When my kids were younger I would tell them it's ok to feel angry...it's not ok to hit your brother when you feel angry. So i have to agree that anger and hate are honest human emotions. And they are neither good nor bad. But it's our reaction to the feelings that determines whether they've been helpful or not.

I don't like being transgender, but i am. I feel disappointed and at times angry about it. But if I use those negative emotions to drive me towards a successful transition rather than letting them cripple me, then they've actually had a positive effect.

To each their own, Katie. I feel personally that anger was a driving force behind keeping me from living life the way I wanted to for a long time, physically and spiritually. I didn't really gain any courage till I let go of a LOT of that. I appreciate that experience, for it helped me see a side of myself that I needed to change. It taught me how to love. I'm a firm believer that you get back what you give, be it at some time or another, and yes I'm referring to our emotions (which are actions). Like I said before, many of my views are so deep, it would confuse things to try and explain them in the simplest terms.

Ladies, I think this is a wonderful topic for the Spirituality forum.