Quote from: Owen on September 15, 2006, 08:51:36 PM
Secound I have to disagree somewhat on women are treated like s**t. Yes women sometimes get badly treated but men get treated badly and worse just as much if not more.
This is something that's very difficult to really understand until you live life as a woman for a while. It's very subtle for the most part, but it is there. It's men who are treating women that way. Are you saying women are treating men worse? It seems like they just do it to themselves.
Quote from: Owen on September 15, 2006, 08:51:36 PM
Also because I like the easyer lifestyle that women enjoy.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but living as a woman is hard work. Look at getting ready for instance. A man rolls out of be, showers quickly, combs through is hair and thows on some pants and a shirt. A woman gets out of be and showers. She shaves her armpits and legs if wearing something that shows leg. Then she gets out and has to pick out an outfit from her large assortment of clothes, then put it on and put her make up on. Then she has to do her hair so it looks good too. I will tell you as a woman, it easily takes me a half hour longer each day to get ready.
Then we have the amount of housework, shopping, etc while wearing uncomfortable shoes. A woman is constantly being judged by everyone and must act her best at all times. A man goes to work, does his job, comes home and eats, then does whatever he wants. The woman is always expected to be the responsible one ans show utmost courtesy most of the time and yet she is usually paid less to do the same job as a man. A woman has to eat less and still work harder to maintain a healthy looking weight or else you have no good clothes that fit and people treat you worse when you're fat. Then there's the added challenges of being TS. Honey, if you're looking for an "easier lifestyle", then staying as a man would be preferrable.
Now that all being said, I find many small moments in life are the ones that make it worth being female. Simple things like just having girl talk or wearing the right clothes or having somebody compliment you on an outfit. The courtesies that people offer to make it just a little easier. The smiles that women exchange with you just passing by. Just smebody calling you ma'am or referring to you as "she". The ability to play with other children without people thinking you're a pedophile. The ability to touch somebody without them assuming you're making sexual advances toward them. Having things paid for or somebody giving you a little "extra" all help contribute to making being a woman nice. I think women tend to have more freedoms (which you alluded to for your first reason), but I would hardly say an easier lifestyle.
Personally I transitioned for several reasons. I needed a female identity, I needed a female body, I needed the world to see me as female, I could not have any relationships as a man because I did not possess the instincts, I wanted female friends, etc. It was just right for me. My expectations of transition were fairly accurate. Life is at least as good as I imagined it, if not better. I will say none of my problems went away except 1 was reduced, and additional ones were created. The 1 that was reduced was how I felt about my gender. And you know what, so far it's been al worth it.
Whoops, little bit of a rant there.
Melissa
