according to the drake-sagan equation the galaxy should be jam-packed with alien civilizations chattering away like m->-bleeped-<-ies. thousands or millions of the things. unfortunately SETI has found absolutely no evidence for anybody communicating anywhere, except for us.
the great physicist fermi asked the question "where are they?" any technological civilization should be able to colonize the galaxy within 5 to 50 million years. the trouble is, there is absolutely no evidence on earth of any visit in the past. none.
now, it is very possible the drake-sagan equation is wrong, especially in the section that deals with the development of life. actually not life itself, that is probably exceedingly common. the major problem is probably the jump from single celled animals to multi-celled animals. The number of planets where that developed may easily be one. us.
another problem, foreseen by drake and sagan is the lifetime of technical civilizations. do they destroy themselves before they can begin interstellar colonization? do they exhaust their resources before they can leave? what the hell are they thinking if they are there watching us from afar?
my personal feeling is that even if they did develop, even if they did manage to survive their atomic era, the difficulties of interstellar travel are insurmountable. we will never know. so there.