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Started by helen2010, July 25, 2014, 06:31:02 PM

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ErinWDK

I currently use the "A" option.  I am not at all sure about identity, so that seems the best current fit or at least I like it better than "?"  The one I don't like is "Q" - back in my day that was a nasty pejoritive term.  I know times have changed and the use of the word is different, but I am an old stick in the mud and I can't personally go there.  That is saying nothing about anyone who uses the "Q" as it has become an identity to be proud of.

All that said I can go with things the way they are, or with adding a Non-Binary category.  If "NB" were an option I would probably go with it.  However, deep down inside of me there is a part that would rather switch to "F" - if more of me were comfortable with that I would probably go there.


Erin
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Shantel

Ok so I dropped the "A" and substituted "Non-Binary Trans-Drogynous" Non-Binary being significant of my internal hardwiring as it is today and Trans-Drogynous because I transitioned initially toward a more feminized physique and yet still present outwardly androgynously on a daily basis as it suits me being neither fully masculine or fully feminine. This has been a good exercise for me as it seems the whole business of transition and coming to terms with one's self identity is an ongoing transitional thing in and of itself.
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luna nyan

To be honest, the gender marker doesn't worry me at all.  It may be an issue to others.  I just mark down the appropriate descriptor for myself in the avatar profile box.  The only reason it might be helpful is if stats are being taken, but that hasn't been the case.
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Satinjoy

My opinion...

Leave it all as is.  The free text is good, and Androgyn needs to stay androgyne it is a big mistake to make a change there, Q needs to remain as there are definite Q's invested in that too, and the rest can be self defined.

I see Androgyn as a specific form of trans with its own character and special presentation.  Non binary, which has me in it, is inclusive, and picks us all up.  But I am mtf and in this forum and I belong here, so does all of us, but the Androgyns seem to me to be special in that the body dysphoria does not rule them as it does me.  I could be stupid on this, but investment in our gender identity, most of which took years to figure out, especially us in our complexity, this investment is huge and should not be prodded, even with the most positive of intents.

I think there is enough room to self identity out of the norm here.  A couple more characters could be nice, another text line, but it isnt necessary.

So, in a vote, and I am not neg on the topic either.... no change.

Also as to sexual preferences, I would prefer not knowing anyone's here.  It can muddy  the water.  Fear of an attraction for instance, not wanting to engage emotionally if you think the other will emotionally get a mixed message.... it makes it complicated, unless in the body of a post relevent to a topic.  With other trans, it is a non issue for me, I do not relate in areas of that type of attraction, its like we are the same gender no matter what the fluid position is, and I relate that way.

Just thoughts here.  But I am very strong on not changing the A and Q existing identifyers.  Elimination of one  becomes alienation of the same, a huge error.  Adding more.... I used to leave it blank and just use the text for the other id's, the four letter ones that I still cannot grasp and thats ok for this noopnbmtf.  LOL.

Just something funny - how  the heck can you be hetero or homosexual or lesbian when your body is both male and female physically anyway?

S.J. Satinjoy

LOL

Love to all here.  Nobody leaves, lets get the andros more active starting threads, the Q's and nbmtf's are overwhelming the board.  Meaning just me of course.  I don't know how to start a pure andro thread:(

I talk too much.  I probably am offending everyone now.

Blessings anyway.
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ativan

Change it to NB or N so when posting in other sections, people will know, just as when someone who uses the F or M lets others know of their gender.
To be more specific, then use put up more specific whatever, to let others have an idea, just as F or M do...
Seems pretty straight forward, those whose preference as a non binary and still wish to use the F or M, hey! bonus!...
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