Well, I mean, I don't know what to say. You can't address a binary issue from a non-binary perspective and not expect that you do not share a binary girl's affect to give you a drastically different perspective.
I said nothing about completely leaving behind one's life or connections. That is honestly not required for effective stealth, and to be clear, this is from the perspective of years post-transition when the initial turbulence is overcome and one starts having to actually look at the big picture of life and how to reach the truly intended destination. The examples I brought up deal with selective pruning and maintaining basic personal privacy rather than reckless inconsideration or abandonment.
Militant?
To prevent this from becoming yet another case of someone thinking I said something that if re-read I actually didn't, maybe we could use a reminder that on the gender spectrum dysphoria and its origins are inherent and different for everyone. Plenty of binary folks like myself, for instance, experience dysphoria in presenting gender ambiguity - forget masculinity, even a measure of ambiguity is bad. Don't let fear or doubt get to you: be amazing, be one step ahead of stupid people or stupid situations that would get in your way, figure out what your identity really is, and define yourself for yourself. The keys are in your hands.
There is no reason to shame or discourage those brave and confident women who go to great lengths to simply transition and remove the stigma of pre-transition from their lives, because it's almost as incomprehensible as basic transphobia. You may hold in scorn those who go on to separate themselves from the mtf label to the maximum extent possible, but I know such convictions simply exhibit most profoundly the inherent nature of gender identity.
Re-reading some relevant responses, I echo, have the photos taken down. This is getting a little philosophical, but I disagree with the idea that gender is fluid rather than fixed, that one can "have been a man" and now "be a woman." You're not defined by how others perceive you or how you present. If you're female you know it, you've always inherently
been female, even when surrounded by chaos - never 'truly' being male. Some may feel their gender did in fact 'change', and if so, I can't to that since I feel nothing in common with it.
But think about how hard you had to fight to transition. Did those who keep those photos really cheer with approval? Or was there a lot of tension and figuring out to do instead? My point is, you are the sole creator of the ground you stand upon! The worst thing would be to be complacent - that is, to be dishonest to the truth of your real self rather than fear what someone else might perceive as dishonest. That fear will eat you alive if you let it.
As this is an mtf forum I would assume 'female' not non-binary or half-transitioning is the goal, yes? If not, perhaps it would be good to have MtX / FtX forums regarding transitioning purposes? But after re-reading the OP, it actually was a loaded question that assumed the photos do not trigger the respondent. Sigh. Again, I cannot post from that point of view because I do not share it, but suffice it to say that for some, like me, it's a very simple question: "Hey, let me ask you something... you transitioned for a reason, right? Well?"
Also, happy Sinday
