if you could change something from growing up(reporter wanted to change the fact that she didn't play hopscotch) what would it be other than gender( of  course)

I would sign up for gymnastics like i always wanted to do, but never did.

Find a way to stop my mothers isolation and pain.

that's  a tuff one because so much was wrong. probably being able to talk to people. I couldn't even talk to my parents.

Quote from: stephaniec on August 29, 2014, 03:47:44 PM
that's  a tuff one because so much was wrong. probably being able to talk to people. I couldn't even talk to my parents.

me either, but it was safer that way.

I would have taken ballet.  I took an adult ballet class shortly before going full-time and I loved it!  Too bad it's impossible to be stealth in tights.

Learn to play piano. Still have time to do that of course.

Save my Mother.

Speak up about the abuse of my dad.

I would've preferred to have a clue.

If I had grown up female, I should have had some sense of aim, direction and a clear career path.  Instead I just drank, did drugs and somehow, miraculously, I ended up with a useless college degree and a semi-cool job that didn't pay.  I was the ultimate underachiever and now I know exactly why.  I could have been a doctor, lawyer or business executive.

I'd want to be more confident socially. I missed out on a lot because I didn't come out of my shell.

Should have stopped trying to be an alpha male and sought to better understand, accept and express myself

My first instinct was to say that I would change the fact that I was too trusting with people, and wanted to believe the best in them. Even when they were utterly horrible with me. But then I thought about it, and I realised that those experiences have made me a lot less trusting of people, and more cynical. And honestly, that isn't a whole lot better.

So... no, I don't think I would want to change anything (outside the obvious). I am who I am, scars and all. Some of them I wear with pride, some of them no one ever sees. But at least I know I am me.

Quote from: Sephirah on August 29, 2014, 07:20:11 PM
My first instinct was to say that I would change the fact that I was too trusting with people, and wanted to believe the best in them. Even when they were utterly horrible with me. But then I thought about it, and I realised that those experiences have made me a lot less trusting of people, and more cynical. And honestly, that isn't a whole lot better.

So... no, I don't think I would want to change anything (outside the obvious). I am who I am, scars and all. Some of them I wear with pride, some of them no one ever sees. But at least I know I am me.

Sephirah

This will teach me to hurry off a quick post.  You are absolutely right.  If I were to change anything then it would change the person who I have become.  I own who I am.  Each and every step, tear, smile, friend, lover, experience and learning has been part of my journey.  I am where I am meant to be.  I am Aisla and I am blessed.

Safe travels

Quote from: Aisla on August 29, 2014, 08:06:26 PM
Sephirah

This will teach me to hurry off a quick post.  You are absolutely right.  If I were to change anything then it would change the person who I have become.  I own who I am.  Each and every step, tear, smile, friend, lover, experience and learning has been part of my journey.  I am where I am meant to be.  I am Aisla and I am blessed.

Safe travels

very true

this is a very hard one to answer. because of the changes that it would cause in all. I guess the biggest and onlything i would change is to not have lied to my self. It just tought me that i can lie all to well. and that is one thing I fight myself every day to not do.

Quote from: Jill F on August 29, 2014, 06:29:17 PM
If I had grown up female, I should have had some sense of aim, direction and a clear career path.  Instead I just drank, did drugs and somehow, miraculously, I ended up with a useless college degree and a semi-cool job that didn't pay.  I was the ultimate underachiever and now I know exactly why.  I could have been a doctor, lawyer or business executive.

I feel like people think this is a cop out but it is SO TRUE, I can relate big time, lots of wasted potential; I barely made it through high school being too depressed to move let alone study. The second I came out and accepted this about myself and that there was nothing wrong with me, I went overnight (and I mean literally, it was almost an overnight epiphany, I had a fire lit under me, I had a reason to live!) from being a community college dropout art student who never did better than a D in anything (if I passed at all) to a straight-A, top of the class electrical-computer engineering student at a four year university. My life COMPLETELY changed directions, it truly was the magic solution for me. Who knew not thinking of yourself as a deranged sicko who could never have a job, never be loved, and never integrate herself into normal society would have such a negative impact on your motivation/self-worth?

it makes me want to cry when I think of all the wasted potential that exists in the LGBT community due to bigotry and self loathing, but it's hard to become motivated for anything when you are convinced you literally have NO future. I was quite convinced I would kill myself before 20, so what's the point of trying right? I just wish there was some way to reach the next generation of trans/lgb kids living completely self-destructive.

I would want parents who actually cared about being parents.

Handstands.

Quote from: Ms Grace on August 29, 2014, 11:12:09 PM
Handstands.

I could do hand stands. I wish I could of done back fllips