Taka:
Quote from: Satinjoy on Yesterday at 04:31:29 pm
How do we live true to ourselves in the outside world, with no peer pressure influencing our choices. Is that not for the good of trans if there are no hindering circumstantial issues such as existing marrage and not turning it lesbian or gay?
oh well. while waiting for a mod to come by, i'll try to answer the original question.
we have offtracked a bit, out of concern for satinjoy, somehow ending up in a mess that none of us intended.
it would be good if we could learn something from this, rather than let it end what could become an interesting discussion.
i do not believe that trans is a cause. it is what we are, and within every minority, there are stronger and weaker individuals.
the cause is to create some place and acceptance for us all in this world. fighting for this cause should only be a voluntary choice.
not fighting for it, should be a choice that we all can understand. not fighting too hard for the sake of family, is an honorable choice.
living true to myself is difficult. peer pressure will never cease.
i'm not out as trans, it would only complicate matters which are in actuallity really simple.
instead, i present differently, on a quest to open minds to diversity.
i've gone through at least ten different hair colors. several different haircuts.
male clothing, female clothing, odd clothing. and unkempt presentation (some mornings i just can't find that hairbrush...)
people see me and judge me by my smile.
i look odd, but not ugly. most responses are "cool" or "refreshing".
many envy me this thing that they mistake as "courage".
in reality, i'm just too chicken to do anything more extreme quite yet.
i'm thinking, that changing slowly and carefully might be the better choice. people will get used to it, they expect something new any time.
letting them see the outside shange while the inside remains the same, will hopefully give them an opportunity to learn. to think twice, the next time they see womeone whom they might have judged by their looks at first glance.
but the most important thing i do to be true to myself, is to no longer fear slipping up once in a while.
i say weird things sometimes. things that sound off coming from what they perceive as a woman.
or what they think is a man. depends whether i'm online or offline.
i just let myself say things in the way that is natural for the me that is then and there.
i let myself be just a little more honest every day. to myself and to others.
in time, i will find the means to transition. it's difficult, because in my country, i'm not trans enough.
to me, the most important thing in being true to myself, has become to not give in to the system.
never believe how others say that things are supposed to be.
consider it, but find my own truth.
i will not pretend to be someone else to get a transition that i might not even want.
i will not lie in order to get closer to the one i want to present to the world.
lying would be defeat, the challenge is to live the truth that i know, resisting the tempation to take the easy way out.
