Thank you ladies !
I would not protest if I was offensive, derogatory, or insensitive, I will take the smite, apologize if warranted, and then move on.
I have a real hard time when people post requesting advice and/or opinions just to later on get their panties in a wad when faced with opinions or advice that is not of their like. More often than not it is all about getting some attention, and that is Ok with me, we all need it to vent some drama every now and then but lets be frank and do request a "pity party."