The other day my mom, out of the blue, just said, "You'd make such an ugly boy."

Gosh, Mom...

Bad form, Mom.

My dad told me that he didnt need another doughter.... 

and my mom the next day told me she needs "proof" like a lab report or something of that nature.

Quote from: pianoforte on August 31, 2014, 02:33:02 AM
The other day my mom, out of the blue, just said, "You'd make such an ugly boy."

Gosh, Mom...

Ummmm, well, is the alternative to be a pretty boy?  What nonsense!  In my limited experience, FTM folk often have very delicate features and almost deliberately have to "ugly" themselves with facial hair and whatnot. 

I bet you're going to look great - your mom was probably having one of those moments that parents understandably (but not happily) have from time to time.

I've told some really silly stuff that my mom said in the past. One of her less positive comments when I first came out was "but then you'll be your father." They had a pretty bitter separation so it was probably the worst thing she could have said.

Quote from: Ayden on August 31, 2014, 03:42:35 AM
I've told some really silly stuff that my mom said in the past. One of her less positive comments when I first came out was "but then you'll be your father." They had a pretty bitter separation so it was probably the worst thing she could have said.

Awww, Ayden, you made me chuckle. My parents are also divorced.   Truth is that you're far more likely to be a male version of your mother, whatever that might mean 

But honestly, we're not predetermined to be like our parents.  Some traits are probably unavoidable; others you can deliberately choose to use or discard.  And since all of us on this forum are reinventing ourselves in one way or another, I think you probably know exactly what I mean!

Pre-everything, not out to anyone, buuuut...

Mom: "When are you gonna grow your hair out? Don't you want boys to like you?"

*sigh*

She's much better about this now but before she said things like:

"Why can't you just be lesbian and not have to show it in public?"
"I've seen how they treated this transsexual woman at work, I don't want people staring at you or hurt you."

"You should really look at pfox and see the other side of things."
OH nooooo *facedesk*x10

"I use to speak highly of you son, I guess I can't do that anymore" my father

Just one of many quotes from both mom and dad :/

The ones that come to my mind right now are:

Mom:

"Why don't you be a strong girl?"

"You just want to be a boy but you're not like them"

(It's true that I am NOT like a TYPICAL boy but people just know about the binary...)

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Me: If this 'god'  (which I don't believe in) is supposed to be a perfect being then why was I born with a mistake? He shouldn't make mistakes since he's so excellent right?

Mom: How was he supposed to know that you would grow up and complain about it?

Dad:

"Girls don't gain muscles all that much"

(I was working out so hard at that time and it made me very furious and hurt me)

My mom was like that at the beginning. Maybe not so blunt, but she was very clear that I wouldn't be attractive as a male. She's certainly changed her tune now, and is slowly becoming proud of her third son. But it definitely did and does take time.

This is a good one.
Yesterday:

Mom: the reason why your like this is because your father wanted a boy.

Me: Well he has a boy, Three of them.

Mom: Why don't you just be a girl who dresses like a boy, and has boyfriends?

Me: Because I'm not a girl, and I'm into girls

Mom: Why don't you be a lesbian?

Me: Because as far as I know you have to be a girl to be lesbian. Which I am not.

Mom: (Furious) You just don't like girls so you hate yourself

Me: Well, they do have cooties.. Thank God I'm not a girl then, Right mom?

Mom: .....

When I told my father the first time he said that women are second class and asked why I wanted to be second class like them!! He said it was a privilege to be man and that I should be happy for it!!!

That was three years ago, now he is one of my biggest fans but that hurt a lot that day.

Wow. It makes me cringe to read some of these things. My mom said "It's not like I special ordered a girl...".

Mom: God doesn't make mistakes and I know what I had

Me :I never said God made a mistake infact I know he didn't I am trans for a reason.

I can only imagine what my parents will say. Not out yet.

I'm a little scared. Ugh. 

Quote from: nikkie on August 31, 2014, 03:21:57 PM
I can only imagine what my parents will say. Not out yet.

I'm a little scared. Ugh. 

You don't think they will accept you?

My father has been okay so far, but we haven't spoken in person. The worst thing he said was that he was "shocked." I was a little hurt, but it's not like he had said I was an abomination or something. He actually took it back later--voluntarily--and apologized.

Echoing Nikkie, I can "only imagine" what my mother will say when he tells her. I would kind of like to be a fly on the wall. And kind of not. I imagine that it would be like reading column after column of ignorant transphobic comments on those online news articles.

Quote from: Arch on August 31, 2014, 03:34:42 PM
My father has been okay so far, but we haven't spoken in person. The worst thing he said was that he was "shocked." I was a little hurt, but it's not like he had said I was an abomination or something. He actually took it back later--voluntarily--and apologized.

Echoing Nikkie, I can "only imagine" what my mother will say when he tells her. I would kind of like to be a fly on the wall. And kind of not. I imagine that it would be like reading column after column of ignorant transphobic comments on those online news articles.

My father is the more accepting one to, We were ordering chicken today and he said you might as well go head a change your name and I said I already am thats why everyone calls me Brandon and he said I meant legally although I m not sure if he was joking or not, Just like when we were at a party store and I got candy and the lady asked him if I was his son and he said yea.