Quote from: Tysilio on August 01, 2014, 07:51:18 AM
Oh, Lor'. That. I first became involved in LGBT politics 40-some years ago (pretty much right after Stonewall, in fact), and that made it sooo hard to get anything done. It's depressing that nothing has changed, but it's a... human thing, I guess.

If you'll forgive me, Cindy, for attempting to answer a rhetorical question -- I think much of it has to do with feeling powerless in relation to the actual sources of our oppression -- it's easy (and safe!) to puff oneself up and feel "big" by turning on other powerless people.

I will give this an echo as many LGBTQ activists have found the Bs and Ts are still in the back of the bus.  Being both B and T has been an exercise in tolerance for me.  I consider that many people just can't handle shades of grey or not having an absolute simple formula that fits everyone.  Living with questions and being open to new ideas is not easy it seems.  So hey, we are still here and THANK YOU for helping us knock down walls and subvert the dominate paradigms.

Quote from: Cindy on August 01, 2014, 03:55:24 AM
I'll throw in a curly one.
The worst thing is dealing with trans*groups, trying to get them to cooperate and deal with the big issues rather than self driven petty fiefdoms.
Why do we as a group that has to work together rip ourselves apart and so fail to help each other.

This is a bizarre reality.

Er...being born a transsexual in the first place.

The  worst thing about being transsexual is that you have to go through so much psychological progress to receive your  hormones and tell em over a year " yes I really am female". Thats just my opinion about it so glad I finished that with 16 and thats already long way behind me. Its just so ridiculous to ensure everyone of your self identity to receive what you really require.


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The worst thing was living in terror of ever letting my guard down, even inside the safety of my own head. 

I spent decades scared into emotional paralysis by thoughts & desires I couldn't process or control. 

I was not able to admit to myself that the thoughts & desires were real and needed to be addressed until avoiding them brought me to the ER.

This is more a commentary on the culture in which I grew up than on actually being trans.  But it is definitely the worst thing I have had to deal with as a result of being trans.

It is a relief to finally feel that it is OK to be who I am. 

Tessa

After yesterday's heat I revised my opinion, the worst thing is having boob sweat and scrotum sweat at the same time.

Quote from: Dee Walker on August 05, 2014, 07:50:39 AM
After yesterday's heat I revised my opinion, the worst thing is having boob sweat and scrotum sweat at the same time.

Ahh thank you for that

Def too much info

Wishing you the best on your journey in the next life Nero.

But to answer this question, for me, it's knowing I'll never be cis. I'll never know what it's like to wake up with "morning wood", to never know the embarassment of an "unwanted erection" or to even know what it's like to ejaculate. I use to always want to have a penis, even if it meant having to have breast because I knew those could be removed. People may wonder why I'd want to experience the embarrassing things...Well, it'd be part of being a male and just something that would be much desired over having to transition.

What does it feel like to be transgender?  This is the way I describe it:

Imagine someone you truly love, someone you love with all your heart and soul, someone you love so much that, if it came down to it, you might actually give your life for them.  And now imagine that you've lost them--for whatever reason--and you can never have them again for as long as you live.

That's what it feels like to be trans, and for me, among all the problems connected with being trans, this is the worst: that constant longing, that never-ending ache for that person inside that is truly you, that person you want to be and that society is hell-bent on preventing you from being.  It hurts so much to want and need somebody you cannot have and be.

The worst thing is being judged....I one time had a former friend who turned enemy on me call me "boyfriend" to my actual boyfriend (he's FTM) and they also called him a girl. I was just so angry...I don't understand how people can be so mean...can't they just leave us be?

Wow. Way to dig up bad memories. 

1. Being trans, and
2. All the bloody waiting

I suppose 1 edges out number 2 since (eventually) the waiting will be over, but omg before HRT I never thought that just waiting could be so difficult or take so much out of me mentally!

The #1 worst thing for me is... I will never be physically authentic.
(Unless my body is somehow magically corrected)

Disclosing.

I can live my life as a normal guy, and I forget most of the time that I'm trans.  But then there always comes that time where you need to disclose.  Or people ask innocent questions about your family (ie kids's mom, who is she..._) and figuring out how to answer a) without lying and b) without disclosing.

I really don't feel like it is anyone else's business.  I don't discuss my other medical conditions, either.

The gatekeepers.

Losing brothers and sisters.

I await the day when 95% trans people die of old age..

I have to agree with many here on page 1 who said Puberty. Plus my being IS on top of being trans added to the horror of watching once totally feminine features be transformed into something in between. Oh yes out of all the horrors and worse I've been through to get to where I am now in this happy place, I would say for me puberty was the absolute worse thing I've ever had to endure.

R.I.P. Nero, Wishing you everlasting peace

Ali

Realizing how many years I lived being utterly unhappy. I'm glad those days are long long gone

Either being judged by others or simply not being cis.  I wish I could bear a child, but I will (probably, unless technology advances enough) never be able to become pregnant and be a biological mother.  Its a big form of dysphoria for me.

Constantly switching back to male mode. Removing the nail polish. Double scrubbing the face to remove any hints of makeup, etc.  The act in itself is not so bad just always depressing wishing I did not have to transform back.  Once back to male mode I am okay  it's that transition backwards....