet and the edge of the plastic display area hides the gender marker, and they really didnt even look at it.  One guy even bought us both drinks (my date was going to make me cover the round, and the guy hitting on me wanted to show him up and bought them for me, being a girl is sometimes awesome).  Of course there was the dark flipside to that, the attention from dead shark eyed gross guys that look at you like they eye their favorite food, absolutely disgusting.  During the date we held hands, even ended up cuddling for a while, it was all very unexpectedly enjoyable to me, every single minute and everything that happened.  He does know im trans, actually knew me before I started to transition, and at one point in he date he told me he felt like the universe was playing a cruel trick on him, that I was the perfect girl for him in every way except that I hadnt always been.  I retorted with "Look at me, I AM a girl", and he agreed, we started holding hands after that

Thanks for sharing a very heartwarming night you had with a happy ending. I'm not physically attracted to guys either, but, who knows. For me now it's more about the person rather than their gender. And as somebody said: love creeps in on you when your not looking for it. And if he makes you feel feminine all the better.

As for your wardrobe. Now that your a woman you will need to get used to taking your time, and trying things on when you shop. Our clothes are way different than mens. Ours are form fitting, whereas men's clothes are like putting on a sack. Our clothes will show every imperfection on your body if not selected correctly and in most cases, tried on. There are a few exceptions though and in your case until you get used to shopping I suggest you try these:

Sun dresses for one are a cute way to get by in the summer, and are easy to select. Most come in small (s/p), medium, and large and some are even adjustable. I buy the sleeveless ones low cut, mini hemed, in the small (s/p) size. You can buy some pretty nice dresses like these online for under $30. Wear bright colors. They'll go great with your blonde hair and I think you'd be cute in one with any bright color scheme.

Shoes: Here you don't skimp, and try them on! I stress this point because you want something that's comfortable enough for you to spend the day walking in, or a night out in. As a rule I don't choose anything with more than a 4" heel because they'll just be too uncomfortable to wear over long periods out dancing, etc (but there are exceptions!). Also, you'll want something that will match your outfit. I usually choose something that will go with at least 4 outfits in my wardrobe. As a rule this works because the shoes you have will each work with several outfits and crosswork with certain combinations of two piece outfits I come up with. Black, red, pink, blue, and white come to mind for colors or a combination thereof for girls just starting out. However also, you'll never have enough shoes.

These are just a few recommendations. If you pm me I may be able to help you choose certain outfits or combinations that may work for you.

Hope this helps a little.

Best wishes!
Allie

I'm so happy things went so well for you! Follow your heart; maybe this can continue to blossom into something special

All I can say is... thrift shops!! Shop as many as you can, and shop judiciously. You will not get the perfect wardrobe this way but I have managed to build a nice wardrobe with just several hundred dollars in expenditures total. Now I can begin to add new things one at a time, if I wish, and not have to lay out thousands of dollars just to get started.

And your evening sounded like it was wonderful! Don't pigeonhole yourself quite yet. You may discover that what you like changes as you come to grips with your true self. Or, at least in my case, I stopped repressing how I feel and now openly acknowledge my own bisexuality.

Quote from: LizMarie on July 16, 2014, 11:26:15 AM
All I can say is... thrift shops!! Shop as many as you can, and shop judiciously. You will not get the perfect wardrobe this way but I have managed to build a nice wardrobe with just several hundred dollars in expenditures total. Now I can begin to add new things one at a time, if I wish, and not have to lay out thousands of dollars just to get started.

And your evening sounded like it was wonderful! Don't pigeonhole yourself quite yet. You may discover that what you like changes as you come to grips with your true self. Or, at least in my case, I stopped repressing how I feel and now openly acknowledge my own bisexuality.

Target always has great clearance sales. I built a decent wardrobe from Target. I also came to the understanding of not repressing my bisexuality.

Yes definitely Thrift Stores, Wal-Mart, Target, Bells, etc. all have potential when shopping for a new wardrobe without breaking the bank. My favorite sun dress I'm wearing in my Avatar came from Goodwill.

Allie